As a man, it can be hard to know what a woman wants in bed. Especially when much of what men learn about sex comes from the exploitation of women in the media.
Some men might find that their approach to sex is a bit too much once they realize what women really want.
Luckily, a group of researchers believe they’ve figured out what traits and behaviors give women the best experience in bed.
So if you are trying to up your game in the bedroom, this is the kind of man you should be because this type of man makes the best lover, according to their research.
1) Make Her Laugh
Many people believe that a man has to be attractive in order to be a good lover, but that couldn’t be further from the truth.
There are many characteristics that men possess that are attractive to women. For example, women love a man with a sense of humor.
If you can make her laugh, you are golden. Being able to laugh at life means you aren’t going to be uptight in the bedroom and that you and she can relax as you enjoy each other in an intimate way.
2) Show your Creative Side
Men who exercise their creative sides are often less stressed out and more open to communication and intimacy than men who don’t have creative hobbies.
Women often look for men that are interested in a variety of things, not just beer and sports.
So if you are looking to make an impression in the bedroom, consider adding some extracurricular activities to your life as a way to broaden your mind and soul.
As you become more in tune with things that stimulate you and your senses, your lovemaking will improve too.
Men who are spontaneous and adventurous tend to be better lovers than those who worry about the clock and schedule every minute of their day.
This kind of spontaneity can really pay off in the bedroom as well.
3) Spice Up Your Scent
While the physical appearance of a man is not really that important to how good he performs in the bedroom, his scent is.
The way a man smells can trigger sexual interest in a partner and this automatic attraction of sorts helps her perceive you as a better lover than you are.
That’s a helping hand anyone would like to have so be sure to splash on some of her favorite cologne before heading out for the night.
She’ll start to equate that smell with you, and it will give her comfort to be around you.
This is an easy way to keep her thinking about you even when you aren’t together.
4) Be Faithful to Her
Another way to increase your success in the love making department is to be a stand-up guy.
Not just a nice guy, but a guy who is genuine and faithful to his partner.
If you have been unfaithful to someone in the past, it can ruin the good vibe you have going with your new partner, especially if she finds out about it.
Women don’t want guys to fall all over them just for the sake of getting attention; they want a man who is genuinely interested in them and who will commit to them for the long haul.
Women will pay attention to how you treat others in your life, not just her, so be sure to make other people a priority to get the payoff in the bedroom.
5) Be a Good Man
When it comes to becoming a better lover, men should know that it is about much more than physical intimacy.
Men who are great conversationalists, adventure-seekers, and men who demonstrate commitment in various areas of their lives are often better lovers than those men who just sulk through life looking for the next good sexual encounter.
There’s no reason that every man can’t be a top-level lover. A lot of old advice used to focus on how to please women in the bedroom to make them happy, but it turns out that being a good guy and caring about the people in your life is a great place to start.
When you can show a woman that you have your act together and that you are focused on making her happy in ways beyond the bedroom, the impacts it can have on your sex life are endless.
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