8 things you don’t know you’re doing because you’re fiercely independent

Ever met someone who just seems to have everything under control?

Maybe, without realizing it, that’s actually you!

Being independent isn’t always about big gestures. Sometimes, it’s the little things you do daily that show just how self-reliant you are.

Here are 8 things you might be doing because you’re rocking the independent vibe.

Let’s dive in and see if any sound familiar. 

1. You Make Decisions Quickly and Decisively

While many might dawdle over choices, weighing every possible outcome, you? Not so much.

Whether it’s deciding on a dinner spot or choosing the next big step in your career, you trust your gut and your judgment.

You don’t feel the need to consult a dozen friends or read countless reviews.


Because your fierce independence has given you confidence in your own decisions.

This might seem like impatience to some, but in reality, it’s a reflection of your trust in yourself and your ability to handle the outcomes, good or bad.

2. Solo Adventures? Yes, Please!

Remember that time you went to see that movie alone and actually enjoyed not sharing the popcorn?

Or the impromptu solo road trip you took just because you felt like it?

Some people raise their eyebrows when you talk about your solo adventures, but there’s something incredibly freeing about just going with the flow, with no one to answer to but yourself.

It’s not that you don’t enjoy company, but you cherish those moments of solitude, where the only opinion that matters is yours.

Whether it’s a weekend getaway or just a walk in the park, these moments of solitude recharge your independent spirit.

And let’s be honest, having the whole bed to yourself in a hotel room is pretty sweet, right?

3. Asking for Help Isn’t Your Strong Suit, and It’s Okay… But Also Not

You struggle with asking for help. Not because you’re stubborn (okay, maybe a tad) but because you’re wired to rely on yourself first.

It’s a double-edged sword.

On one hand, this trait has made you incredibly resilient. You’ve navigated challenges and figured things out, often the hard way.

But on the flip side, it’s also left you feeling isolated at times, even when surrounded by people who genuinely want to help.

And sometimes, it’s taken you longer to climb a hill that could’ve been a simple walk if you’d just let someone lend a hand.

Being independent is a gift, but it’s also essential to remember that it’s okay to lean on others every now and then.

After all, even the fiercest of warriors had allies in battle.

4. You Thrive in Teams… By Giving Others Their Independence

As fiercely independent as you are, when it comes to teamwork, you’re surprisingly one of the best people to collaborate with.

Your strong sense of self means you don’t feel threatened by others’ talents or ideas.

Instead, you appreciate and elevate them.

You understand that giving others room to shine doesn’t diminish your own light. In fact, it often enhances the whole project.

You inadvertently create spaces where everyone feels valued, and their independent voices are heard.

So, while you might be a solo star, you’ve got a knack for making the whole constellation glow brighter.

5. You Don’t “Go With the Flow” — You Create It

For many, “going with the flow” is a mantra for stress-free living.

But for you? You’re more inclined to determine the direction of the current.

This isn’t about control, but about shaping life on your terms.

Instead of waiting for opportunities to come knocking, you’re out there building the door.

This might mean carving out an unconventional career path, starting unique traditions, or even pioneering trends in your social circle.

Some might call it being headstrong, but it’s really about knowing what you want and not waiting for external cues to make it happen.

However, this also means that sometimes you have to learn to step back and let the river of life take its course. It’s all about finding the balance.

6. You Fear Dependency More Than Loneliness

Your fierce independence sometimes comes from a deep-seated fear of becoming dependent on someone else.

The idea of relying on another person, whether emotionally, financially, or in any other way, feels scarier than moments of solitude or feelings of loneliness.

You’ve built walls, not to keep everyone out, but to protect that core part of you that values autonomy above all else.

But this armor, though it has shielded you from many heartbreaks, has also kept genuine, intimate connections at bay.

There’s a world of difference between choosing to be alone and fearing the vulnerability that comes with dependence.

Embracing this realization might be the key to unlocking a new level of independence: one where you freely choose your connections, without the shadow of fear.

7. You’re A Great Listener, Even When You Don’t Follow the Crowd

As someone fiercely independent, you march to the beat of your own drum.

So, how does being a great listener fit in?

Well, your independence doesn’t stem from a disregard for others. Quite the opposite, in fact.

You listen—truly listen—to what people have to say. You value perspectives, digest advice, and respect everyone’s viewpoints.

But here’s the twist: you don’t often act on what the majority says. Instead, you take in all the information, sift through it, and then make a choice that aligns with your values and vision.

This trait makes others feel valued in your presence because they know you hear them, even if you don’t always walk the path they’ve laid out for you.

It’s a fine balance between respect for others and respect for oneself.

8. Your Comfort Zone Isn’t a Place; It’s a State of Mind

Remember when you wore that outlandish outfit to the party, not because it was in vogue, but simply because it felt you?

Or that time you picked up a hobby that had absolutely no connection to your job or social circle, just out of sheer curiosity?

Your comfort zone isn’t about places, people, or routines. It’s about being aligned with your true self, regardless of the external environment.

To others, it might seem like you’re constantly pushing boundaries or taking the path less traveled.

But to you, it’s just another day of staying true to yourself. Your adventures, both big and small, aren’t driven by a need to impress or rebel, but by an honest pursuit of what feels right in your heart.

And while the journey might seem lonely or challenging at times, the richness of experiences and self-discoveries make every step worth it.

Remember the glow you felt when you finished that painting, or the satisfaction of solo traveling to a new city? That’s your fiercely independent spirit soaking in the joy of living life on your terms.

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Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the founder, and editor of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 15 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. Check out my latest book on the Hidden Secrets of Buddhism and How it Saved My Life. If you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Facebook or Twitter.

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