8 brutal reasons why you’re bored with life and 6 ways you can change it

We live in a world of never-ending entertainment. At any hour of the day, in any city on earth, you can find something to do.

So why are you sitting on the couch like a lump of coal wondering why life is passing you by?

Being bored with life is a hard pill to swallow and many people don’t know what to do with themselves when they are given a few moments of peace.

With so much technology and instant gratification at our fingertips, it’s a wonder that anyone could be bored, but it does happen and it’s really difficult for some people to process.

If you are chronically bored, you might need to consider why that is happening. It’s certainly not a lack of opportunity.

Here are 8 brutal reasons why you’re bored with life:

1) You keep turning down invitations to go out.

Despite staring boredom in the face, you continue to turn town perfectly good opportunities to go out and hang with people. What’s up with that?

If you don’t have anything better to do, why aren’t you going to hang out with your friends?

If you don’t see your friends at least once in a while, when you go looking for them one day, they might not be there.

People don’t wait around like they used to and there’s a lot more fake friends. There’s a whole wide world out there and if you aren’t in it, you are going to remain in a state of chronic boredom forever.

2) You think changing out of your yoga pants is too much work.

Let’s face it, yoga pants changed the landscape of being a homebody. It’s just too easy to slip those suckers on and live in them for days and days.

Some people have even tried to get away with wearing them to work and companies are starting to make dress pants out of the same fabric so more people can be comfortable.

But come on, life isn’t all about comfort. It’s also a lot about having fun and if you are living at home in the same sweat pants you’ve been wearing for days, you might need a life makeover.

Change into a pair of jeans, something that will give your ass some shape and get out in the world.

3) You’re not making an effort to meet people.

You can’t complain about never having anything new to do if you aren’t making an effort to get out and meet new people.

If you are sitting at the same bar with the same 4 friends every Friday night just staring at your phones like is going to continue to suck.

You might even be bored when you are with people because you are with the wrong people.

Consider adding new friends to your circle and shake things up a bit. Otherwise, you’ll be forever bored with your life.

4) You feel terrible and you look even worse.

If you’ve let yourself go and feel like buying bigger pants is too much effort, you are going to be in for a rude awakening.

We often like to play the victims in our own lives and letting ourselves go, making ourselves sick with food and drink is an easy way to allow yourself to hide from the world.

It perpetuates a chronic cycle of regret and fear.

You fear being seen like that and you regret feeling like that and so you just keep eating or do whatever it is you have chosen to dull your life with and things don’t get better.

5) You aren’t taking any actions.

You know the saying, “you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take”?

Well, it’s true. If you aren’t doing anything to change your life, how on earth do you expect it to change?

You are not alone in thinking that hope and prayer will bring about new entertainment and options into your life.

Many people are sitting on their hands waiting for the right time to make a move. But the time is never right and boredom will continue to fester.

Things don’t get better unless you make them better.

6) You think you are better than people.

You might not even realize it, but you might be avoiding people and places and things because, in some way, you think you don’t need them to be happy.

If you look at a certain group of people or events and think you don’t need that to be happy, you might come to find that you are wrong.

It’s hard to turn the mirror on yourself and acknowledge that you’ve created this life for yourself; after all, who would want to be bored and lonely all the time? But it does happen.

We think that if we continue to play the victim, someone will save us. Life, unfortunately, doesn’t work like that.

7) You aren’t willing to do things alone.

If you have to wait on someone else to entertain you in order to go out for dinner, see a show, or even take a walk in the park, you might be waiting a long time.

You need to get used to doing things alone in order to take responsibility for your life and frankly, to enjoy your own company.

If you can’t be happy alone, how do you expect others to make you happy?

This is a classic case of not knowing what you want in life and relying on others to give it to you.

That’s a slippery slope because you will turn to others to provide structure, joy, and even advice in your own life.

8) You might actually enjoy being bored.

Have you ever stopped to think that you are bored because you want to be bored? Humans do some sick and twisted things to themselves to stay miserable.

Have you looked deep in your thoughts to see if you really want to just be a bump on a log or do you truly want to get out there and have some fun?

If we stay stuck and are the victims in our own lives, we don’t need to change.

It’s everyone else’s fault, right? Be sure to do a little soul searching the next time you complain about not having anything to do. You might be doing it to yourself.

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Do you look at your life and think, “what have I done?” Do you wonder what’s out there just waiting for your attention?

Do you, more often than not, find yourself just slumping back into the couch for another movie marathon Friday night?

It’s time for a change.

If life has got you down, you might consider ways to breathe some new life into your routines.

Life is anything but boring and if you think it is, you are doing it wrong. You’ve only got this one life to live so get out there and make the most of it!

Here’s what to do when you’re bored and start having an amazing life!

1) Try one new thing each week.

If you are on the fence about trying new things, start small. But start.

Don’t keep doing the same old things and expect life to change. You need to shake things up to make life interesting.

If you hide away from the world, you’ll miss out on all that is bright and beautiful and wonderful.

Start by trying one new thing each week. Set a date and time and get to it.

Whether you decide to try new food, visit a different museum, drive to another town, or read a different genre of books than you normally read, little changes can add up to one heck of an exciting life.

2) Strike up a conversation with a stranger.

One of the best ways to add some adventure to your life is to talk to strangers.

Find someone who is sitting alone in a coffee shop or at a restaurant and introduce yourself, ask if you can join them, and talk to them.

It might feel strange at first, but that’s okay. It’s supposed to.

The whole point is to make yourself feel different things than you normally do.

Talking to other people helps you understand more about the world, learn new things, and of course, make new friends.

3) Write down the good things that happened to you.

Gratitude can go a long way in helping you see that life is not so boring after all.

We tend to take the good things for granted and don’t focus enough on what’s going well.

We do focus, however, on a lot of little negative things and blow them way out of proportion.

Get into the habit of writing down positive things in your life and you’ll soon find that more positive things come your way.

Or, as is usually the case, it’s not that more positive things come, it’s that you find more things to be positive about. What a concept!

4) Take up a new exercise routine.

If you really want to shake things up in life, physically shake them up with a new exercise routine or workout.

If you aren’t doing any physical activity at all, start. Start with just a walk around the block.

It’s fun to think of yourself as someone who exercises and takes care of themselves, but the work of actually doing that is sometimes overwhelming.

Being bored is a great trigger for exercise because once you get into the routine of it, you’ll find all kinds of other ways to keep moving and having fun.

You might take up hiking or rock climbing, skiing or swimming. Life is anything but boring when you are on the move. And as an added bonus, you’ll feel great!

5) Date more.

Get out there and start flirting. The more people you meet, the more you’ll have fun.

You don’t have to date every single person you meet, but dating more frequently certainly gives your boredom a run for its money and keeps your calendar full.

If you aren’t doing anything else anyway, why not go out and meet new people who might turn into potential relationships.

You never know where that kind of thing can lead, but if you don’t change your ways, you can bank on it not changing at all.

There’s a great quote from a movie called, The Wedding Date (2005) that says, “women have exactly the kind of love life they want.”

Which means if your love life is boring, it’s because you want it to be boring.

6) Find out more about yourself.

If you are tired of living a boring life, but don’t particularly like the company of other people and aren’t interested in dating right now, you might want to spend some time getting to know yourself in a more deeper and meaningful way.

You can take a class, start a reflective practice, read self-help books, take a road trip by yourself, go on a singles cruise, find a library and go there to listen to quiet music and relax and think about how you want your life to look.

Get to know your emotions. If you’re angry and you want to let it go, ask yourself, why am I angry?

Take up journalling or channel your thoughts into drawings or paintings. You don’t have to rely on other people to help you live an interesting life

if you are willing to go out there and live on one your own!

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Lachlan Brown

Written by Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the founder, and editor of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 6 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. If you to want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter or Facebook.

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