We’ve all heard the terms “introvert” and “extrovert” to describe people’s personalities. But did you know that there is a third type of personality that is often overlooked?
Ambiverts fall somewhere in between, they have both introverted and extroverted qualities.
If you think you might be an ambivert, keep reading to discover the 15 signs that you have a balanced personality.
1) You’re happy to be alone or surrounded by people
So, introverts like a calm and quiet atmosphere. That’s why they’re most comfortable being alone or spending one-on-one time with their friends.
Extroverts on the other hand need something to be “happening” all the time. They don’t really feel comfortable when things get too quiet. They need lots of people and stimulation around them.
As for you, you can identify with both introverts and extroverts. You enjoy spending time alone, but you also enjoy socializing with others, it all depends on your mood that day – and that’s a sign of a balanced personality.
2) You need some time to yourself after intense socializing
Another sign that you’re an ambivert is that you find yourself feeling drained after intense socializing.
Let me explain.
You can be really talkative and outgoing at times, you even enjoy being the life of the party.
But after being around people for too long, you need some alone time to recharge your batteries. Unlike an extrovert, you can’t take being surrounded by people 24/7.
Sound familiar? It does to me, I’m definitely an ambivert.
3) You’re a good listener…
But you also feel the need to express your own thoughts and opinions, and that’s what makes you an ambivert.
You see, introverts are more about absorbing information and listening to what others have to say. They tend to keep their opinions to themselves.
But when you need someone to really listen to your problems, introverts are the way to go.
Extroverts sometimes have a hard time listening, so don’t be surprised if you start to talk about your problems and they end up turning the conversation to them.
4) You can adapt to different social situations
For example, you’re comfortable throwing on an old pair of jeans and hanging out at the local pub with your friends.
But you also know how to clean up pretty well and fit in at a fancy event like a charity ball.
And while you may prefer a certain type of setting, you don’t feel out of place or uncomfortable being anywhere else.
5) You have a small group of close friends
Unlike the extrovert, you don’t have the need to have hundreds of friends or thousands of followers on social media.
You prefer to have more intimate relationships.
That’s why you have a small group of really close friends who you care about, and who care about you.
Wait, there’s more!
Now, just because you have your small group of friends doesn’t mean that you don’t enjoy meeting new people and making connections.
The truth is that you find it stimulating and refreshing to meet new people, especially when they’re different from you.
6) You’re often seen as approachable and friendly
Let’s get one thing straight, while you may be friendly and easygoing, you’re certainly no pushover.
You have a strong sense of boundaries and you’re not afraid to say “no”.
7) You’re able to read social cues and adjust your behavior accordingly
There’s no danger of you being socially awkward. You can read the room, you know how to behave.
That being said, you don’t feel like you need to change who you are and conform to social norms to please others. You’re 100% comfortable being yourself.
An introvert may find themself shy or scared of being judged, and an extrovert feels the need to be liked.
But you’re able to fit in without compromising your sense of self.
8) You have a wide range of interests and hobbies
Like the introvert, you like to read books, meditate, and take long walks in nature.
And like the extrovert, you like to play group sports and trivia night at the pub.
Because you’re a balanced personality, you enjoy a wide variety of interests which include both social and solitary activities.
In other words, you get the best of both worlds.
9) You enjoy the small talk
So do I, especially with people I don’t know that well – like at parties and social gatherings.
You also like to chit-chat with your neighbor and the different folks at the farmer’s market.
Simply put, you recognize the value of small talk and casual conversation.
But you also enjoy exploring some really complex topics and having deep and meaningful conversations with the people you know well.
All in all, it’s all a question of who you’re with and how you’re feeling.
10) You prefer to work independently but also enjoy collaboration
Maybe you work as a freelancer because you value independence and can work well on your own.
But that doesn’t mean that you can’t work well with others, in fact, you really enjoy collaboration and sharing ideas.
Sometimes all you want is to dress up and go out partying. You’ll sing and dance and be the most social person at the party.
And do you know what?
You’re a really fun person to be around.
But you don’t want to party every night. You definitely appreciate those quiet nights when you stay home and cuddle next to your significant other to watch Netflix and eat popcorn.
12) Your friends are a diverse bunch
Which is pretty cool when you think about it.
I mean, they’re a mix of introverts and extroverts and come to think of it, probably some ambiverts.
Some of your friends are musicians, actors, and artists and they’re really outgoing and social.
Other friends are researchers, programmers, and writers, they’re more introspective and prefer quieter activities.
If you think about it, you’re pretty lucky. It’s like you have different friends for different moods – I know I definitely do.
13) You love to come home after traveling
I can totally relate.
It’s like you can’t wait to travel and explore new destinations, learn about new cultures, meet new people, try new food, and take lots of pictures.
And once you’re out there you’ll enjoy yourself, but you may also get a little homesick because you miss having your routine and being surrounded by your stuff.
So when you come home, you’re happy to be back. You feel richer for the experience, but you couldn’t be on the road all the time.
14) You can be indecisive
This happens to me quite often.
You see, because we ambiverts are both introverted and extroverted, sometimes we don’t know what we’re looking for at a given moment.
Sometimes I’ll feel like I want to be by myself, and then I end up feeling sad and craving the company of a friend.
At other times I’ll feel like going out and being with people, only to feel alienated when I find myself in a crowd of happy, loud people.
It’s not always easy, and if you’re an ambivert, you’ll understand what I’m talking about.
15) You’re the extrovert with introvert tendencies, or the introverts with extrovert tendencies
Well, at least that’s how the people who know you best describe you.
And guess what? That’s exactly what an ambivert is.
Some days you’re extremely social and outgoing, other days you just like to chill in your own company.
And the bottom line? You’re on neither end of the specter, you’re somewhere in between.
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