15 undeniable signs he loves you (and 8 signs he doesn’t)

Stop wondering if he’s in love with you and know for sure with this list of 15 signs that you’ve won his heart.

It’s pretty black and white, cut and dry, salt and pepper if you ask us, but see what you think.

Once you read this list, you’ll wonder why you didn’t know it before! The signs are so obvious and even if he doesn’t know it yet, you’ll know for sure that he has fallen deeply for you!

15 Clear-Cut Signs He Loves You Deeply

A couple bonding. Signs he respects you.

1) He’s More Distant Than Usual

It might seem strange that a guy would pull away from you, but if he is confused about his feelings or he doesn’t understand what is happening in his heart, you might find him being more distant than usual.

Many women say they thought their guy was about to break up with them when he popped the question!

So don’t fret if you feel like he might be turning away – he might just be reaching for the ring.

2) He’ll Go Out of His Way for You

It doesn’t matter when you need, if you call him, he will come to you.

If you need advice, a ride, some help, or just a shoulder to cry on, he’ll find a way to get to you and make sure that everything is okay.

If a guy hasn’t said it yet, but is always there for you at a drop of a hat, he probably loves you, and he might even love you secretly.

3) You are His Priority

While work and family are pretty important to him, he wants you to know that you are someone special in his life.

That means that he puts your needs over his own and he’ll compromise where he can to make you happy.

4) He Wants Your Advice About His Life

If your guy is asking your opinion about an important decision that he needs to make, it’s likely that he trusts your sense and is already in love with you.

It means he really cares what you think, which, in turn, means he really cares about you.

5) He is Making Plans for Your Future

If he lets it slip that you’ll travel or buy a home or do anything together after next week, there’s a good chance he’s into you and is already in love.

Guys don’t make a lot of plans for the future that they say out loud, so if your man is all about what is happening next week, next month, next year – there’s a good chance he’s going to be yours forever.

6) He Won’t Forget the Little Things

He’ll remember when you have an appointment or need to be somewhere for a family function.

He won’t bail on responsibilities and he’ll always remember when you got together, even if you don’t.

He’ll ask about your parents and your friends and he’ll ask how work is going, and remember to ask about that weiner, Susan, in accounting that you hate just so you have a chance to complain about her.

7) He Wants to be Close to You

He’ll make an effort to be physically close to you as much as possible.

If you are out for dinner, you’ll find him sitting on the same side of the table as you; he’ll stand near you at a party; he’ll want to be closer to you in the car.

It’s all his way of saying he loves you without actually saying, you know, he loves you.

8) He Compliments You

Guys who care go out of their way to let you know that you look good. Even on your worst days, he’ll find something nice to say about you to lift your spirits.

It’s not because he’s just blowing smoke your way: he might not be able to say he loves you with the actual words, but he can say it in other ways.

(Most women do something that drives men away… without ever realizing it. Discover what it is here).

9) He Wants to Please You

He’ll make an effort to make you happy. If he says things such as, “as long as you are happy, then he is happy” – you know he’s yours.

He sends you cute good morning messages because he knows it will get your day started off in a great fashion.

10) He Shows Up With Plans Already Made

If he surprises you with dinner reservations, dancing, and a fun night on the town – he’s a keeper.

Guys fall into habits and routines pretty hard, so if your guy is putting on the ritz, it might be because he’s fallen for you and realizes you are worth the effort.

11) He Would Drop Everything to Come to You

Regardless of how important everything else is in his life, you are his number one priority. You just know that he would come running if you needed him to save you.

12) He Tells His Friends About You

If his friends mention that he talks about you, you can rest assured that he is in love.

Again, men are not all about expressing feelings and if he comfortable enough to tell them things about you, they know it’s love – so you can know it for sure now too!

13) He’ll Watch Out For You

He’s got your back. And while that might not mean a whole lot right now in the early stages of your relationship, when things get hairy down the road, you’ll want to know that he is there for you.

He shows you that he will be now by doing what he said he will do, encouraging you to follow your dreams, and being present when he’s with you. These are great signs that he loves you deeply.

14) You Find Him Sneaking Peeks at You From Across the Room

If you catch your guy treating you like eye candy from across the room, it’s a good thing.

If he can’t take his eyes off you, even if you’ve been together a while and he hasn’t said “I love you”, you can bet he does with the way he looks at you.

15) He’s Not a Quitter

If you’ve had your first fight and he isn’t running for the hills, there’s a good chance he sees potential in this relationship and is already invested in making it work.

So give the guy some space and he’ll come to his senses that he loves you. Besides, if you already know, there’s no rush to get him to say it. He’ll come around.

On the other hand, 8 signs he doesn’t love you

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1) You don’t trust him

If you think that he may be betraying you, or cheating on you, then obviously you have to wonder if he actually loves you.

If you’re struggling to trust him, then your intuition may be telling you that he doesn’t love you.

Remember, without trust, a relationship can’t grow.

2) He’s making you feel like you’re not good enough

How do you feel around him? If he’s making you feel insecure, then it’s a fair chance that he doesn’t love you.

Love is a powerful emotion that makes the giver and receiver feel great.

3) He’s ignoring you

While we may mention that if he loves you, he may appear more distant, unfortunately, it may also mean that he doesn’t love you.

If he’s ignoring your texts and taking ages to respond, then you might not be at the forefront of his mind.

A man that truly loves you will want to make time for you and see you whenever he can.

4) He doesn’t listen to you

A man that loves you will respect your opinions and listen to what you have to say.

But if he’s not taking your advice on board and ignoring your opinions, then it shows a lack of respect. And without respect, love is near impossible.

5) He refuses to make plans for the future

This is a warning sign that he doesn’t see a future with you. If he truly loves you, he’d be planning his future around you.

6) He only cares about sex

If he’s meeting up with you only to have sex with you, then he might just be using you for fun.

If he loves you and wants to have a relationship with you, then sex will only be one facet of the relationship.

7) He never buys you anything

I’m not talking about expensive material objects. I’m simply talking about getting you things that you need and want, even if it’s just a toothbrush.

A man that truly loves you will be thinking of you all the time and getting you things he knows you need.

8) He hasn’t told any of his friends or family about you

If his friends haven’t heard of you and don’t know who you are then he might not be that into you.

Any man that loves you deeply will undoubtedly tell their closest friends about you. They’ll be proud of you and will want to show you off.

How To Get Inside His Mind

If you want to trigger strong feelings of attraction and adoration in your man, you have to know how to get on the same frequency with him.

Imagine never having to deal with his silent treatment again. (Which is just really code for “I’m angry but don’t want to talk about it”.)

When you know how to read him and know what he’s thinking and feeling, unpleasant situations like the silent treatment will be a thing of the past.

Click here to discover how to understand and attract any man.

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Lachlan Brown

Written by Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the founder, and editor of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 6 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. If you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter or Facebook.

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