We’ve all met a strong woman before. You know, the type with the confidence and zest that lights up any room she enters.
She knows exactly what she wants in life and how she’s going to get there.
And if you’re lucky enough to be in her inner circle, she wants to help you achieve your goals so you can get the most out of your life.
And despite what most people are led to believe when they see her walking confidently down the street, a strong woman isn’t cold or “bitchy”. She’s just careful and selective with who she enables to get close to her.
From my experience, these type of women have similar characteristics and habits that allow them to be the way they are.
Here are 16 good character traits of a strong woman that intimidate a lot of men.
First off, what is an alpha/strong female?
According to an academic paper at Walden University on the Leadership Influences of the Veteran Alpha Female Leader, an alpha female is:
“Alpha woman as a self-assured, goal-driven, competitive, high achiever who maintained egalitarian beliefs and did not perceive any distinction between herself and her male counterparts.”
Are men intimidated by alpha/strong females?
Not necessarily. In fact, many say they are not.
However, it’s important to note that men do, in general, seem to be intimidated by female power in the workplace.
A study on the dynamic between male employees and their female bosses, published in Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin found that in a lab setting at least, male subordinates felt threatened by their female superiors.
The lead researcher of the study, Ekaterina Netchaeva of Bocconi University in Milan, said that “because women are perceived to be less suitable for leadership positions than men…men might feel particularly inferior working in roles subordinate to women.”
So in this article, I’m going to speculate why some men might feel intimidated by alpha females.
I’ll go through 15 traits I believe you have if you’re an alpha or strong female and why that might make some men feel uncomfortable:
1) She’s in control of her group
When there’s a group of females, she’s the one they all turn to for advice.
In fact, you’ll find most of the group will have their feet pointed in her direction.
She holds the group together and leads the way when it comes to direction. Without her, the group would fall apart.
Most men struggle to deal with a woman who likes to take the lead.
2) Other females copy her movements
A strong woman’s leaned back, non-needy body language is the envy of every woman around here.
So you know what all the other females do? Subconsciously, they copy her!
It’s no wonder why.
Copying the alpha female’s movements will make any woman appear more confident, hip and sexy.
3) They empower men
A strong and confident woman wants to be with an equally strong and confident man. And she knows exactly how to empower him to be one.
There’s a fascinating new concept in relationship psychology which is generating a lot of buzz at the moment. It goes to the heart of what women can do to bring out the best in their man.
People are calling it the hero instinct.
The simple truth is that men have a biological urge to provide for and protect women. It’s hardwired into them.
By making him feel like an everyday hero, it unleashes his protective instincts and the most noble aspect of his masculinity. Most importantly, it will unleash his deepest feelings of attraction.
And the kicker?
A man won’t fall for a woman when this thirst isn’t satisfied.
I know it sounds kind of silly. A strong woman doesn’t need someone to rescue them. They don’t need a ‘hero’ in their lives.
But here’s the ironic truth. Men do still need to be a hero. Because it’s built into their DNA to seek out relationships that allow them to feel like a protector.
And the few women who actually realize that can gain a lot of strength and power in the way they approach their relationships.
To learn exactly how to trigger the hero instinct in your man, check out this free online video by James Bauer. He’s an experienced relationship psychologist who first introduced the concept.
Some ideas really are life-changing. And for relationships, I think this is one of them.
4) She stands up for what she believes in
If you’re not taking her opinion seriously, then she’ll make you learn some manners.
This takes a lot of men back because they’re not used to being questioned so directly.
A strong woman has passionate beliefs and she’ll have her opinion heard. If something comes up that she doesn’t agree with, she won’t hesitate to express herself and let her feelings out.
An strong woman is a passionate creature that fights for what’s right.
5) She’s mentally tough
There’s one thing that you know for sure about a strong woman: She’s been through a lot in life and it’s only made her stronger.
She’ll deal with failures, injustice and tricky situations in the same way she always has: With grit, determination and a willingness to learn.
Likewise, if she makes a promise to you, you know she’ll keep it, no matter how difficult it might be to achieve.
6) She respects herself and others
A strong woman sticks to her principles and what’s morally right. She upholds her strong values and maintains her dignity.
One value that is paramount to the way she lives her life is treating others with kindness and respect.
She understands that everybody goes through sh*t in life, and that she’s in no place to judge.
However, if you don’t uphold her strict moral system, she won’t hesitate to let you know to get back in your lane.
Sexist and toxic men take note: she’ll make a fool of you in a public situation and won’t feel bad about it.
7) She lives by the truth
She’s got no time for lies and values the truth no matter how hard it is to hear. She never makes up stories or exaggerates. She hates people that feel the need to do that.
She sticks to what she knows: the truth!
8) She won’t play games
She’s straight forward: She expresses what’s on her mind and what she needs.
If you’re trying to “one-up” her then you better watch out: She’ll put you back in your lane and let you know that you’re an idiot.
Competitive men simply don’t know how to act when they’re in her presence.
This is life and she wants to enjoy it. She refuses to engage in any passive aggressive or manipulative behavior.
9) She won’t hesitate to walk away from you
If you’re treating her like crap, she simply won’t have it. She’ll walk away no matter how long you’ve known her.
If you’re a guy and you’re dating her then you need to be warned: Treat her without respect and she’ll tell you to go back to where you came from.
She isn’t “clingy” or “needy” like those other girls, and she won’t hesitate to leave if you make her life even slightly worse.
10) They know how to ask for help
A little surprised with this one? After all, a strong and independent woman doesn’t need help from anyone, right?
A strong woman realizes that to achieve anything in this life, you need help from others. You can’t do it all alone.
They’re not afraid to ask for advice or for help as it’s the only way she’ll move forward in life.
I mean, humans working together is why our civilization has progressed.
She won’t take advantage of others either. A strong woman knows that to get help from others, you need to give help whenever you’re able to.
It’s how the cycle of things work.
11) She sees the good in others
Every person has a piece of good in them. You just need to find it.
A strong woman knows that most people have good intentions. That’s why she’s so polite to all those desperate men who approach her for her number.
Most of all, she treats people with respect and kindness. Just like Plato said, “Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a harder battle.”
12) She lives in the moment
A strong woman realizes that the past doesn’t exist, the future hasn’t arrived, and the only thing that really matters is the present moment.
Every moment has something to be grateful for, and you’ll be much happier if you strive to find it.
She also believes that the present moment is where the future is created. If you work hard and stick to your priorities and goals, your future self will be incredibly thankful.
13) She is the anti-drama
Gossiping about others because it feels good? Please!
A strong woman hates this kind of negative energy. She knows toxic people are soul-sucking vampires and there’s no reason they won’t be bad mouthing you behind your back.
She prefers to talk about meaningful topics, such as, what’s your purpose in life and how technology is going to change our future.
14) Happy to have a partner, but also not afraid to be alone
The best relationships are ones that allow you to grow and be free. A strong woman knows that unhealthy attachments are full of danger.
You don’t need to rely on someone else to make you happy. You need to be happy with yourself first.
This is why an alpha female isn’t afraid of being alone. She’ll be happy anyway.
But if you can add to her happiness, then go ahead and come on in. But if you’re bringing in toxic energy, then you need to get out of this woman’s way.
This is most men struggle to deal with her. They want to get something from her so she’s onto them quicker than you can imagine.
15) She plans pockets of enjoyment for herself
We all have individual passions and activities that make us happy. A strong woman makes time for these because it’s essential to her wellbeing.
If she’s able to spend time meditating or walking on the beach alone, she’ll be a happier and brighter person when she’s around others.
16) She knows what she wants
Because she spends time with herself and is comfortable in her own skin, she knows exactly what she really wants in life.
It’s not material wealth. A strong woman knows that this is superficial and won’t bring lasting happiness.
Instead, she strives to create meaning and creativity in her work that helps others, because that’s what makes her happy.
Her dreams and the path to achieving them are cemented in her mind. There’s no self-doubt, if she wants something, she’ll go for it. She’ll also seek help from others but won’t rely on that help.
If she has to do it herself, she’ll simply do the best she can.
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