10 things classy people never do (so you shouldn’t either!)

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Class is more than just dining in lavish restaurants, or wearing designer outfits; anyone can do that.

Classy is something that simply can’t be bought; it’s something someone has to truly embody.

Class is about their behavior and how they carry themselves.

While there are many things that classy people do – such as showing others respect as well as being confident in themselves – there are as many things they never do. 

Often, it’s simply avoiding certain behaviors and habits that elevate a person’s personality and catches the attention of others– like a shiny diamond.

Below are 10 things that classy people never do

1. Think They’re Better than Others

When some people reach a certain level of wealth, their egos tend to inflate as well.

They might be denied at a restaurant because there are genuinely no tables left then pull out the “Do you know who I am?” card on the waiter just doing their job.

But truly classy people aren’t like that.

Even if a classy person earns large amounts of money or drives expensive cars, they would still be someone who welcomes anyone, regardless of social status.

They aren’t the type to think that they’re “too important” to greet waiters or doormen.

They understand that the universe does not revolve around them.

They don’t use their background as leverage to get what they want.

2. Talk More Than Listen

Some people love talking because they’re trying to prove themselves to the people around them.

But the truth is, the more confident and self-assured someone is the less likely they feel like they have to prove themselves.

Classy people don’t try to dominate the conversation or steer the conversation in a particular direction, because they’re comfortable going with the flow.

They value listening to other people because they see it as an opportunity to learn.

3. Compare Themselves to Others

Don’t get me wrong. Most classy people do have people they look up to and want to emulate—maybe Michelle Obama, maybe Natalie Portman, maybe Amal Clooney.

But what they do not do is compare themselves to other mortals and feel bad about themselves for not having the same X or Y.

A classy person would not spend a single second thinking about this because to her mind, we should aim higher. They also know we all have different paths and different timelines.

They will admire others but never get envious of them.

4. Interrupt Others While They’re Speaking

When the other person is sharing their opinions, a classy person won’t interrupt them. They don’t sit quietly just waiting to reply either.

A classy person listens deeply, leans in to show they’re interested in the conversation, and makes eye contact to reassure the person that they’re listening.

Only once the person is finished talking do they respond with their own opinions.

Classy people also aren’t the type to have their phone in their hand or on the table while talking to someone.

They don’t look around past the person they’re talking to.

When a classy person is talking to someone, they give that person their full attention; it’s as if the person they’re talking to is the most important person in the world.

5. Waste Time on Gossip

Classy people value their time and mental health. After all, they know they’re meant to be great and that means they’re supposed to be spending their time doing important things!

They know very well that gossip does not contribute anything to their professional or personal lives, or to humanity as a whole. If anything, it can do more harm than good. Gossip affects the way we think and deal with people.

Sure, classy people will nod and smile when people gossip because they don’t want to be rude, but they will probably change the topic to something more important or find a way to excuse themselves.

6. Lose Their Temper Often

If a waiter gets their order wrong, they wouldn’t call the manager to help scold the waiter.

A classy person knows that the waiter might have just made an honest mistake.

If they’re having problems with something they bought, they aren’t the type to get angry at the customer service employee.

These people are only doing their jobs, and kind people know this.

When things don’t go their way, sure they might still get disappointed, but they wouldn’t act out in a fit of rage.

They remain calm and ask for help when they need it.

7. Play Games with People

When other people want something, they might subtly manipulate others to give it to them.

If they need help, they might guilt-trip people, saying that everyone else might have been willing to help.

But if a classy person wants something, they try to make it as clear as possible.

They know that, by being clear, it lessens confusion as well as builds trust with others.

8. Forget Their Manners

If you get the chance to go out to dinner with a classy person, watch how they prepare themselves to eat.

When they talk to the waiter, they talk to them not like some servant.

They speak to them conversationally, like a friend; they might even use their first name while ordering their meal.

They always remember to say “Please,” and “Thank You” to them as well.

When they’re ready to dine, they place the napkin on their lap and sit up straight.

Although they might be hungry, they still won’t be one to gorge on their food as if they’re starving.

And when you speak, you’ll see they never put their elbows on the table.

They behave this way in any restaurant they visit, regardless of how fancy it is.

9. Try to Change What’s Out of Their Control

“For after all,” the American poet Henry Wadsworth Longfellow wrote, “the best thing one can do when it is raining, is to let it rain.”

There are many things in life beyond our control that cause stress and frustration.

The traffic jam on the way to work.

The rainy weather on a special day. How others treat us.

The foolish think they can change these things to what they desire.

The wise know that’s impossible.

They understand that there are things in life that are within our control – our patience and humility – and beyond our control.

Focusing on what they can control is what makes the wise so effective in their lives and work.

10. Try to be Someone They Aren’t

Often, society can sway people to become someone they aren’t just because it’s a personality that’s trendy.

If the typical “bad boy/girl” trend becomes trendy, they aren’t going to join the crowds of people changing their image just to not appear like an outsider.

In fact, a classy person doesn’t follow anyone else’s style completely but theirs.

Sure, she may take inspiration from powerful people like Oprah or Anna Wintour, but for the most part, they have their own identities. 

You can tell them apart from a crowd of people because they don’t choose to dress the way they dress, or speak the way they speak just because it’s what’s popular right now.


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Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the founder, and editor of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 15 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. Check out my latest book on the Hidden Secrets of Buddhism and How it Saved My Life. If you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Facebook or Twitter.

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