Have you ever noticed that people act different around you? Like they’re just not themselves?
It’s not because they don’t like you. In fact, it’s quite the opposite.
You see, your personality is so strong and unique that they don’t know how to handle you.
Most of us are used to dealing with people we can immediately get. People we can put into a “box”.
But you are unique. You know who you are and what you want in this world. Some people call it authenticity. Others call it depth.
But the truth is, everyone wants to be like you. Staying true to yourself is one of the most liberating ways to live.
I mean, who wouldn’t want to be liberated from the limiting chains of society’s stereotypes?
So if you find that people don’t know how to act around you, you may identify with these 7 signs of people with a unique personality (that everybody secretly admires):
1) Your life isn’t fear-driven
We all experience fear. For some people, it destroys their ability to try new things and experience life fully.
But you are unique. For you, fear is just another emotion you’ve learned to accept. You know you’re going to experience fear when you try something new.
But you also know that growth only occurs when you escape your comfort zone.
The bottom line is this:
2) You don’t waste your time on gossiping
We’ve all met the person who thrives on gossiping about others. It’s like they get a thrill from complaining.
But you find this toxic.
There’s way too much you want to experience in this world to focus on petty issues like who’s dating who and what people you find annoying.
You’d rather have deep conversations.
You only get life once, so why not talk about the magnificence of the universe and life itself?
3) You love to listen and learn about other people
Learning is what gets your juices flowing. And when you learn about someone else, it makes you feel like you’re entering a whole new beautiful and complex world.
This makes you an amazing conversationalist, because the other person feels like they’re the only person on the planet at the time.
This immediately puts others at ease and makes them comfortable.
You know that too many people’s egos drive conversations. But when you’re in conversation, egos are checked at the door.
4) You are careful about who you let into your life
You won’t rely on other people to tell you who you are, what you are and what you can do.
You know exactly what’s important and who’s important in your life.
If someone is going to give condescending advice, you simply won’t have it.
For you, life is better experienced with optimistic and positive people that push each other to be the best that they can be.
5) You can’t stand insensitivity, idiocy or ignorance
Your self-taught knowledge is something you’re immensely proud of.
So when people make instant judgments about people and things they don’t know anything about, it irks you to your core.
You’ve put time into your brain and you encourages others to do the same.
In a world of Google and algorithmic newsfeeds you have no control over, you know that thinking for yourself is one of the most important qualities one can have.
6) You don’t need attention
Craving attention because of your looks or status is something you simply can’t understand.
You know it’s superficial, fleeting and ultimately meaningless.
You’d rather be recognized for your complexity and depth. That’s why you take time to get know someone. You know there’s so much more to a person than what appears on the surface.
7) You take insecurity as an opportunity
You know you’re not perfect. In fact, you know that nobody is.
The only thing you enjoy doing is learning and evolving, despite the risk of looking like a fool.
You know that everybody is insecure. But you also know that not everyone has to stop this insecurity from letting them live their life and own the things they’re insecure about.
Sure, your depth and authenticity can be difficult to be around for some people, but that’s only because they can’t put you into a stereotypical box.
The truth is, you’re someone they secretly admire because you’ve broken the handcuffs of society that doesn’t want you to be all that you can be.
You’re living your life the way you want and it’s inspiring for anyone that’s lucky enough to join you on your journey.
8) You can’t stand small talk
For you, small talk is boring, superficial and meaningfulness. That’s why you struggle to pay attention when someone tries to small talk with you.
“How bad is the weather at the moment?” Please! You’ve got deeper things on your mind.
You want to know what someone’s purpose in life is. What makes them tick. What are they really thinking when they look up at the night sky.
The problem is, a lot of people love small talk. They thrive on it. They engage in it as much as they can as they go about their day.
So when they come across you, they know that you’re different. Perhaps you come off as a little rude, or superior. But it’s not your fault. You just want to truly know someone for who they are. You certainly don’t care if someone’s day was “good”.
That’s why your personality is deep and unique.
9) To you, beauty is much more than skin deep
We all know what society’s standard of beauty is. Thin, beautiful bright-eyed stunners. But for you, appearance doesn’t really mean anything.
After all, how you look says nothing about your experience, your past, your deepest thoughts and what your purpose in life is.
In your eyes, appearance is meaningless and it irks you to your core that so much focus is put on people’s looks in this capitalistic and materialist society.
You know what’s true to beauty to you? A soul. A soul that has been through challenges, tribulations, suffering, and yet, is still here to tell the story. That’s true beauty.
10) You love learning and expanding your mind
Let’s face it: Most people hate learning. It’s mental effort, it’s annoying and they’d much rather watch TV and let their mind melt.
But for you, learning is what gives you energy. You love to expand your mind with facts, wisdom and experiences from people who have truly been through all the ups and downs that life has to offer.
Watch neflix? Nah, you’d rather read a book from Confucius or Buddha on what it really means to live a life of purpose.
The problem is, most people aren’t like you. They don’t care about intellectual topics and they’d rather focus on banality.
That’s why most people struggle to get you. But don’t fear, when you meet someone who is similar to you and loves expanding their mind, the connection between the two of you will ignite like a lightning strike that neither one of you are prepared for.
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