Are you a complainer? Do you sometimes feel like anything you do can be complained about? Complaining feels good, like how smoking and eating chocolate feel good. It lets us vent our negativity. Although we know it’s not necessarily good for us but we do it anyway as a guilty pleasure.
Researchers have found that not only does complaining express our negativity, it rewires the brain to focus more on negative ideas. Is this a good thing? Not if you want to be a grumpy old lady that nobody likes.
The neurons in your brain start branching out to each other when behaviors have been repeated. So the more you complain the more likely it becomes easier to complain, and you won’t even realize you’re doing it.
Soon enough complaining will become your default behavior, making the bonds between the neurons more permanent. As scientists often say, “Neurons that fire together, wire together”.
Complaining also rewires other areas of your brain
It doesn’t stop there however, complaining also affects other areas of your brain. Researchers from Stanford University have even proven that complaining damages the hippocampus – the area of your brain that is essential for problem solving. It is also the area that with enough damage, is the result of Alzheimer’s Disease.
So we’ve talked about the effects on the brain – now let’s look at the types of chemicals your body releases when complaining. Cortisol, the stress hormone is triggered into your body when you start complaining. The effects of cortisol are to direct oxygen, blood and energy away from everything but the systems that are essential for survival, this is the same as when you are in flight or fight mode.
There are also many side effects of frequent cortisol release to the body – firstly it weakens your immunity and makes your body more susceptible to diabetes, heart disease and high cholesterol.
How To Stop Complaining
Now that we’ve taken a quick look at the damaging effects of complaining, let’s take a look at some solutions to help you get rid of that complain bug out of your system. Firstly, and simply, if the urge to complain appears, quickly shift your focus on something that you’re grateful for.
This immediately lowers the cortisol hormone levels and lifts your mood and positive energy. If there is absolutely a need to complain, make sure you have a clear purpose and try and solve the issue by incorporating positive solutions to it. You don’t want to focus your energy on things you can’t fix, right?
One more strategy: The dollar game.
Every time you complain to your friends, you must gave them a dollar and the same applies to them. Nothing quite rewires your brain than the thought of losing money 🙂
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