17 signs you have a bad ass, alpha personality that intimidates others

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It takes all kinds of people to make the world go round, but that doesn’t mean that everyone accepts or even likes that fact.

When it comes to personality, some people just knock heads, and that can make it hard for people to get along.

But then there are the people who don’t care about getting along with everyone, and in fact, they know that they don’t need to be liked by everyone or get along with everyone in order to be happy.

If you find yourself steering clear of the crowd and traveling your own path in life, you might have a strong personality.

Here are 17 signs you have a strong personality that most people can’t handle.

1) You Don’t Seek Attention

If you want to drive people crazy, ignore their desperate pleas for attention.

Human beings thrive on attention, so much so that any attention – good or bad – will sometimes do.

But if you are someone who has a strong personality, you don’t spend your time seeking approval from others. You are too busy living your life in your own vision, and that is enough for you.

2) You Have No Desire to Be a People Pleaser

As a person with a strong personality, you know how to say no to people, and while they might not like it, you do it because you can.

Most people suffer through overworked schedules and get hung up on helping others before themselves, and that leads to a great deal of unhappiness and excessive responsibility.

You know better, and that makes people dislike you a little. They wish they could be like you.

3) You Don’t Accept People’s Excuses

Because you are frank and upfront about your wants and needs, and because you know how to prioritize your time, you expect the same level of respect from others.

So when someone shows up late, you don’t accept their excuse. If you were able to get to the dinner party on time, why couldn’t they?

4) Small Talk Bores You

Because you are a strong-willed person and know what you want in life, small talk makes you want to jump off a bridge.

Talking to people for the sake of talking is a waste of your time. It’s also a waste of other people’s time, but they don’t realize it.

You’ve walked away from more than one boring conversation, and it makes people pretty uncomfortable to see you take such action.

5) You Call People on Their Ignorance

There’s no excuse for ignorance or insensitivity these days unless you are an actual asshole, and you know that people know better, so you don’t let them get away with their off-side remarks or ignorant comments.

It doesn’t win you any “friend of the month awards,” but you are being true to yourself and doing humanity a favor.

6) You Are True to Your Values and Morals

Above all else, if you can’t live with yourself because of something you’ve done, then you recognize that you need to change your ways.

Sometimes these changes result in complete shifts in your personality or beliefs.

But your values and morals are important to you, and you keep tabs on them to ensure you are doing right by yourself and those around you.

7) You see the life you want to live

You are not ashamed of your dreams. While others are hiding behind crappy jobs and pretending that someday they’ll go all in on themselves, you are out there doing your thing with pride and confidence.

The flip side to this is that you know what others need in their lives too.

8) You Admit When You Were Wrong

People with strong personalities often get a bad reputation for not backing down from a fight, but the truth is that strong personality types are more likely to accept defeat and look for ways to learn from the situation.

You’ve probably eaten your words more than once, but your strong personality allows you to bounce back and admit you were wrong. Weaker people need to stand tall and uphold their beliefs because it’s all they’ve got.

9) You Like Your Strong Attitude

While you are comfortable with many aspects of yourself, the thing you love the most about yourself is your strong personality.

It is the thing that gets you up and out of bed in the morning, and it helps you navigate this tricky life.

While others might find it hard to handle, you’ve got it under control, and you know how to use your strong personality to make your life amazing.

10) Your reputation precedes you

Your reputation walks into a room before you do and it’s with good reason. You are well known for being someone who is outspoken.

But you don’t just talk the talk; you walk the walk. And everyone knows it, whether they know you well or not.

11) You make decisions quickly

Your confidence in yourself exudes when you have to make a decision.

In fact, you don’t get anxious about making decisions the way others do: you see decision-making as an opportunity to learn, not fail.

12) You can reason without being emotional

One of the major pitfalls that people have is they let their emotions run their lives.

Not you. No sir. You are taking names all the way through your brain and not letting your emotions get the best of you and throw you off course.

13) Your values and morals guide everything you do

Even though you are pretty liberal in the way you do things, you are not just making decisions willy-nilly over here.

Everything you do is grounded in your beliefs and your foundations for life. You have confidence in yourself because you know where you come from.

14) You are not a people pleaser

Despite how hard some people might try to get you to bend to their will, you are not having any of it.

You don’t get any satisfaction out of giving others what they want and you won’t say yes just to get someone to stop asking.

15) You’ve got big goals

Your goals are what some people like to call “crazy.” And that’s great. But you know better than to let what other people think of you slow you down.

You are going after those dreams with eyes wide open.

16) You pick yourself up when you fall

Even the best of us fall sometimes, and when you do, you don’t let it bother you. Instead of letting things get you down, you get right back up and keep on trucking.

Others would have you stay down for a while, but that’s not how you roll.

17) You don’t wallow in self-pity

Self-pity is not even in your vocabulary. You know that feeling sorry for yourself is not getting you anywhere, and you don’t let those around you feel sorry for themselves either. It’s a great trait to have but some people would rather have a pity party on repeat.

If you find that the people around you are always trying to hold you back, have passive-aggressive things to say about your life, and often tell you to slow down, you can rest assured that you are too much for these people. But don’t change a thing. Don’t you dare.

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Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the founder, and editor of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 15 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. Check out my latest book on the Hidden Secrets of Buddhism and How it Saved My Life. If you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Facebook or Twitter.

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