It’s impossible to link maturity to a specific age. We have all come across young people who are mature beyond their age and, conversely, older people who behave in the most appalling immature manner.
The aspect of our lives where immature behavior can have a lasting damaging legacy is in personal relationships. Many relationships eventually end because partners are not on the same level of maturity.
After all, some men have Peter Pan syndrome.
Let’s have a look at what behavior a woman can expect from a mature man and what you can expect him never to do.
1) A mature man won’t run away from his problems
A mature man will not leave you in the lurch when times get tough. He will stand by you and help the two of you find solutions through challenging times. A mature man takes responsibility for his own life and decisions and don’t blame others when things go wrong.
2) A mature man won’t criticize you
Mature men don’t go about criticizing the woman in their lives for their appearance, weight, profession, or even their hopes and dreams. They are not that shallow. A mature man is out to support you, not bring you down. Mature people are also able to handle criticism and not take things personally. Any mature person can handle both compliments and criticism and not let it sway their sense of self in any direction.
3) A mature man isn’t afraid to show his emotions
Most men find it difficult to express their feelings in day-to-day situations, but a mature man finds a way to do it as he knows that he must take the needs of his partner into consideration. Part of being mature is to have your focus away from yourself and on the other person. He knows showing emotion is a way to deepen the relationship and is not a sign of weakness.
4) A mature man won’t make you feel unwanted
It is plain bad form to exclude a partner from your circle of family and friends. A mature man, not to say a decent human being, will always include you with people and in situations that is important to him. He won’t only introduce you to his family and his friends, he will actively encourage a relationship.
5) A mature man won’t disrespect you
This goes without saying. A mature man won’t ignore you or ridicule you or make fun of you in front of others. He will show you respect in all things and situations. A mature man will not be abusive verbally or physically. He will give you space when you need it without feeling neglected or flying off in a jealous rage. He knows that a happy relationship is built on mutual respect.
6) A mature man doesn’t have an unhealthy relationship with his mother
This is a tell-tale sign. If you want to know how your man will treat you further down the line of marital bliss, just have a careful look at his relationship with his mother. How he treats his mother is how he will treat all women in his life. If he treats his parents with respect, love and kindness, you have a keeper.
7) A mature man won’t avoid planning for the future
Part of being mature is knowing that you have to have a long-term plan. You can’t just live for today and let tomorrow take care of itself. Such a man can commit to long-term plans and stay committed to a plan of action when it is required even when he doesn’t feel like it. He is responsible with money and doesn’t spend beyond his or the family’s needs.
8) A mature man won’t run away from advice
Any mature person knows that they don’t know everything and has the sense to seek out advice when faced with a problem. A mature man will ask for and listen to your advice. He is not too proud to admit that he needs counsel from others, especially his partner.
9) A mature man won’t be a know-it-all
One of the first signs of maturity in any person is remaining curious about life and never assuming that they know all there is to know about something, or anything, for that matter.
So many people want to be the expert in the room so badly that it just comes out in poor taste, but when you are someone who is mature, you don’t need to show off what you know, or even that you know anything, to prove yourself to someone else.
10) A mature man won’t talk first and listen second
When you are a mature person, you are happy to listen to those around you and take in new information before providing your opinion or thoughts on a matter.
You know that others have as much or maybe, even more, to offer to a conversation and when a friend needs a shoulder to cry on, you are there.
There’s no need to steal the spotlight of someone who may need it more than you do right now.
11) A mature man doesn’t take things personally
If there’s one way to know that you have grown and matured it’s when something goes wrong and you don’t take the issue personally. This is especially true of work.
If you find that something has gone off the rails and you don’t blame others or are offended by criticism of the poor job you did to cause the derailment, you are a mature person for sure.
12) A mature man won’t expect others to take responsibility for him
People with maturity recognize that the world owes them nothing and are happy to go about making things happen for themselves.
People who low levels of maturity don’t see how they are responsible for their own lives and ask that others help them through life – or even demand it! – most of the time, if not all of the time.
Again, if your friend is living on his mom’s couch because he can’t get off his butt to get a place of his own, it’s not because his mom wants him there, we can assure you.
13) A mature man won’t immediately reject other people’s opinions
A genuine sign of maturity is when you can have a conversation with someone, whole-heartedly disagree with them, yet give them space and time to say their thoughts and express their opinions.
Someone with a great deal of maturity would enjoy an adult conversation where disagreements ensue because they aren’t threatened by the conversation or the fact that they can’t be right all the time.
14) A mature man won’t wish for karmic retribution on anyone
As a mature person, you no longer wish ill-fate on your worst enemy.
If you have already crossed over into this level of maturity, it’s likely you will remember the first time you realized you didn’t want Judy to drop dead for stealing your boyfriend, or that the girl at the grocery checkout would get fired for counting change incorrectly.
Admit that you used to do that and then move on from it. You are a better, more mature person now.
And hey, we’ve all been there.
15) A mature man won’t feel jealous towards others
One of the biggest moments in your growth as a mature person is when you can really be happy for someone who has had something amazing happen to them.
And not just outwardly happy but you want them to do great things for themselves because it makes them feel good and it makes you feel good!
You feel good about other’s good fortune when you are mature.
16) A mature man doesn’t only think about short-term gratification
People who have high levels of maturity don’t blow paycheques as soon as they get them.
They can save money for a rainy day and are able to manage their expectations about life in a more robust way.
They don’t own things they don’t need and they can plan for the future without worrying about the things they are missing out on right now.
17) A mature man isn’t selfish
People of maturity will go out of their way for other people.
If you care for someone or something you will try hard to make sure they are taken care of before yourself.
It might have been to your demise as a younger, less mature person, but these days, you can go without so that others may thrive and it’s okay with you.
18) A mature man doesn’t think the grass is always greener on the other side
You recognize the effort that goes into your life and you are not only willing to continue to put in that effort, but you are grateful for the chance to do the work you do.
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