We all know the type. The people that seem to know how to instinctively irritate and anger us. It can be hard to figure out how to deal with them, especially when they can be manipulative and toxic. So below, we’ve collated some wonderful quotes from psychologists, spiritual gurus, sages and rappers that will provide some handy advice to know how to deal with difficult people.
“Knowing your own darkness is the best method for dealing with the darknesses of other people.” – Carl Jung
“When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but with creatures of emotion, creatures bristling with prejudice, and motivated by pride and vanity.” – Dale Carnegie
“Dealing with backstabbers, there was one thing I learned. They’re only powerful when you got your back turned.” – Eminem
“Seek the best in everyone that you meet. Seek the worst when dealing with yourself.” – Sasha Azevedo
“If you have some respect for people as they are, you can be more effective in helping them to become better than they are.” – John W. Gardner
“Respect…is appreciation of the separateness of the other person, of the ways in which he or she is unique.” – Annie Gottlieb (Okay, so they may be unique at how well they can push your buttons.) 🙂
“If we are ever in doubt about what to do, it is a good rule to ask ourselves what we shall wish on the morrow that we had done.” – John Lubbock
“I don’t have to attend every argument I’m invited to.” – Unknown
“If it was necessary to tolerate in other people everything that one permits oneself, life would be unbearable.” – Georges Courteline
“In all men is evil sleeping; the good man is he who will not awaken it, in himself or in other men.” – Mary Renault
“We are constantly being put to the test by trying circumstances and difficult people and problems not necessarily of our own making.” – Terry Brooks
“It usually takes two people a little while to learn where the funny buttons are and testy buttons are.” – Matt Lauer
“I cannot make the universe obey me. I cannot make other people conform to my own whims and fancies. I cannot make even my own body obey me.” – Thomas Merton
“Parents know how to push your buttons because, hey, they sewed them on.” – Camryn Manheim
“Everybody has a hot button. Who is pushing yours? While you probably cannot control that person, you CAN control the way you react to them.” – Unknown
As I grow older, I pay less attention to what men say. I just watch what they do ~ Andrew Carnegie
At some point we must make a decision not to allow the mere threat of charges of cultural or religious insensitivity to stop us from dealing with this evil ~ Armstrong Williams
Be careful in dealing with a man who cares nothing for comfort or promotion, but is simply determined to do what he believes to be right. He is a dangerous uncomfortable enemy, because his body, which you can always conquer, gives you little purchase upon his soul ~ Gilbert Murray
Be courteous to all but intimate with few and let those be well-tried before you give them your confidence ~ George Washington
Beginning today, treat everyone you meet as if they were going to be dead by midnight. Extend them all the care, kindness and understanding you can muster. Your life will never be the same again ~ Og Mandino
Being one requires our souls to be one being ~ Michael Sage
By trying to be everything to everybody, you could soon find yourself being a nobody ~ Michael Sage
Charity, good behaviour, amiable speech, unselfishness — these by the chief sage have been declared the elements of popularity ~ Burmese Proverb
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