8 signs your partner loves you deeply (even if you don’t realize it)

Love. It’s a four-letter word that carries so much weight. It can be shown in countless ways, and yet, we often miss the signs when it’s staring us right in the face.

Hello, I’m Tina Fey, founder of Love Connection blog and your friendly relationship expert. When it comes to love, I’ve seen it all. It’s fascinating how people can be so deeply loved by their partners and still question it.

Through my years of experience, I’ve identified some clear cut signs that indicate deep love, which often go unnoticed. These are subtle but powerful, and once you recognize them, you’ll never doubt their love for you again.

Because sometimes, love isn’t just about saying the words; it’s about showing them in ways you might not even realize.

Let’s get started. 

1) They know your coffee order by heart

Love can be found in the most minute details, especially when it comes to knowing your partner’s preferences.

Consider this – your partner not only knows how you take your coffee but ensures that it’s made just right, every single time. It’s not about the coffee, really. It’s about the fact that they’ve paid attention to your likes and dislikes, your little quirks and habits.

This might seem like a small thing, but it’s these tiny acts of kindness and thoughtfulness that are often the truest indicators of deep love. It’s their way of saying, “I know you. I care about you.” without actually having to utter a word.

These are the little things that often go unnoticed but are indeed the signs of a partner who loves you deeply. 

2) They listen, even to the mundane details

Listening is a skill, and if your partner has mastered it, consider yourself deeply loved.

I remember an old friend of mine once telling me about his partner. He said, “Tina, she remembers everything. Even the smallest, most insignificant details of my day. It’s like she genuinely cares about every part of my life.”

And that, my friends, is love. To be interested in the mundanity of your partner’s life and to remember it is a sign of deep love.

As the legendary Maya Angelou once said, “People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

If your partner makes you feel heard and valued by listening intently to your stories – however trivial they may be – then that’s a surefire sign they love you deeply.

3) They respect your personal space

Love is not just about being together; it’s also about respecting each other’s personal space. If your partner understands this, it shows the depth of their love for you.

I often come across couples in my line of work who struggle with finding a balance between ‘me time’ and ‘we time’. It’s crucial to understand that having some alone time doesn’t indicate a lack of love. Quite the opposite, in fact.

In my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship, I discuss how maintaining your individuality while being in a relationship is essential for a healthy and balanced connection.

If your partner respects your need for personal space, encourages you to pursue your interests, and values your individuality, that’s an undeniable sign of deep love. It shows they care about your happiness and well-being as much as they care about the relationship.

4) They challenge you

This might come as a surprise, but if your partner challenges you, it’s a sign of deep love. Now, I’m not talking about picking fights or creating unnecessary drama. I’m talking about the kind of challenges that push you to grow and become a better person.

It’s easy to get comfortable in a relationship. To stagnate. But a partner who loves you deeply won’t let that happen. They’ll push you, encourage you to step out of your comfort zone, to explore new ideas, to strive for your goals.

It may feel uncomfortable at times, even frustrating. But remember, they’re not doing this to annoy you – they’re doing it because they see your potential and want the best for you.

As the saying goes, “The only way that we can live is if we grow. The only way we can grow is if we change.”

5) They’re there in times of crisis

True love is not just about sharing laughter and joy; it’s also about being there for each other during the tough times.

I remember when my spouse was there for me during one of the most challenging periods of my life. It was a time filled with anxiety and uncertainty, but having him by my side made the struggle bearable. His unwavering support showed me how deeply he loved me.

If your partner sticks with you through thick and thin, offering their support and encouragement when you need it the most, it’s a sign they love you deeply. Their willingness to walk through fire with you speaks volumes about their commitment and love for you.

In the face of adversity, if your partner is your rock, then that’s a love that runs deep.

6) They’re not afraid to apologize

Love is raw, real, and sometimes, it means admitting when you’re wrong.

If your partner loves you deeply, they’ll prioritize your relationship over their ego. They won’t shy away from admitting their mistakes or saying sorry when they’ve messed up.

Real love is humble. It’s about understanding that we’re all human, and we all make mistakes. What matters is how we handle these mistakes and learn from them.

When your partner can look you in the eye, acknowledge their wrongs, and sincerely apologize, it shows the depth of their love for you. They care more about your feelings and the health of your relationship than about being right.

This kind of vulnerability and humility is a sure sign of deep love. It takes courage to admit when you’re wrong, and if your partner does that without hesitation, know that their love for you is strong and genuine.

7) They celebrate your achievements

There’s something beautiful about a partner who not only shares your joys but also amplifies them.

I remember when I first started Love Connection blog, my partner was my biggest cheerleader. Every small milestone, every bit of progress was celebrated. His joy in my achievements was palpable, and it made me feel loved and supported in a way words could never express.

When your partner celebrates your achievements as if they were their own, it’s a powerful sign of deep love. They’re proud of you, not threatened by your success. They’re happy for you, genuinely and completely.

As the renowned author, A.A. Milne, famously said in one of his Winnie the Pooh stories, “Any day spent with you is my favorite day. So, today is my new favorite day.”

If your partner makes every day feel like your ‘new favorite day’, especially on the days when you achieve something great, then they truly love you deeply.

8) They love you, flaws and all

The last sign of deep love is perhaps the most raw and honest one – they love you, imperfections and all.

Love isn’t about finding a perfect person. It’s about seeing an imperfect person perfectly. If your partner loves you deeply, they won’t just tolerate your flaws; they’ll embrace them. They’ll love the whole package – the good, the bad, and everything in between.

This doesn’t mean they’ll let you off the hook for destructive or harmful behavior. But they’ll understand that you, like everyone else, are a work in progress. They won’t expect perfection from you because they know that nobody is perfect.

They’ll show patience, understanding, and compassion towards your weaknesses and flaws because they love you deeply, and to them, you’re worth it.

When your partner loves you – truly loves you – they see beyond your imperfections. They see the person you are at your core, and they cherish that person with all their heart. That’s the rawest, most honest sign of deep love.

Conclusion

Love is a beautiful and complex emotion, often difficult to define. But these signs should give you a clearer understanding of whether your partner loves you deeply – even if they don’t always say it.

Remember, everyone expresses their love differently. Your partner may not show all these signs, but that doesn’t mean their love for you is any less profound.

And if you’re interested in exploring more about maintaining individuality and balance in a relationship, check out my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship.

After all, love isn’t about finding the perfect person but learning to see an imperfect person perfectly. Here’s to finding and fostering that deep love in your life.