You know the saying, “don’t judge a book by the cover”, but when it comes to sizing people up, first impressions can be hard to overcome.
For people with strong personality types, like those who have been branded “alphas”, it can be difficult for people to get close to them. Not because they are hard to get close to, but because of the way they come off when you first meet them.
Trust me, I believe that I’m an alpha personality and I know exactly how tough it can be.
We’re often thought to be overbearing and aggressive, but really, alpha personalities have a lot more going on beneath the surface than many people realize.
What’s more, many alphas don’t realize their personalities are actually making others feel uncomfortable or intimidated.
I believe there are 6 signs that make an alpha personality intimidate others. Keep in mind that this is just my opinion from my experience. You may know of different signs or may have had different experiences.
1) You Always Say What’s on Your Mind
While people say they want to hear the truth, it can be hard to hear when someone is actually giving it to you. In my experience, alphas are known for their “straight to the point” personality, and sometimes their bark is worse than their bite.
2) You Are Wise Beyond Your Years
While alpha personality types are often very outgoing and extroverted, they also do a great deal of introspective reflecting and know themselves well.
I believe that this can make others uncomfortable when they realize you know your stuff, and can figure things out faster, better, and in a more efficient way than other personality types.
3) You See Solutions Where Others See Only Problems
While everyone else is running around like chickens with their heads cut off worrying about the world’s end, you are over there getting things done.
In my experience, alpha personalities can see a problem from a 30,000 foot level and know the path to success within minutes.
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4) Your Tolerance for Ignorance is Non-existent
Because you say what you think and mean what you say, you expect people to do the same. This means that people who are ignorant don’t stand a chance with you. Even if they are being ignorant without purpose.
You’ll call them on their crap and expect them to change their ways if they want to enjoy the pleasure of your company.
5) You Love New Things
I believe that alpha personality types have a strong desire to try new things. Their confidence enables them to try and fail repeatedly without being knocked down. This is why they love first dates.
This also means that they are more likely to be single, adventure alone, travel the world by themselves, and enjoy taking risks. This can be a lot for people to process and can result in people keeping their distance from alphas.
6) You Cut to the Chase
In my experience, strong personalities exert a lot of energy on moving their lives forward, which means that they don’t have time for small talk. They know what is important to them and they don’t waste time doing things that aren’t on that list. So if you find yourself face to face with an alpha personality, don’t take offense to their standoffish ways. That’s just who they are.
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