Do you ever feel like people treat you differently? Like they want to tell you something but they keep their mouth shut?
It’s not that they’re scared of you.
They’re just having a hard time figuring you out.
You see, your personality is so unique that they can’t fit you into a neat and tidy box or category.
And most people use “stereotypes” to successfully communicate with others.
In other words, they simply aren’t prepared to deal with your complexity, depth and ability to think for yourself.
This is intimidating for some people as they don’t know what to do when they’re around you.
If you think this might be the case, here 7 things you’ll probably relate to.
1) You Don’t Let Fear Rule Your Life
Children don’t have fear. It takes years of conditioning and telling them over and over again that they should be afraid of things.
Luckily, some of those children grow up to be adults who didn’t listen and now get to enjoy a life without fear. You’re a free spirit.
That doesn’t mean they play in traffic every other day, but it does mean that they see the payoff of a venture before they worry about what it takes to achieve their goals.
If you are someone who can make decisions without fear, or without letting the fear stop you, it’s likely that people have thought you crazy or looked twice when you made a leap of faith.
It’s hard to describe people like that, and therefore, it’s hard to lump you in with an entire planet of people afraid to move.
2) You Don’t Participate in Gossip
If gossip isn’t your thing, you’ve likely experienced a blank stare or two from conversations where gossip arose, and you didn’t bother to participate in it.
People kind of just expect you to go along with them when they are bitching about something or someone and when you don’t engage with them, you’ve left them hanging.
Of course, you don’t mean to make them feel awkward, but it’s more important that you don’t talk about people. It’ll be weird for some people when they realize you don’t gossip, but you won’t worry about that either.
3) You Don’t Spend All Your Time Talking About Yourself
One thing that makes you different from a lot of other people is that you don’t talk about yourself all the time.
You like to learn about other people. You like to hear about their lives and their adventures. Gaining inspiration from those around you helps to build you up. Plus, you are giving most people what they want: a chance to shine.
So, it’s a win-win situation. People will either love you for it or hate you for it, but you don’t care.
Being generous with your attention is tricky because people don’t always know what to do with dedicated attention, and that makes it hard to attach a stereotype to you.
4) You Don’t Let Just Anyone In Your Life
Because you know yourself well and understand what it is you need from relationships, your circle of friends is small.
You don’t look for external sources of energy or attention, and that means that you aren’t like a lot of other people.
It’s likely that you have lost friends over the years because they didn’t know how to handle you and your personality, but the ones who remain get you and respect you.
And if you’re going to have a relationship, you need to make sure you achieve your goals within that relationship.
5) You Don’t Accept Ignorance
Unfortunately, people are a lot more ignorant than they like to admit or even see in themselves. But you see it, and you don’t accept it, ever.
This makes for some uncomfortable conversations when you have to tell someone to open their eyes to the other side of a story or to consider what their words are doing to another person.
You believe that there is no excuse for ignorance and you won’t have it in your life. What does society do with such a person? How can they label that? It scares them, so people won’t like you for speaking your mind.
6) You Don’t Seek Attention From People
You draw your energy from within and find it exhausting that people seek constant attention.
But you get it, which only fuels their misunderstanding more. You respect that everyone is different and has their own way of living, but you don’t need to participate in social media buzz and attention seeking to qualify your life.
You stand outside the fire, and that’s tough for some people to swallow.
7) You Pursue Insecurities to Look for Opportunities
While most people would throw in the towel after hitting a roadblock, you take the time to ask yourself whether that roadblock is really there or is it coming from inside yourself?
After all, many of us never reach out potential because we stop ourselves from going a little bit further. You like finding out what happens if you keep going, and that makes you a really unique type of person.
It also makes you had to categorize, which means people will continue to misunderstand you and your personality in life.
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