9 characteristics of highly desirable women (that have nothing to do with appearance)

We’ve all met these women. The type that seem to light up the room whenever they walk in and have men flocking to them asking for their attention.

While it’s true that sometimes physical beauty plays a role in men’s desirability of women, more often than not it is that something more that these women possess. It is the “It Factor” that goes far beyond skin-deep beauty and is irresistible to those around them.

So if you’ve ever asked the question, “Am I attractive?” here are 9 traits that the most desirable women possess, and the results may surprise you!

1. They believe in the power of laughter

There are few things more attractive in a person than a light-hearted spirit and an easy laugh. Highly desirable women don’t take life too seriously. Instead of being easily offended or mired down in drama, they seek out the positives in tough situations.

2. They aren’t looking for the attention they receive

While they may seem to have a spotlight following them, they certainly didn’t ask for it! This type of woman exudes an energy that draws people to her, but you will never find her wasting her time fishing for compliments or begging to be noticed.

3. They are in charge of their own lives

The most desirable women know that they don’t need anyone but themselves to decide their path in life. Once they decide what they want, they go for it. On the flip side, these women are capable of owning up to their mistakes and are willing to adapt in order to grow.

4. They have both emotional and intellectual intelligence

There is a lot more to intelligence than just book smarts, and a highly desirable woman has a well-rounded approach to life. Not only can she knock your socks off with her wealth of knowledge, she is in touch with her emotions and capable of controlling them.

5. They are exceptional at communicating

The ability to have a deep, intelligent conversation goes a long way in upping a woman’s desirability, but it goes further than that. The women that are most desirable are not only skilled at spirited conversation, they are also able to listen and resolve conflicts that arise.

6. They have found their passion – and embrace it!

Passion is incredibly desirable, and this type of woman embodies it! Whether it is her career, a hobby, or a cause she believes in, she will do everything she can to explore and grow within her passions.

7. They are empathetic to others

Empathy is a very desirable character trait, and it comes naturally to this type of woman. While they maintain healthy boundaries, if you need a shoulder to cry on or a listening ear they will be the first in line to give advice, help, and comfort.

8. They are mentally strong

Whether their life has been smooth sailing or they come from a traumatic past, these women have found a way to use their past experiences to make them stronger in the present. Instead of dwelling on the past, they live in the here and now while taking on challenges with ease.

9. They embody self-confidence

When describing the most desirable characteristics in women, the number one trait is bound to be confidence. There is nothing more appealing than a woman who knows that she is worthy of respect from the world around and doesn’t have an ego to go with it.

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Lachlan Brown

Written by Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the founder, and editor of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 6 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. If you to want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter or Facebook.

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