Like many women, you might find yourself questioning whether or not you are dating the right man.
It’s perfectly normal to have doubts when it comes to your partner, especially if you’re wondering whether you could spend the rest of your life with them.
It’s important to consider the product of your choices before doing something you’ll regret, but it’s equally important to ask the right questions to seek the answers that will help you make an informed decision.
1) Does He Treat His Parents Poorly?
If a man is rude or mean to his parents, siblings, or even friends, it could be a sign that he will treat you poorly in the future as well.
People tend to be mean to the people they love because of the security a relationship like that provides, but it’s not okay to be a jerk to family.
2) Does He Make You Feel Silly About What You Believe or Value?
Does he laugh at your job or hobbies, friends or interests? Does he ask you why you care about certain things or put them down in front of you?
This is a red flag because it means he doesn’t respect your choices, and nobody wants that kind of negativity in their lives.
3) Has He Cheated Before?
Even if he hasn’t cheated on you, if he has cheated on someone else in his life, there’s a good chance he might do it again. Do you really want to be the person it happens to?
4) Does He Hide His Phone From You?
If he is keeping his phone from you, he’s hiding something. He might tell you it’s work related or that there’s nothing to see, but if he won’t let you make a call or check email on his phone, consider asking yourself why he does that before you marry him.
5) Does He Scream at You?
If he can’t keep his cool in check, it might be a red flag for your relationship. If he gets angry and yells at anything and everything, you might have to ask yourself if that is the kind of relationship you want to be in at this point in your life…or ever.
6) Does He Make You Feel Like You Aren’t Good Enough?
If you find yourself feeling self-conscious around him, and worry about wearing the right clothes, saying the right things, and doing your hair just right, you could find yourself in trouble later.
Guys who tell you that you aren’t good enough are not worth investing another minute of your life with – thanks, but no thanks.
7) Has He Ever Hit You or Verbally Abused You?
Even if he hasn’t raised a hand to you, if you are fearful that he might, or he has threatened to hit you, move on. Just do it. That shit doesn’t get better.
8) Does He Give You the Silent Treatment?
If he ignores you when he is mad or acts like a child, it might be a wise idea to reconsider the relationship.
Being in a strong relationship requires people to act like adults and take responsibility for their actions and words. If he can’t even talk to you, what’s the point?
9) Do You Have to Apologize to Start a Conversation After a Fight?
If you always have to suck it up and say you are sorry, that’s a problem. If he can’t get out of his own way to apologize to you and tell you how he is feeling, that’s not a man you want in your life.
10) Are You Worried About Your Future?
If you find yourself daydreaming about what life looks like in 10 years and you wince, this is probably not the relationship for you.
11) Do You Find Yourself Thinking About Breaking Up?
If you are looking for things that are wrong with him or if you keep telling yourself things like “next time, I’m gone” it’s probably best to end it now before you get into a marriage.
12) Has He Ever Scared You With His Anger?
If you have had to take a step back because he scared you, consider what life looks like if you don’t take a step back.
13) Does He Try to Bail on Commitments?
If he is always asking you to stay in instead of going to see your family or wants to skip out on parties, gatherings, your life might be pretty boring in the future.
14) Does He Try to Control You?
If he asks you where you are going and who you will be seeing and what time you will be home, think twice about going further with him. Is he your boyfriend or your Mother?
15) Do Your Friends or Family Dislike Him?
A big red flag for most people is when their friends and family don’t like their partner. If the people around you see something you don’t, ask them what it is.
16) Does He Say He Needs You?
If he threatens to kill himself or says things along the lines of “not being able to live without you” take time to talk about what that looks like and why you are responsible for his life. Or, find another relationship. That’s dangerous territory.
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