It’s no secret that we all want happiness. After all, the “pursuit of happiness” is even enshrined in the Declaration of Independence. But happiness is fleeting.
So how can we find it and keep it? According to Sonja Lyubomirsky, a psychology professor at the University of California, it is possible to make yourself happier permanently.
The large portion of your happiness that you control is determined by your habits, attitude, and outlook on life. She says there are numerous bad habits that make us unhappy.
Here are 10 habits that you need to eliminate immediately if you want to be happy:
1) Immunity to awe
It’s hard to be happy when you just shrug your shoulders every time you see something new. But awe is an important emotion to experience. It’s inspiring, full of wonder and reminds us that we’re not the centre of world. One of the best ways to experience awe is to get out in nature and be flabbergasted by some amazing views.
2) Isolating yourself
When we feel unhappy, we tend to isolate ourselves from others. Yet, according to research, this is one of the worst things you can do. Humans are social beings and we all need some level of contact. Whenever you feel unhappy, get out there and make an effort to see people. You’ll notice a difference immediately.
We need to take responsibility for our own lives to be happy. Blaming is the exact opposite. When you blame other people for your circumstances, you’re not taking control of your life.
Judging other people and speaking poorly of them is never a way to be happy. Usually you think it makes you feel better about yourself, but that will only last a short while. All judging does is create a spiral of negativity.
By constantly talking about how bad things you are, you simply reinforce your negative attitude. Not only that, but no one enjoys being around a complainer.
6) Trying to impress others
Trying to impress other people is a huge source of unhappiness. The people who will be impressed with your fancy job or car aren’t your source of happiness. The people you really need to hang out with who are those who like you and accept you for who you are.
7) Hanging around negative people
These kinds of people wallow in their problems and fail to focus on solutions. They simply want people to join in on their negativity. Avoid getting drawn into these types of conversations. It’s simply a ball of negative energy that feeds on itself.
8) Comparing to others
A lot of us naturally compare ourselves to others. But the problem is that we compare ourselves to the best parts of others and don’t really see their whole life. It’s better to realize that we’re all unique with different and complex life circumstances that it’s literally impossible to compare properly with anyone.
9) Giving in to fear
Fear is nothing more than a lingering emotion that’s fueled by your imagination. Danger is real. Fear is a choice. Happy people are addicted to the euphoric feeling they get from conquering their fears.
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