What’s the secret to happiness?
It’s not an easy question to answer.
So why does the Dalai Lama appear peaceful, present and happy all the time?
Does he know some happiness secrets that we don’t?
Actually yes he does!
For thousands of years, Buddhist philosophy has focused solely on how to reduce human suffering and keep the mind focused on the present moment.
And today, we’re going to go through the Dalai Lama’s most important principles and habits that we can all adopt in our daily lives.
While they may appear difficult at first, if you keep at it, they’ll benefit you for a lifetime.
1) Be compassionate
“The topic of compassion is not at all religious business; it is important to know it is human business, it is a question of human survival.” – Dalai Lama
Not only is showing compassion good for the person you’re being compassionate with, but research has shown that it also results in “giver’s high”. The benefits of this are reduced stress, a more regular heart beat and an improved immune system.
2) Be Kind
“This is my simple religion. There is no need for temples; no need for complicated philosophy. Our own brain, our own heart is our temple; the philosophy is kindness.” – The Dalai Lama
I think we can all agree that we would like to live in a society where people are kind to each other. Research has shown that people who gave away money were happier than when they spent it on themselves. Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible.
3) Find Happiness
“The purpose of our lives is to be happy.” – Dalai Lama
In western society, we’re taught that if we obtain expensive material objects, we will be happy. But according to The Dalai Lama, this won’t lead to happiness. Instead, compassion, kindness, patience and tolerance will lead to inner peace.
4) Discover Inner Peace.
“Spend some time alone everyday.” – The Dalai Lama
The Dalai Lama believes that we must spend time alone each day. It’s important to get know yourself and be comfortable with who you are. A calm mind is your source of happiness.
5) Do No Harm
“If you can, help others; if you cannot do that, at least do not harm them.” – Dalai Lama
Start thinking about how you’re treating other people. No one deserves to be intentionally put down. A good rule of thumb is to aim to make someone happier from the time they met you.
6) Nurture your friendships.
“We can live without religion and meditation, but we cannot survive without human affection.” – The Dalai Lama
Your close relationships are one of the most important sources of happiness, so make sure you give them the time they deserve. Real friendships never depend on money or material objects, but instead thrive on trust, love and openness.
7) Don’t argue or fight, just negotiate.
“Non-violence means dialogue, using our language, the human language. Dialogue means compromise; respecting each other’s rights; in the spirit of reconciliation there is a real solution to conflict and disagreement. There is no hundred percent winner, no hundred percent loser—not that way but half-and-half. That is the practical way, the only way.” – The Dalai Lama
Whether it’s a fight with your boss, or an international crisis, anger and fighting rarely work. Instead, dialogue is where real progress is made.
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