Kiran Athar
Classy people are often admired for their grace, poise, and impeccable demeanor.
They exude a charm that sets them apart from the crowd. But did you know that this classiness is not just confined to their physical appearance but extends to their thoughts, behavior, and energy management as well?
That’s right, classy people are choosy about what they give their time and attention to!
So, without further ado, here are the 15 things on which classy people never waste their energy:
1) Gossiping
Talking about other people doesn’t appeal to classy people.
They live by the motto:
“Surround yourself with people that talk about visions and ideas, not other people.”
You see, classy people stay well away from this type of chatter. They know that it does nothing but breed negativity and conflict.
They prefer to talk about constructive things instead! And part of that is because they also never waste their energy on:
2) Negativity
That’s right. Try to be a Debbie Downer around a classy person and watch how quickly they vacate the building!
They don’t spend more time than necessary dwelling on the dark side of life because they know it’s pointless.
It drains energy and that’s why they avoid it like the plague. Now, it’s not that they are positive 100% of the time – they’re not.
That can also be a drain on energy levels (ever heard of toxic positivity?).
If anything, classy people just keep it real.
3) Criticism
There are two types of bosses in the world – those who dish out criticism and leave their employees feeling miserable, and those who use constructive feedback instead.
If you’ve ever experienced the latter, you were probably in the company of a very classy person.
You see, they don’t see the need to put people down unnecessarily. Classy people would much rather help you improve at your job and see you succeed.
In other words, they aren’t in the business of putting people down.
4) Holding grudges
Have you ever wondered why classy people never seem bitter?
That’s mainly down to the fact that they are big believers in moving on and letting go of resentment and grudges.
Why?
Well, holding hatred in your heart takes a LOT of energy. It’s actually more time-consuming and draining than forgiving and moving on.
And classy people certainly don’t want to spend their time or energy on negativity, as we mentioned before!
5) Comparing themselves with others
“Comparison is the thief of joy” – Theodore Roosevelt.
But not only does comparison rob us of happiness – it’s highly distracting.
That’s why classy people avoid it altogether.
They know that to succeed in life, they need to focus on their own actions and progress, and not waste valuable energy by looking at what other people are doing!
6) Pleasing others
Classy people know that you can’t please everyone. If you try to, you’ll quickly end up neglecting your own happiness. And people still won’t be happy.
So, they do what makes them happy instead.
They say what they think, they put healthy boundaries in place, and they aren’t afraid of the word “no”.
After all, running around trying to please your mom, her best friend, and the milkman is pretty time-consuming. It’s also a big drain on your emotions and energy levels!
7) Living in regret
We’ve all got regrets. But some of us sit and dwell in them, whilst others learn from them and move on.
If you fall into the first category, you’ll know how tiring it can be to constantly live in the past.
That’s why classy people don’t waste their energy on it. They know they can’t turn back the clock and do things differently, so they choose to see it as a life lesson.
Treating their regrets this way helps them learn and do better in the future.
8) Procrastination
Ah, procrastination. Who isn’t guilty of doing this from time to time?
Look, even classy people can accidentally find themselves staring off into space when they should be working. But they don’t stay in that state for long.
They want to get things done. They don’t want to spend more time than necessary on boring tasks, so they find their inner motivation and plow through.
But that’s not all – classy people also know the importance of time management. That’s why they don’t spend energy on procrastination; they’re too busy channeling it into the task at hand!
9) Perfectionism
You might look at classy people and think they are perfect.
After all, they seem to glide through life seamlessly while the rest of us are out here tripping over our shoes.
But in reality, there’s no such thing as “perfect”. There’s no perfect person. No perfect job. No perfect relationship.
And classy people understand that, so they don’t bother wasting their time or energy on it!
If anything, they aim for fulfillment. They have high standards, but they know mistakes are inevitable and “perfection” isn’t the goal.
10) Chasing approval
Here’s something else that classy people never waste energy on – seeking validation from others.
They believe in their abilities so much that the opinions of others aren’t relevant (unless it’s for constructive feedback).
So, how do classy people get to be this confident?
Well, it comes from years spent honing their skills, getting out of their comfort zones, and building up their self-esteem.
It doesn’t happen overnight, but it’s well worth investing the time into!
11) Drama
Now, just like gossiping, classy folk stay well away from drama.
Let’s be honest, people kicking off or looking for fights don’t scream elegance. Or maturity.
And classy people know that “you’re the company you keep”.
That’s why they surround themselves with mature, level-headed, and positive people.
12) Living in the past or the future
Earlier, I mentioned that classy people don’t waste their energy on regrets, and this is similar.
They don’t dwell on the past, but they also don’t live in a constant dream of the future.
They stay present.
And it makes sense. If you’re always thinking about what could have been or what will happen, you’re losing a lot of energy.
This is valuable energy that could be spent doing things right now and enjoying life!
13) Impressing others
We’ve all been there at one point or another; applying for a job, on a first date, or meeting our in-laws. It’s human nature to want to impress, to a degree.
But classy people don’t bother with it. Why?
Don’t they care about what others think?
Truthfully, not really. They don’t want to give off a bad impression, but equally, they don’t feel the need to pander to other people or change themselves to fit in.
Just by being classy and elegant in their appearance and manners, they let their actions speak for themselves.
And if someone doesn’t like them?
So be it! Remember – they aren’t people pleasers.
14) Arguing over small things
Another thing you might notice about classy people is that they never waste their time arguing over petty issues.
When someone cuts them off in traffic, they gracefully move on.
If someone bumps them with their trolley while shopping, they wouldn’t dream of starting a fight in the cereal aisle.
That’s because classy people focus on the big picture.
They don’t want to get bogged down by silly arguments or disagreements. They’re too busy focussing on building their own little empire of happiness to spend time on pointless conflicts.
15) Trying to control everything
And finally, classy people never waste time on is constantly trying to be in control.
Whether it’s at work or in their relationships, they are wise enough to see that most things aren’t in their control.
The best any of us can do is make good decisions and react responsibly and maturely to setbacks.
So, forget seeing a classy person micro-manage.
They gracefully accept what they can’t change and instead, throw their energy into the things they can!
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