58 body language secrets that will tell you if he wants to get with you or get the hell away from you

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There’s no question that trying to figure out if a guy is into you or not is mind-numbingly difficult.

It’s so hard to tell if someone likes you that some women have avoided dating for years. How can you tell? How do you know? What if you are wrong?

It’s all just a little too much to even think about enjoying the prospect of meeting someone new.

Sometimes it all comes down to the body language of men.

Here are 58 body language clues that say he’s interested in you – definitely. So you can stop wondering and start doing something about it.

Body language of men in love: 58 clues he’s interested

1) Eyebrow Raise

If a man cocks his eyebrows at you, it means you intrigue him. It’s a classic male body language sign of attraction.

2) Parting Lips

He’s imagining himself moving in for the kiss. Plus, it makes him look more “open” to you, so he can appear more approachable.

3) Flaring Nostrils

This is a primal instinct that has hung around since the stone age – when men get excited their nostrils flare.

4) Showboating

If he’s showing off in front of you, he’s definitely interested. Peacocking, showboating, showing off: whatever you call it, he’s putting on that show for you.

5) Grooming

A man who likes you will constantly fix his tie, jacket, and shirt to make sure he is presentable to you. It’s actually called preening, and it’s common body language from a guy that likes you.

6) Fixing His Hair

Playing with his hair? Oh yeah, he’s into you. Men will continue to “groom” themselves to show you that they want to look their best just for you.

7) Wide Open Eyes

In addition to raised eyebrows, men who are interested in you will listen with their eyes wide open as if to take more of you in. It’s a good sign that he’s a good listener for your own future reference.

8) Fixing his Socks

It seems funny but watch to see if a man adjusts his socks. He’ll leave no part of him lagging behind if he’s got a thing for you.

9) Standing Tall

Another primal male body language sign of attraction: men like to show off their stature as a way to win over a woman. He’ll be sticking his chest out, and his hips will be square, and he’ll stand every chance he gets to show you his body.

10) Checking out the Goods

If you are still wondering if you likes you, watch to see if he checks out your body. He will. They all do, so don’t get offended.

11) Spread Legs

Men have a funny way of showing women that they are interested in them; for example, men will sit across from you with their legs spread wide open as if to show you their crotch. Weird, but true.

12) Hands on Hips

Power posing is a thing men do all the time subconsciously. Like standing tall, they want to make sure you see the best side of them.

13) Playing with His Clothes

If he’s nervous because he likes you, he’ll fix his shirt over and over again, and he might even button and unbutton his jacket to try to release some nervous energy.

14) Touching His Face

When men are excited their faces because more tingly and he’ll start to touch his face and lips in a subconscious way. This could also indicate that he’s nervous (perhaps because he likes you) or he’s interested in you as touching one’s face is a male body language sign of attraction.

15) Fiddle with his Glass

More nervous energy trying to make its way out of the body, men will play with anything around them to let the energy out: glass, bottle, watch, keys.

16) Leaning In

This is an obvious body language of men in love sign. He’ll sit on the edge of his seat while he talks to you and he’ll lean in to let you know that you are interesting to him. Don’t be weirded out by this; he’s genuinely interested in listening to you.

17) Touching Your Back

If you walk near each other, he’ll place his hand near the small of your back to guide you through a noisy party or bar. Plus, he wants to show all the other men that he’s got this. Plus, it’s a reason to touch you and seem like a gentleman all at the same time.

18) Offers His Coat

Offering you his coat is just one small way he can show you that he’s interested in you.

Anything he does that puts himself out, like offering you his food, a ride home, or walking you to the bus, will let you know that he’s definitely interested in you because he’s putting your needs before his own.

19) His smile says it all

This is a clear body language of men falling in love sign. If he is always smiling at you and smiling when you look at him, there’s a pretty good chance he likes you.

If you get that warm, fuzzy feeling when you catch him smiling, it’s a sure thing.

20) He locks eyes with you as much as possible 

You might be having the time of your life across the room, but when you look in his direction, it’s all eyes on you. He can’t take his eyes off you.

21) He faces you when he talks to you

If he’s not turned toward you when you are having a conversation, he’s probably not into you. If he is, however, squared with your body, he definitely likes you.

22) He’s not faking it when he laughs around you

You can just tell that his belly laugh is genuine and whether you are laughing together or he is laughing at something you said, it’s the real thing.

23) He speaks louder when you are within earshot

Guys like to show off. If you can tell his voice is suddenly louder when you come around, it’s a good sign he wants you to hear him and pay attention.

24) He struts his stuff on the field

If you find your crush on the field throwing a football or frisbee, he’ll suddenly be much more aggressive and competitive with his buddies. It’s a guy thing.

25) He takes the time to fix his clothes and hair when you come around

If he fixes that collar one more time you are going to reach out and tear it off him. But the good news is that this is a sure sign he is into you.

26) He doesn’t flinch when you touch his arm

If you brush up against him, he’s sure to enjoy it.

27) He’s all eyes when you are talking

His eyes are bright and wide as if he is trying to take all of you in.

28) He seems shy sometimes

You might find him being shyer than anything else. This is usually a good indicator that he finds you intimidating or he thinks you are out of his league.

29) You catch him staring at you

This can be frustrating because why won’t he just come over and talk to you already? But if he is trying to lock eyes with you, it’s because he likes you.

30) He takes the time to pay compliments on your wardrobe

He notices when you wear something new or different and he wants you to feel good about yourself.

31) You won’t catch him sneaking a peek at his phone while he is with you

Everyone is on their phones these days. But not him. If you are around, you are all the entertainment he needs.

32) He knows how to slow his roll when you are around

Because boys will be boys, you’ll notice him tone down the foul language and aggressive behaviour with his buddies when you stroll by.

He doesn’t want you to think he’s a barbarian.

33) You can just hang out together

You don’t feel pressure when you are with one another. It’s a nice feeling. And one that is surely brought on because he likes you.

34) He demonstrates his protective side

He picks up for you, even when you aren’t around and says good things about you to other people.

35) He touches you when you talk

He likes to touch your hand or arm when you are near one another.

36) He’s not jealous, but you can tell he doesn’t love it when you talk to other guys

He looks the guy up and down and is keeping an eye on him.

37) He takes it all in and thinks about how he’ll respond

Don’t let that little silence at the end of your conversation scare you – it means he is trying to find the right words to say next.

38) He’s never rude to people around you.

There’s no reason for people to be rude to one another, ever, but he is especially polite when you are around.

39) He mirrors your posture, movements, facial expressions, and mood

When a guy is doing what you are doing, it’s a good sign he likes you.

40) You won’t catch him stealing glimpses at another girl over your shoulder

He’s not interested in the women across the room or the bar. He only wants to talk to you.

41) He gets into your personal space…and you are okay with that

He’ll move in closer to talk to you and get to know you better.

42) He moves in for a hug

He might just put a hand on your shoulder or go for a full-fledged hug. It’s because he wants to be close to you.

43) He is shying away from you

Despite all that we’ve shared here, it might be that your guy is just too shy to show you how he feels. If he is shying away from you, it might be that he actually likes you and can’t say it or show it.

44) He makes no effort to hide his interest in your body

He looks you up and down and doesn’t make any effort to hide his glances in your direction.

45) He leans into you during the conversation

This is a classic sign that he likes what he sees.

46) He uses his deep voice when he talks to you

Another throwback sign that men like to exert their dominance.

47) He tells his friends about you

He’ll brag about you and share stories about you to those closest to him.

48) His attention is all on you

Anyone could walk in the door, but he’d just keep right on looking at you.

49) He shows up early

He wants you to know you are important to him.

50) He doesn’t ditch you for his friends

If his buddies call he doesn’t run out the door to go see them.

51) You are his priority

You can tell by the way he pays attention to you.

52) He tries to get you to notice him 

He’ll do little things to try to get your attention including laughing out loud, talking about something you are interested in, or he might even talk to another girl.

53) He breathes deeper when you are around

There’s no doubt you make him nervous and that is hard for some guys to admit.

54) He keeps touching his face and neck

This is because he feels vulnerable around you and worries about saying the right thing.

55) He winks at you

A little less subtle, but it lets you know that he is interested.

56) He smiles with his eyes

Without saying a word, you know he likes you because of the way he is looking at you.

57) He lowers his head and eyes when he laughs

Sometimes he might feel overwhelmed by his feelings, so he’ll retreat into his space a little when you talk and laugh together.

58) He holds your hand

Wondering if a guy likes you? If he holds your hand, it’s a done deal.

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How to Tell a Man’s Personality From His Body Language

There’s no question that men’s body language is difficult to read. Most of us are used to focusing on the words of what someone says and making evaluations from there.

But with little pointers, you can learn a lot about a person from the way they stand to the way they shake your hand.

So if you want to know what a particular man is really like, all you have to do is look for these 5 things.

Because after all, it can be easy to tell if a man likes you through their body language, but is it really the man you’re looking for?

Here’s what to look out for:

Posture and stance

1) A dominant, controlling pose

The shoulders and hips will be pulled back and the stomach, chest and neck will be uncovered. The chest will be pushed out. Arms may be further away from their stomach than average.

If you notice this, it might mean that the man is an alpha. He likes to control and be a leader. However, be warned. He may also be aggressive and controlling.

2) An aggressive or angry stance

The legs are usually closer together, with a dominant leg in front. The head and chin may tilt forward and the upper body isn’t afraid to get close to other people.

They may also have their stomach and chest in like they’re getting ready for battle. This pose indicates that they are aggressive and intense. They may even be passionate as well.

3) A defensive or worried stance

The body will be directed away from other people. Feet will usually be pointed towards the door.

Arms and legs will be kept closer to the body and shoulders will hunch over to protect its body.


However, some men’s stances might give you mixed signals. It can be easier to look at hands and gestures. Here’s what to look for:

1) A dominant handshake

If a man handshakes you with the palm downward, forcing your hand to turn upward to meet it, they’re trying to be dominant.

It can be a good handshake and shows that they like to take control. However, if it’s with a too strong of a grip, it can be offensive. Might be better to stay away if that’s the case.

2) A submissive handshake

This is the opposite, with his palm faced upward so you’re forced to go downward. It may put you at ease, or is even be sincere if he is apologizing. However, it is a slightly weaker posture so you might not be looking for that kind of guy.

3) Two handed shakes.

This is where the second-hand cups the outside of the handshake. This man is trying hard to build a connection. In most cases, a little too hard.

But if the situation calls for it, it can show he is an emotional and sincere guy.

4) The normal handshake.

This is where the hands are even and it’s not up or down. It doesn’t reveal much about a man’s personality, but it does show that he is not trying to be weak or strong, which is a good sign. He might just be normal!

How to read the eyes

1) Blinking is generally a reaction to stress, especially if it’s short, fast blinks. It may also indicate they are struggling to stay focused or awake.

2) If their eyes are scanning your whole face when you’re talking, it’s likely genuine. They are actually listening to you. There could also be an intimate connection.

3) If it is focused on one point and they don’t move their gaze, then they are likely keeping attention out of politeness.

4) If they are looking at the top half of your face, it implies that he feels dominant over you.

5) People who are talking to themselves when looking at you will look sideways every now and then.

Mood signals 

1) Gestures like crossed arms or protecting their body indicate that they are closed to revealing too much about themselves, or they are slightly agitated.

2) Aggressiveness is often portrayed in fast movements and invading other people’s space.

3) Alpha qualities are often exhibited by open body language like a puffed out chest, spread arms and legs and raised chin. This signals they are very confident.

Keep in mind that these body language signals can be faked. And they are not always accurate. But they are interesting and they might give you some clues as to the type of person you’re dealing with.

What does it mean if a guy adjusts himself in front of you?

This a difficult one, but a question that many people ask, particularly women.

And fair enough, it can be quite awkward when a man adjusts himself in his “area” when he is in front of you.

The first thing to note is that:

– It can occasionally get itchy down there in a man’s “area” so it doesn’t mean they’re touching that area because they’re attracted to you.

– On occasions, it can be become out of position, so it’s natural for a man to readjust to simply be more comfortable.

– Many men tend to do this absent mindlessly. In fact, most apes tend to do it. Of course, that doesn’t make it okay.

– They’re most likely not attracted to you, however, it’s just plain rude. You might want to say something like “excuse me” to let them know. They’ll likely be embarrassed and won’t do it again.

Basically, readjusting themselves in front of you is not okay. It’s akin to picking their nose in front of you. Does anyone do that? No! So they shouldn’t do this, either.

The strangest thing men desire

Have you ever felt attracted to a guy without knowing why?

Maybe you’ve even had feelings for someone you’d rather not be attracted to. How can you fall in love even though your conscious mind resists it?

Experiences like these hint at the hidden world driving our feelings of romantic attraction. That hidden world is all about emotional reactions. Emotional reactions we don’t consciously control.

The truth is, falling in love is not something we choose to do. It’s more like getting thirsty. You don’t choose to get thirsty. You just notice it. And the stronger your thirst becomes, the harder it gets to ignore.

In this excellent free video, relationship expert James Bauer reveals a kind of relationship “thirst” all men experience. One that’s impossible for him to quench on his own.

You’ll learn how to trigger this thirst and ultimately make him want to be in a committed relationship with you.

Although you may not realize this, men want to be in a deep romantic relationship as much as women do. We just need this very particular relationship desire met.

Here’s a link to this free video again.


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Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the founder, and editor of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 15 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. Check out my latest book on the Hidden Secrets of Buddhism and How it Saved My Life. If you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Facebook or Twitter.

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