9 things mentally strong people always do (but never talk about)

Ever wonder why some people handle tough situations so well?

It’s not magic; it’s mental strength.

These folks have habits that help them stay calm and focused, even when life gets tricky.

The interesting part?

They often do these things quietly, without making a big deal about it.

In this article, we’ll explore nine of these secret habits.

Let’s dive in and discover what makes them tick. 

1. Embrace Change

Mentally strong people understand that change is a natural part of life. Instead of resisting or fearing it, they embrace it.

They see change as an opportunity for growth and learning.

When faced with a new situation or challenge, they adapt quickly, looking for the silver lining or the lesson to be learned.

While many might complain or get overwhelmed by unexpected shifts, mentally strong individuals pivot, adjust, and move forward, recognizing that change can often lead to better things.

They don’t waste time wishing things could go back to the way they were; they focus on making the best of the present and preparing for the future.

2. They Know When to Say “No”

I remember a friend of mine, Jake, who seemed to have a superpower: the ability to say “no” without feeling guilty.

Mentally strong people, like Jake, understand the importance of setting boundaries.

They know that their time and energy are limited, and they can’t be everywhere or do everything.

By saying “no” to things that don’t align with their values or priorities, they ensure they have the time and energy for what truly matters.

It’s not about being selfish; it’s about self-preservation.

They recognize that by trying to please everyone, you often end up pleasing no one, especially not yourself.

So, like Jake, they choose their commitments wisely and aren’t afraid to decline when it’s in their best interest.

3. Celebrate Others’ Successes

Now, this might sound counterintuitive, but mentally strong people genuinely rejoice in the achievements of others, even if they’re in direct competition.

While the common instinct might be to feel envious or threatened by someone else’s success, these individuals see it differently.

They believe that another person’s win doesn’t diminish their own worth or chances of success.

Instead, they view it as proof that success is attainable and use it as motivation.

By celebrating others, they foster positive relationships and create an environment of mutual support and encouragement.

In a world where many are quick to compare and compete, mentally strong people stand out by lifting others up.

4. They’re Not Afraid to Be Alone

Mentally strong people don’t always need someone by their side. They’re not afraid of solitude. In fact, they often seek it.

While many chase constant company to drown out their own thoughts or fears, the mentally strong sit with them, face them, and even embrace them.

Alone time isn’t about loneliness for them; it’s a chance to reflect, to understand themselves better, and to recharge.

They know that sometimes, the most profound conversations and realizations come in moments of silence.

They’re not running from themselves, and they don’t need others to validate their worth.

They’re comfortable in their own skin, even when no one’s watching.

5. They Accept Their Imperfections

I recall my grandmother once telling me, “The most beautiful tapestries have flaws, but that’s what makes them unique.”

Mentally strong people, much like my wise grandma, understand and accept their imperfections. They don’t pretend to have it all together all the time.

Instead, they acknowledge their flaws, learn from their mistakes, and use them as stepping stones.

They don’t beat themselves up over every misstep.

Remembering my grandma’s words, they see their imperfections not as shameful secrets but as parts of their unique story.

By being kind to themselves and recognizing that everyone has flaws, they build resilience and a genuine sense of self-worth.

6. They Prioritize Self-Care

Mentally strong people recognize the importance of taking care of themselves, both mentally and physically.

They understand that to be their best for others, they first need to be their best for themselves.

This means setting aside time for activities that rejuvenate them, whether it’s reading a book, taking a walk in nature, meditating, or indulging in a hobby.

They don’t view self-care as a luxury but as a necessity.

By regularly refueling their energy and maintaining a healthy balance, they ensure they have the stamina and clarity to face life’s challenges head-on.

7. They Don’t Dwell on the Past

Mentally strong people have scars. They’ve been hurt, they’ve made mistakes, and they’ve faced moments they wish they could erase.

But they don’t let these moments define them. Instead of getting trapped in the “what ifs” and the regrets, they acknowledge their past, learn from it, and then let it go.

They understand that dwelling on past mistakes or sorrows won’t change them but will only hold them back.

While it’s tempting to replay certain moments and wonder how things could have been different, mentally strong individuals choose to focus on the present and the future, where they can make a difference.

They don’t wear rose-colored glasses; they simply choose not to be prisoners of their past.

8. They Seek Feedback, Even When It Hurts

I remember a mentor of mine, Mrs. Thompson, who always said, “Growth comes from hearing what you need to, not just what you want to.”

Mentally strong people live by this principle. They actively seek feedback, even if it’s critical.

They understand that to improve and grow, they need to hear the truth, no matter how uncomfortable it might be.

Instead of getting defensive or taking things personally, they listen, reflect, and use the feedback as a tool for self-improvement.

They’re grateful for the insights, knowing that it’s through honest feedback, like the kind Mrs. Thompson would give, that they can become the best versions of themselves.

9. They Celebrate Small Wins

While many chase after the big moments and grand achievements, mentally strong people find joy in the small wins.

They understand that life isn’t just about the mountaintop experiences; it’s also about the tiny, seemingly insignificant steps that lead there.

Celebrating small victories might seem trivial to some, but for the mentally strong, it’s a reminder of progress, no matter how slow or small.

They know that these little moments of success build momentum and confidence.

So, while others might overlook or undervalue the small steps, mentally strong individuals cherish them, understanding that every big achievement is made up of many small wins.


In the journey of life, it’s not just about the milestones we reach but the habits and attitudes we cultivate along the way.

Mentally strong individuals stand out not because they’re invincible or flawless, but because of the subtle, often counterintuitive practices they embrace.

From celebrating the small wins to valuing solitude and accepting their imperfections, these habits shape their resilience and outlook on life.

As we’ve uncovered these nine habits, it’s evident that mental strength isn’t about grand gestures but everyday choices.

By adopting even a few of these practices, we can all pave the way for a more resilient, fulfilling, and mentally robust life.

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Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the founder, and editor of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 15 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. Check out my latest book on the Hidden Secrets of Buddhism and How it Saved My Life. If you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Facebook or Twitter.

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