It’s easy to see how confidence and extroversion go hand in hand.
When someone has the guts to speak so comfortably to strangers, it makes others believe even more that extroverts are confident, while introverts are not.
But this isn’t always true; introverts can be confident too.
Being an introvert doesn’t automatically mean being shy; it’s a common misconception.
Introverts can be confident in who they are and what they have to say – that is, when they need to speak.
The truly confident introverts don’t waste their time on becoming an extrovert; they tend to focus more on becoming comfortable with themselves.
Here are 12 more things confident introverts avoid wasting their time on.
1. Copying What Extroverts Do
If someone is an introvert that wants to be more confident, you might think it’s as easy as copying what extroverts do.
So one might start opening up to strangers more and adopting new fashion styles to fit with the trends and be with the crowd.
But what tends to happen with that is that the introvert starts becoming someone they know they aren’t.
What makes confident introverts confident is that they are sure of themselves; they know who they are and, most especially, who they are not.
Copying extroverts is a waste of time for them because it’s not something they know they would do.
Instead, they might start leaning more towards the things they know they love, such as sharing their written works or art.
2. Letting Their Feelings Overcome Them
Since introverts tend to be more introspective, they tend to have a better grasp on their emotions than others.
This allows them to have the confidence to do something despite their feelings going against it.
If they’re afraid of speaking up, but they know that they’re passionate about doing the right thing, they’ll go for it.
Introverts might feel uncomfortable when they’re in a social situation, but they don’t allow their feelings to consume them.
They might regularly try to escape the situation, but being confident means they’ll stay.
3. Worrying About what Others Think of Them
Other people tend to feel awkward when they go out alone by themselves.
They might feel as if they’re broadcasting to the public that they’re lonely or have no friends, when in reality they do.
Confident introverts have close friends and family, but don’t think twice about going out in public alone.
One of the defining traits of an introvert is being comfortable with being alone.
That’s why confident introverts have no problem with asking for a table for one at a restaurant or buying a ticket for a movie screening.
They enjoy their own company and don’t waste time worrying about how others see them.
4. Remaining in Their Comfort Zone
While confident introverts may not always be the most outspoken individuals, if they’re given the chance, they would make the most out of it.
Even though, say, giving a toast at dinner, delivering a speech, or performing music onstage, is something they might not normally do in their daily lives, they understand that it’s an opportunity for them to grow as people.
Confident introverts aren’t the type to stay within the confines of their comfort zone for very long. They can always go out and try new things to grow as a person.
4. Setting Small Goals
They’re confident for a reason. If they’re musicians, they aren’t the type to settle for just a record deal and some album sales.
They shoot for the moon: they imagine themselves winning the Grammy.
Others might already say that they’re a success already because they’re confident in who they are and they know themselves well.
Confident introverts don’t set a ceiling on what they can achieve.
They do this by understanding the big picture and then setting smalls over a period of time to achieve that picture.
This allows them to keep going and avoid being stuck in a rut.
I learned about this from Life Journal, created by the highly-successful life coach and teacher Jeanette Brown.
You see, willpower only takes us so far…the key to transforming your life into something you’re passionate and enthusiastic about takes a shift in mindset about what your real purpose is, and effective goal setting.
And while this might sound like a mighty task to undertake, thanks to Jeanette’s guidance, it’s been easier to do than I could have ever imagined.
Now, you may wonder what makes Jeanette’s course different from all the other personal development programs out there.
It all comes down to one thing:
Jeanette isn’t interested in being your life coach.
Instead, she wants YOU to take the reins in creating the life you’ve always dreamt of having.
So if you’re ready to stop dreaming and start living your best life, a life created on your terms, one which fulfills and satisfies you, don’t hesitate to check out Life Journal.
5. Forcing Themselves to be Someone They Aren’t
When they’re in a social setting, they might feel pressure from those around them to act in a certain way. Maybe they see that others tell jokes, so they try it – even if they’re bad at it.
They might try to act as if they love the hip-hop music that’s playing, despite not knowing a single rapper.
Confident introverts aren’t shy to stand out from the crowd.
They don’t try to mold themselves into people they know they aren’t.
They might even be more comfortable with themselves than some extroverts.
6. Taking Things Too Seriously
For other introverts, being by themselves in public could feel like an anxiety-ridden situation.
They might be too lost since they barely know anyone there.
They might panic and see the world crumble beneath their feet.
But a confident introvert might not actually see this situation as something to worry about.
It might instead be something to laugh about.
Confident introverts tend to not take situations very seriously.
They have a sense of humor about themselves, so they’re able to laugh off awkward situations such as a weird handshake or a small miscommunication.
They can laugh it off because they can learn from it. It isn’t something that’ll kill them, but instead make them stronger.
7. Thinking They’re Experts at Something
Confident introverts tend to enjoy learning.
But they don’t fall for a common mistake for most learners.
When someone begins to learn something, and they learn more and more, they might mistake their rapid progress with expertise.
They become overconfident, when really their skill level still isn’t that high.
Psychologists call this the Duning-Kruger effect.
Confident introverts aren’t overconfident introverts.
They know their intellectual limit for something and are always open to learning more to become better at something.
8. Looking for External Validation
Confident introverts aren’t the type to do something just to please others.
They don’t buy trendy clothes just to fish for compliments and let others tell them how stylish or nice they are.
They wear what they want to wear because they want to be comfortable or because they simply like it.
They aren’t looking to please others.
9. Joining Drama and Spreading Gossip
Others tend to spread the news about what they heard through the grapevine because they have nothing much else to focus on in their lives.
They rely on two of their friends fighting to keep them entertained in a way.
Or they’re always looking for couples who are about to break up and get nosy about what they think might happen next.
Confident introverts don’t waste their time with these shallow matters.
They tend to favor focusing their energies on doing things that are important to them, such as caring for themselves or devoting time to their hobbies.
Joining drama won’t solve any of their problems; it might just create new stresses.
10. Ignoring Their Emotions
Since introverts tend to spend most of their time in their own minds, their mental health is very important.
While other people look for things to distract them from feeling sad or regretful, such as alcohol or art, confident introverts are able to confront their emotions.
Research has shown that those that bottle up, ignore, and avoid properly expressing them increase their chances of getting diagnosed with cancer or even a premature death.
So when confident introverts feel sad, they might try to feel it as much as they can, let it pass, then let it go.
11. Being with Others
Introverts tend to do their best thinking when they’re alone.
If there’s something important they have to do, they aren’t going to hang around people just so that they don’t miss out on anything (which they really aren’t).
They don’t try to join group discussions if they know that what they really need is space and quiet.
So they go off into their own corner and try to come up with better solutions and answers to the problem the group is tackling.
They don’t mind if people call them weird or different. They know what they’re doing.
12. Spending Too Much on Material Things
Since confident introverts are more introspective and understand themselves more, they tend to be more aware of what is essential in life.
For some people, money is the center of their universe.
But for confident introverts, it might be something else; they don’t waste their time hustling for something that doesn’t ultimately matter for them.
An example might be that it’s about spending time with friends.
It doesn’t matter how expensive or cheap their clothes are, or how fancy their restaurant is.
As long as they get the chance to share some good laughs with their friends, talk about shared memories and make new ones together, they would be content.
Becoming a Confident Introvert
Like all things worthwhile, it’s going to take time to become more confident as an introvert.
You can’t expect yourself to become an entirely different person, one that’s stronger, braver, and more sure of themselves, tomorrow. It takes time and consistent effort.
But if you want to become more confident, then the key is to overcome your feelings of insecurity.
So how can you overcome this insecurity that’s been nagging you?
The most effective way is to tap into your personal power.
You see, we all have an incredible amount of power and potential within us, but most of us never tap into it. We become bogged down in self-doubt and limiting beliefs. We stop doing what brings us true happiness.
I learned this from the shaman Rudá Iandê. He’s helped thousands of people align work, family, spirituality, and love so they can unlock the door to their personal power.
He has a unique approach that combines traditional ancient shamanic techniques with a modern-day twist. It’s an approach that uses nothing but your own inner strength – no gimmicks or fake claims of empowerment.
Because true empowerment needs to come from within.
In his excellent free video, Rudá explains how you can create the life you’ve always dreamed of and increase attraction in your partners, and it’s easier than you might think.
So if you’re tired of living in frustration, dreaming but never achieving, and of living in self-doubt, you need to check out his life-changing advice.
Click here to watch the free video.
Putting yourself first
Hey, Lachlan from Hack Spirit here.
What’s your number one goal at the moment?
Is it to buy that car you’ve been saving up for?
To finally start that side-hustle that’ll hopefully help you quit your 9-5 one day?
Or to take the leap and finally ask your partner to move in?
Whatever it is, you’re not going to get there, unless you’ve got a plan.
And even then…plans fail.
But I didn’t write this to you to be the voice of doom and gloom…
No, I’m writing this because I want to help you achieve the goals you’ve set.
I’ve recently been taking part in a workshop called Life Journal created by teacher and career coach Jeanette Brown.
Covering all the basics and more on what’s needed to reach your goals, Jeannette tackles everything from creating habits and new behavior patterns to putting your plans into action.
She doesn’t mess around – this workshop will require effort on your part but that’s the beauty of it – Jeanette has carefully designed it to put YOU in the driving seat of your life.
So…think back to that important goal I asked about at the start of this message.
How much do you want it?
Are you willing to put the effort in to get there?
If so, check out the workshop here.
If you do take part, I’d love to hear how your Life Journey goes!
All the best,
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