We all know that one person who would throw you under the bus to get what they want in life, but they don’t actually do it because they can’t find anyone to pick you up and throw you under the bus for them.
You know, the people who think they should have been born with a silver spoon in their mouth, or maybe the people who were, but can’t quite understand why things aren’t working out for them in real life?
It’s called entitlement. And many, many people suffer from the very real problems that come about as a result of it. Of course, they’d never admit this mess is all their own doing, because, you know, they are entitled. It’s always someone else’s fault.
Here’s how you can spot a person who has a real sense of entitlement.
1) They Don’t Even See Other People.
A sense of entitlement means that people only see and care about their own needs. They will expect everyone around them to go out of their way to help them in all walks of life.
They need help getting to and from work – and it’s your problem because they have a job to get you.
They need help paying rent – which is also your problem because you don’t want them to be homeless do you?
They lost that job and now they need you to get them a job – because, you know, they can’t look for one themselves.
It’s a real problem and it causes a wide range of problems for everyone around these people.
2) They Think Everything Belongs to Them.
Regardless of whether they want to use your pen or your home, people with a sense of entitlement have no sense of boundaries.
They have no idea the work that went into acquiring the pen or the home and therefore have no sense of pride or ownership over it.
But they’ll flash that pen to their friends and brag about how they got it without having to life a finger.
People with a sense of entitlement have a problem admitting that they need help to do a lot of things in life, and instead of asking for that help they demand it in the form of taking and infringing on the lives of others without any regard for how they might be taking too much from certain people.
3) They’ll Leave You Licking Your Wounds.
Whether they cut in front of you at the grocery store or they grab your seat when you get up to get popcorn at the movies, people with a sense of entitlement make you feel like you are not worthy of the things they seem to be worthy of – they make you feel oppressed, actually.
There’s just no nice way to say it. They’ll take and take and expect you to roll over and give them everything you have. They don’t make any apologies for it either.
It’s a tricky spot to find yourself in because they are going to make you feel so angry and hurt, but you won’t feel it’s your place to say anything. Wow, talk about a rock and a hard place.
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You’ll leave the store or the party feeling like all of humanity is just awful and you’ll spend way more time than you should complaining about this person.
It’s just the way it goes when you are dealing with someone who has such a high sense of self that they push everyone else out of their way.
4) They Invite You to Their Pity Party.
The trouble with people who have a sense of entitlement is that this entitlement doesn’t actually make them happy.
In fact, it leaves them lacking in many areas of their lives without the wherewithal to turn things around for themselves.
The irony is that they think they can do and have anything, but the truth of the matter is that they can’t make those things happen for themselves.
So they are perpetually unhappy. Even when they get what they want, it doesn’t fulfil their needs and the pity party continues.
So not only is someone with a sense of entitlement taking from you all the time without apology, they are also unloading all of their emotional baggage on you too.
It’s exhausting and unfair, and unfortunately, isn’t going to change anytime soon.
So if you find yourself in the presence of someone who is demonstrating a sense of entitlement, it’s best to just turn on your heel and walk the other way.
You can’t fix these people. Hell, they can’t fix themselves. You can bet they’ll ask you for a ride as you are walking away though, so be ready for that one.
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