9 little things considerate people always do (but never talk about)

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There’s a fine line between being polite and being truly considerate.

Considerate folks aren’t just about manners, they’re also about understanding and empathy. They do small things that make a big difference, and often, they do them without even realizing it.

These considerate actions are usually done silently, without any need for recognition or praise.

Being considerate is about making life easier for those around you. And interestingly, there are certain little things that considerate people always do, but never talk about.

Let’s get started. 

1) Always listening

Considerate people have an exceptional knack for listening.

They aren’t just waiting for their turn to speak – they’re genuinely taking in what you’re saying. They understand that everyone has a story to tell, and they make sure to give everyone their undivided attention.

Listening is more than just hearing words; it involves understanding and empathizing with the feelings behind them. This makes others feel valued and appreciated.

If you want to be more considerate, actively listen to the people around you. However, remember that being a good listener isn’t about giving advice or solving problems – it’s about being there and showing empathy.

But like most considerate actions, this is something they do naturally without feeling the need to talk about it.

2) Picking up after themselves

Something I’ve noticed about considerate people is that they take responsibility for their own mess, even when no one is watching.

I remember a time when I was at a friend’s house for a party. Amidst all the fun and chatter, I noticed one of my friends quietly picking up empty cups and snack wrappers scattered around. She wasn’t doing it for recognition; in fact, she probably hoped no one would notice.

This act of thoughtfulness struck me. It wasn’t her house, yet she took the initiative to clean up, making things easier for our host.

That’s the thing about considerate people – they take small, unnoticed steps that make a big difference.

They go beyond just being guests or spectators in life; they actively contribute to making any space they enter a little better.

3) Remembering small details

Considerate people have a talent for remembering small details about others. It could be your favorite color, a book you mentioned in passing, or an event you were looking forward to.

This isn’t just a sign of good memory, but also of their genuine interest in others’ lives. This attentiveness conveys respect and shows that they value your conversations.

Studies reveal that our brains tend to remember information about ourselves better than information about others.

This self-referential bias makes the act of remembering small details about others more significant.

It’s a subtle sign of putting others before themselves – a common trait among considerate individuals.

Remembering such details without making a big deal about it is one of those little things considerate people do but never talk about.

4) Quick to apologize

Considerate people are quick to apologize when they make a mistake. They understand that everyone errs and owning up to their errors is a part of life.

They don’t let pride get in the way of an apology. Instead, they see it as a chance to learn and grow. They believe in mending bridges rather than burning them.

Apologizing also shows respect for the other person’s feelings. It acknowledges that their feelings are important and valid.

But like all the other acts of kindness, considerate people don’t boast about their readiness to apologize. They just do it sincerely and move on, continuing to spread kindness wherever they go.

5) Being punctual

Punctuality is another characteristic of considerate people. They understand that by showing up on time, they’re respecting the other person’s time and commitment.

Being late can imply that your time is more valuable than the other person’s, which is not a message considerate people want to send.

They plan ahead, factor in possible delays, and strive to be punctual for meetings, appointments, or social gatherings.

Yet, this commitment to punctuality is something they often keep to themselves. It’s just one of those little things they do out of consideration for others.

6) Offering help

Considerate people have a keen sense of awareness. They notice when someone is struggling and are quick to offer help.

Whether it’s lending a hand with a heavy grocery bag, offering to help with a difficult task at work, or just being there for a friend going through a tough time, they step in without hesitation.

This isn’t about being a hero or seeking validation; it’s about empathy and compassion. It’s about recognizing the human in each other and doing what they can to lighten another’s burden.

But again, they don’t talk about this. Their actions silently echo their kindness, making the world a little bit better, one act of consideration at a time.

7) Keeping promises

Considerate people understand the value of their word. They realize that breaking promises can lead to disappointment and mistrust.

A while back, I was going through a difficult phase, and a friend promised to check in on me regularly. Even with her busy schedule, she never failed to call. It was a small act, but it meant the world to me during that challenging time.

This experience taught me that keeping promises, however small they might seem, is a sign of respect and care for others.

Considerate people make it a point to keep their promises, not for accolades or recognition, but because they believe it’s the right thing to do.

8) Respecting boundaries

Considerate people understand and respect personal boundaries. They know that everyone has their own space, physically and emotionally, and they make it a point not to infringe upon it.

They ask before borrowing things, they don’t push if someone isn’t ready to talk, and they respect personal decisions even if they disagree.

Respecting boundaries is about acknowledging the individuality of others and accepting that their needs and comfort levels may be different from their own.

And like their other considerate behaviors, this is something they do silently, without making a fuss about it. It’s just another way they show their respect for others.

9) Practicing gratitude

At the heart of all considerate actions is a deep sense of gratitude. Considerate people are genuinely thankful for the people around them and the experiences they share.

They express their gratitude in simple ways. A heartfelt thank you, a smile, a note. They understand that acknowledging kindness encourages more of it.

Practicing gratitude isn’t just about being polite; it’s about recognizing and appreciating the value that others bring into our lives.

And as with all their actions, considerate people don’t broadcast their gratitude. They just live it, making those around them feel valued and appreciated.

Final thoughts: The ripple effect of kindness

The beauty of considerate actions is their ripple effect. It’s not just about making one person’s day a little better – it’s about inspiring them to do the same for others.

Considerate people silently set an example for the rest of us. They remind us that kindness doesn’t have to be grand gestures or heroic acts. It can be as simple as picking up after ourselves, remembering a friend’s favorite book, or being punctual for an appointment.

These are small actions, but they carry a powerful message: I see you. I value you. I respect you.

And in a world that often feels chaotic and indifferent, isn’t that something we all crave?

When you see someone practicing these little acts of consideration, take a moment to appreciate them. Better yet, join them. Because the world always needs more kindness, and it starts with us.

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Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the founder, and editor of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 15 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. Check out my latest book on the Hidden Secrets of Buddhism and How it Saved My Life. If you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Facebook or Twitter.

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