Ava Sinclair
There are some men who somehow manage to be memorable—in a good way.
They’re classy, sure, but they’re more than that too. They somehow make us feel safe and at ease. But how?
Well, in this article I’ll tell you about 10 subtle behaviors that these classy men have, and how they set them apart from the average guy.
1) They remember the things you said
They genuinely care for the people they meet, and want them to feel special.
That’s why when they talk to you, they make sure to remember not just your name, but also the many little things you’ve said about yourself.
If you said that your name is Alice and that you’re an artist, for example, they might ask you if you’ve ever had your works shown in a gallery or crack a joke about you might be known as “Alice, painter of cats.”
And by doing that, they create a lasting impression.
Even if you never meet them again, you’ll always remember them as that person who actually bothered to listen to you and make you feel heard.
Especially in this world where most men honestly just pretend to be interested.
2) They’re curious but not intrusive
They want to know more about you, but they never make you feel like you’re being interrogated.
And they’re sensitive enough to avoid asking questions that you don’t want to hear
They might be curious about why you’re single, for example, but they’re not just going to shower you with questions like: “Why? How many men have you dated then?” and “Are you sure you’re not just saying that because you haven’t found the one?”
Instead, they’ll ask questions on the things they feel you’re comfortable with.
That’s because classy men are socially intelligent.
Show them something you sketched, and they’ll go “oh, what techniques did you use?” and “what other mediums do you do?” and “have you ever held an exhibit?”
3) They ask for your permission
Even if the favor they ask is so small—say, they want you to watch their stuff for a minute as they get something from the car—they’d ask “Is it alright?”
There are a lot of men out there who believe that they should just take whatever they want and do whatever they want because it’s “manly”.
And that asking first is a sign of weakness.
And unfortunately, there are way too many of them!
But genuinely classy men understand that it’s incredibly important to ask for permission.
And crucially, when they ask for permission, they will gracefully respect your decision should you tell them “no” instead of trying to argue with you and convince you to say “yes” instead.
In a world full of men who think they’re entitled to everything they want simply because they’re men, the ones who care enough to ask first make a strong impression.
4) They are aware of their body language
They might not be wearing an Armani or have a brand-new Rolex on their wrist, but the way they carry themselves shrouds them in more than enough class anyways.
They make sure they don’t slouch, hold their body closed, or frown.
Not to appear poised per se, but because they want to be more approachable.
So they do their best to stand straight, maintain an open stance, and to have a smile on their lips at all times.
A large part of how you subconsciously perceive people is based on their body language. By doing this, they present themselves as confident, calm, and classy… yet unintimidating.
5) They give you their undivided attention
Classy men will do their best to make sure they’re giving you their undivided attention.
They’re not going to be glued to their phone or let their eyes wander to random people in the background when you’re trying to talk to them.
And if, say, you’re staying with them as a guest for a night or two, they’re going to try and start a conversation with you or at least make sure you’re comfortable before they start doing their own thing.
As I said before, people like it when people make them feel seen and heard, and by giving you their undivided attention, they’re doing exactly that.
And that’s one of the reasons why they have a lasting positive impression on every person they meet.
6) They don’t rush
It doesn’t matter if they’re just a regular guy or if they’re the CEO of a Fortune 500 company. You never feel like you have to rush or hurry when you’re spending time with them.
They don’t obsessively check their watch or pressure you to talk faster or to move on to the next topic.
They will never cut you off mid-sentence unless it’s something that truly deserves it, like a family emergency of some sort.
Their time might be worth a lot, but when you’re with a classy man, it will feel like they have all the time in the world for you.
7) They’re the first to lend a helping hand
A lot of men think that “manliness” is about being tough, and “logical.” And that anger is the only acceptable “manly” emotion.
Those men are memorable, but definitely NOT in a good way!
But the men we remember for the right reasons—those we remember for being classy and pleasant—believe otherwise.
Manliness, to them, is about making people feel safe and at ease around them. And of course, beyond that, it’s all about doing what they can to make people’s lives easier.
They’re the kind of person who would happily help a family friend pay off their student debt, donate to charity, and speak up when they see injustice happen.
They live on the idea that the best thing anyone can ever do is “be kind.”
8) They can laugh at themselves
They don’t get defensive when they mess up in front of people, or bite and hiss when people point out a mistake they made a while back.
If anything, they’re probably going to be the first person to poke fun at themselves.
There are several reasons why they can afford to laugh at themselves.
One of them is the fact that they’re aware of their shortcomings and have made peace with them. Telling them about their failures will have them saying “tell me something I don’t know” at worst.
Another is that they’re confident and self-assured. Their sense of self is not so fragile that a single failure is enough to ruin their day.
To a classy man, everyone fails, after all.
9) They value what others think
They don’t act like they know it all.
They’re humble enough to acknowledge that they don’t know everything, that they can be wrong, and that they should not assume.
Because of that, they always make it a point to ask and to listen to what people have to say.
They won’t assume everyone’s orders just because they’re the one paying; they’ll ask the people they’re with what they want.
And when they make a mistake and accidentally get people mad at them, they’re not going to dig their heels in and double down or “ask” only to waste people’s time by arguing with them for several hours straight.
Instead, they’ll sit down, listen, and ask people to clarify things they struggle to understand instead.
In a world where most people cling to their ego, every person who doesn’t have their head up their behind is memorable.
10) They say nice things about others
It’s rare to find people who never talk negatively about others.
That’s why when you meet classy men—ones who can say nice things about others and actually mean it—you will remember them.
Even if you end up not seeing them again and end up forgetting their name and their face, the impression they made on you will remain.
They’ll have you asking yourself things like “How can he say good things about everyone he’s met?” and “how can he be so generous with praise?”
It’s quite simple.
Some men have just become an expert at finding the good things instead of the bad.
Final thoughts
You would think that what I’ve described here are all basic traits you can find in any decent human being—and you wouldn’t be entirely wrong.
But the problem is that men who have all or most of these traits are unfortunately hard to find.
It does not help that many men have convinced themselves that being “manly” is about being the exact opposite of the behaviors I had just described.
And so, if you think about it, that only makes the men who actually do all these things that much rarer and more precious.
So if you have a man who ticks all these boxes in your life—be they a colleague, lover, or a friend—keep them in your life!
