8 signs your partner is more in love with you than you think

Love can be a tricky thing to measure. It’s not always about big gestures or love letters. Sometimes, it’s the little things that really show how much someone cares.

Hi, I’m Tina Fey. As a relationship expert and founder of the Love Connection blog, I’ve seen countless stories of people who don’t realize how much their partner truly loves them.

Here’s the thing: love often shows up in the most subtle ways. So, if you’ve been wondering if your partner is more in love with you than you think, I’ve got some insight for you.

In this article, I’m going to share with you 8 signs that your partner might just be head over heels in love with you, even if they’re not shouting it from the rooftops.

Let’s dive in. 

1) They listen…really listen

Active listening is a rare skill, but in a relationship, it’s a true sign of love.

You see, when your partner is genuinely interested in every word that falls from your lips, it shows they value your thoughts and feelings. They’re not just nodding along while mentally planning their grocery list.

They’re paying attention to your stories, even if it’s about the most mundane part of your day. They remember the little details you’ve mentioned days or even weeks ago. This is because they truly care about you and what happens in your life.

Active listening involves more than just hearing. It’s about understanding and responding, too.

If your partner actively listens to you, cherishes your words, and responds meaningfully, it’s a clear sign they might be more in love with you than you think.

And hey, isn’t it lovely to have someone who listens to you like you’re the most fascinating person in the world? I think so!

2) They prioritize your happiness

When someone truly loves you, they put your happiness on the same level, if not above, their own.

This is something I’ve seen time and time again in the most successful relationships. Your partner may be making sacrifices you’re not even aware of, just to see you smile.

But remember, this isn’t about grand gestures or buying expensive gifts. It’s about the small acts of kindness – like saving the last slice of pizza for you or letting you choose the movie for date night.

The famous writer Robert A. Heinlein once said, “Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.” If your partner seems to embody this philosophy, it’s a strong sign they’re more in love with you than you might realize.

When you catch them doing something that makes your day a little brighter, take a moment to appreciate it. Love shows up in those tiny, selfless acts.

3) They respect your boundaries

Respect is the foundation of any healthy relationship, and that includes respecting each other’s boundaries.

In my experience as a relationship coach and through countless stories I’ve heard, I’ve found that when a partner is in love, they respect your personal space, your time alone, and your needs. They understand that love isn’t about possession, but about supporting each other’s individual growth.

This is a key topic I cover in my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship. As I explore in the book, maintaining your individuality and respecting boundaries is crucial for a balanced and healthy love life.

If your partner respects your boundaries without making you feel guilty or asking for explanations, it’s a sign they truly love you. It shows they value you as an individual and are willing to give you the space you need to be yourself.

True love is about freedom, not possession. And that’s something worth cherishing.

4) They argue with you

Now, this might sound a bit strange. After all, aren’t arguments something we’re supposed to avoid in a relationship?

Well, not necessarily. Hear me out.

Constructive arguments can actually be a healthy sign of a strong relationship. It shows that your partner cares enough to confront issues head-on rather than sweeping them under the rug or simply agreeing to avoid conflict.

They value the relationship enough to fight for it, to work on resolving differences, and to find a middle ground. It’s their way of saying, “We have an issue here, but I love you enough to work on it.”

However, remember that this refers to respectful disagreements where both parties listen and aim for a resolution. It’s not about shouting matches or hurtful words.

When you find yourself in a disagreement with your partner, take a moment and consider it from this perspective. It might be another sign that they are more in love with you than you think!

5) They remember the little things

One of the most touching things I’ve noticed in my own relationships, as well as those of my clients, is how love can be expressed through remembering the little things.

When your partner remembers how you take your coffee in the morning, or the name of your childhood pet, or that silly dance you do when your favorite song comes on – these aren’t just random facts. These are intimate details that show they’re paying attention to you, that they’re truly interested in who you are.

It’s these small moments, these tiny details, that build up a picture of deep affection and love. It shows that your partner is listening to you, that they’re storing away these snippets of information because they matter to them – because you matter to them.

When your partner recalls a small detail about you or something you’ve shared with them, take it as a beautiful sign of their love for you. After all, love is in the details.

6) They see your flaws…and love you anyway

Let’s be real here – we all have our flaws. Quirks, foibles, things we’re not proud of. But when someone truly loves you, they see those flaws… and still choose to love you.

Your partner knows that you’re not perfect, and guess what? They’re not looking for perfection. They’re looking for you – with all your strengths and flaws.

They understand that it’s these imperfections that make you uniquely you. And they wouldn’t have it any other way.

Their love is not contingent on you being flawless. They love the real, raw, honest version of you. And that’s a powerful sign of deep-seated love.

Don’t hide your flaws or feel like you need to be perfect all the time. Just be yourself, because that’s who your partner fell in love with. And if they’re truly in love with you, they’ll embrace your imperfections just as much as your virtues.

7) They support your dreams

In my journey as a relationship expert and from my own personal experiences, I’ve learned that a partner who truly loves you will support your dreams and ambitions, even if they seem out of reach or unrealistic to others.

They’re your biggest cheerleader, your number one fan. They believe in you, even when you’re having trouble believing in yourself.

The great Mark Twain once said, “Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.”

When your partner supports your dreams, it’s because they see the greatness in you. They want to be part of your journey, cheering you on every step of the way.

If your partner stands by you and encourages you to pursue your dreams, it’s a beautiful sign that their love for you runs deep. After all, love is about growing together, while also supporting each other’s individual growth.

8) They love you even on your bad days

Let’s face it, we all have our bad days. Days where we’re grumpy, irritable, or just not our best selves. But here’s the raw and honest truth – a partner who truly loves you will stick by you even on those days.

They understand that you’re human and that everyone has off days. They don’t hold it against you or take it personally. Instead, they offer comfort, a listening ear, or simply give you the space you need.

Their love isn’t conditional on you being in a good mood or having a great day. They’re in it for the long haul – the good, the bad, and everything in between.

Because true love isn’t just about loving someone when it’s easy; it’s about loving them when it’s hard too.

Final Thoughts

Recognizing love, especially the deep, enduring kind, often means looking beyond grand gestures and declarations. It’s about seeing the subtle ways your partner shows their love for you every day.

If they listen intently, prioritize your happiness, respect your boundaries, remember the small things, embrace your flaws, argue constructively with you, support your dreams and love you even on your bad days – these are clear signs they’re more in love with you than you might think.

For more insights and strategies on building a healthy and loving relationship, I invite you to check out my book Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship.

Remember, love is a journey and it’s the little moments that make it truly special. Here’s to recognizing and appreciating those moments in your relationship.