7 brutal facts about relationships everyone should know before getting married

Despite the number of people who are deciding to stay single for the rest of their lives, the majority of the population is still searching for that someone special to spend the remainder of their days with.

If you are considering marriage, or if you want to get married in the future, there are some things you should know that could help you maintain a successful marriage for years to come.

Here are 7 brutal facts everyone should know about relationships before getting married.

1) You’re not attached at the hip

Once you get married, it might be hard to forget that you lived an entire life without this person and you could go on to live an entire life without them again.

For newly weds, it can be a real eye opener when one partner remembers what it’s like to have independence and it can be taxing on a relationship when someone tries to regain that independence but still wants to be married.

2) Get excited about your partner’s good news

If you want to find lasting success in your marriage, don’t be jealous about your partner’s success. If your partner has good news, consider it good news for everyone and celebrate accordingly.

Everyone pulls their weight equally these days – we can’t afford not to – so don’t feel left behind if your spouse is moving up the corporate ladder or is finding success outside of your relationship.

3) Your partner should be your best friend

Sure, you have best friends outside of your marriage, but if you want your marriage to work, your spouse should be your go-to person for the majority of the good, the bad, and the ugly in your life.

If you can’t trust your spouse with information about you, then maybe they shouldn’t be your spouse.

4) Age plays a big part in divorce

Studies show that couples that are closer in age are more likely to stay married. And it’s no wonder. Why a big age difference might not matter when you are 20 and 30 years old, when you start reaching higher numbers, life phases can change quickly.

It’s hard to imagine a 35 year old having anything in common with a 55 year old, and they are more likely to get divorced because of it.

5) Resentment can come out of everyday things like chores

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When you get married, you might as well face facts that everyone in the household is responsible for everything in the household.

If you want to maintain a happy marriage, both partners need to do their fair share of the chores. It seems silly, but resentment builds up fast when one partner feels undervalued or exploited for what they do around the house.

6) Waiting to get married can be beneficial

People who wait to get married until they are at least 23 years old are more likely to find success in their marriage. Wait, who are these people getting married before 23 years of age? Seriously, that’s so young.

7) Being “in love” doesn’t last forever

A lot of couples report the “honeymoon phase” lasts about a year and then they settle into their relationship and have to find new and interesting ways to connect with each other.

If you want to create spice in your marriage, you need to stay open to communication, spend time together, and make sure you don’t become resentful of one another. It’s not always easy, but it can be worth the effort.

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