Lachlan Brown
Understanding and embracing crucial life lessons early on can profoundly impact our journey.
Often, these lessons are only realized after significant time has passed, leading to missed opportunities for growth and fulfillment.
In this discussion, we’ll delve into eight transformative life lessons that, when learned early, can guide us toward a more meaningful and enriched life.
These lessons offer valuable insights that can help us navigate challenges, build stronger relationships, and find deeper satisfaction in our daily experiences.
Let’s dive in.
1. Understanding the importance of self-care
Often the hustle and bustle of life, the race to meet deadlines, and the pressure to stay at par with our peers makes us overlook a vital aspect – self-care.
Truly, it’s not about the self-indulgent spa days or indulging in retail therapy. It’s about listening to our bodies, knowing when to rest, eat well, exercise and take a break from the digital world.
Yet, most people fail to grasp the significance of this until they’ve hit a brick wall – be it burnout, a health scare or a mental breakdown.
By prioritizing self-care early on, we can not only improve our health and well-being but also become more productive and happier.
2. The irreplaceable gift of time
Here’s a personal anecdote. When I first started Hack Spirit, I was obsessed with getting as much done as possible in a day. The concept of time was just a means to an end, something that could be segmented, scheduled, and maximized for productivity.
I would often neglect my relationships, hobbies, and even health in the pursuit of achieving more. It wasn’t until my health took a severe hit and I was forced to slow down that I realized the folly of my ways.
Time is not just a resource, it’s the fabric of our life. Every moment is unique and once gone, cannot be retrieved. Spending time with loved ones, pursuing passions that make us happy, or simply taking a moment to enjoy the beauty around us are what truly enrich our lives.
As esteemed psychologist William James puts it, “The great use of life is to spend it for something that will outlast it.”
Time well spent is more valuable than time simply ‘used’.
3. Living with minimal ego
Ah, the ego! That little voice in our heads that constantly tells us we need more, do more, and be more to be happy. It’s a relentless companion that often leads us astray from our path to contentment and inner peace.
In my experience, one of the hardest lessons people learn too late is how to live with minimal ego. The realization that life isn’t a race or a competition tends to hit us when we’re already well down the path of chasing unfulfilling goals.
In my book, Hidden Secrets of Buddhism: How To Live With Maximum Impact and Minimum Ego, I delve deeper into how this ancient wisdom can help us in our modern lives. The teachings of Buddhism provide incredible insights into living life with less ego and more compassion, leading to a more fulfilling existence.
As Albert Einstein once said, “More the knowledge lesser the ego, lesser the knowledge more the ego…”
4. Not all relationships are meant to last
The realm of interpersonal relationships is a complex one, and has much to say about it. A significant lesson that most people learn far too late is that not all relationships, whether they are friendships or romantic partnerships, are meant to last forever.
People change, grow, and sometimes, they just grow apart. It’s a natural process of life. Holding onto relationships that no longer serve you or hinder your growth can lead to emotional distress and stunted personal development.
The key is to understand when a relationship has run its course and it’s time to let go. This doesn’t mean it didn’t have value or it was a failure – it just means it’s over.
As is often said, “Change is the one constant in the universe”.
Accepting this truth can make transitions in relationships less painful and more empowering.
5. Failure is part of the journey
Here’s something that might throw you for a loop: Failure is not a bad thing. In fact, it’s a crucial part of the journey to success.
While we often see failure as a sign of defeat or incompetence, the truth suggests otherwise. Failure can actually serve as a powerful tool for growth and learning.
When we fail, we gain invaluable insights about what doesn’t work, which can guide us to strategies that do. It also builds resilience, a key trait for tackling life’s challenges.
However, most people only realize the value of failure after they’ve spent years avoiding it.
Remember the words of Thomas Edison, the prolific inventor who famously said, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”
When you stumble upon failure, view it not as a setback but as another stepping stone on your path to success.
6. The value of being present
In our fast-paced, digital-driven world, it’s easy to get lost in the noise. We’re either dwelling on past mistakes or anxiously planning for a future that hasn’t arrived yet.
One crucial lesson that people often learn late is the value of being truly present in the moment. Mindfulness, the practice of focusing on the here and now, has been shown to reduce stress, increase happiness and improve overall well-being.
Yet, it often takes a major life event for people to realize the importance of living in the present.
As renowned psychologist and mindfulness proponent Jon Kabat-Zinn said, “The best way to capture moments is to pay attention. This is how we cultivate mindfulness.”
Let’s strive to pay more attention to our present moments – they’re all we truly have.
7. It’s okay to ask for help
There was a time when the weight of the world seemed to rest squarely on my shoulders. Between running Hack Spirit, writing books, and trying to maintain some semblance of a personal life, it felt like I was juggling too many balls.
The turning point came when I realized a simple, yet profound truth: It’s okay to ask for help. We’re often under the illusion that asking for help is a sign of weakness or incompetence. But in reality, it’s a testament to our strength and humility.
Accepting that we can’t do everything alone not only lightens our load, but also opens doors to new perspectives and ideas. It fosters teamwork and builds stronger relationships.
As the wise psychologist Abraham Maslow said, “It is tempting, if the only tool you have is a hammer, to treat everything as if it were a nail.”
It’s okay to ask others for their tools too.
8. Happiness is an inside job
Many of us spend our lives in pursuit of happiness. We chase after success, wealth, the perfect relationship, thinking that these will bring us happiness. But often, we find that even after achieving these milestones, happiness remains elusive.
The truth is, happiness isn’t something that comes from external circumstances. It’s an inside job.
Genuine happiness comes from cultivating a positive mindset, practicing gratitude and finding purpose in our lives. It’s about finding joy in the small things and learning to be content with what we have.
Yet, most people learn this vital lesson far too late in life.
As the famous psychologist Carl Rogers said, “The good life is a process, not a state of being. It is a direction not a destination.”
Let’s shift our focus from the pursuit of happiness to the happiness of pursuit.
Final thoughts: The beauty of hindsight
Reflecting on these eight lessons, it’s clear that wisdom often comes with age and experience. Yet, the beauty of such knowledge is that it can be shared, potentially helping others to understand these truths earlier in life.
The relationship between our experiences and our psychological understanding of them is complex, but endlessly fascinating.
For instance, comprehending the importance of self-care or the value of time may seem simple on paper, but it often takes a personal encounter or a life-changing event for these truths to truly resonate.
In my book, Hidden Secrets of Buddhism: How To Live With Maximum Impact and Minimum Ego, I delve deeper into some of these life lessons, providing readers with practical ways to implement them for a more fulfilling life journey.
As Carl Jung once said, “Your visions will become clear only when you can look into your own heart.” So let’s strive to look within, learn from our past and embrace the wisdom that life offers us.
In the end, these are not just lessons learned too late in life. They’re stepping stones to a richer, more mindful existence. And it’s never too late to start walking that path.
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