15 undeniable signs a man is falling in love

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It’s no secret that men aren’t always forthcoming with their feelings for women.

A lot of times, guys are afraid they are going to scare a girl off if they make a declaration of love too soon.

That being said, sometimes they don’t even realize how hard they have fallen until sometimes it’s almost too late – Enter romantic comedy with dramatic kissing scene at the end, just in time for a fairy-tale ending.

It might seem far-fetched to wind up in a situation like that, but it does happen. Guys don’t always know they are in love – and that’s the truth.

If you want to know what’s going on and you can’t wait for him to catch up to his feelings, here are some secret signs to look for in his behavior.

1. He’s a perfect gentleman.

He is working hard to make a lasting impression on you.

He does and says all the right things and is very conscientious about how he looks, acts, and shows up.

He wants everything to be perfect because he knows you deserve everything to be just right. While he might fail miserable, his heart is in the right place and it says a lot about how he feels about you.

He respects, he trusts you, and these two components are a huge for a successful relationship.

“Love brings bliss to both types of relationships, but only if tempered by respect.” – Peter Gray Ph.D. in Psychology Today

2. He loves how weird you are.

If he doesn’t run in the other direction when you act like your weird self, and if he somehow finds it endearing and charming, it’s because he’s in love.

There are plenty of guys out there who might think you are cute and silly, but if he is into it and laughs his head off at your crazy behavior, it’s a telling sign that he loves you – all of you. And your weirdness.

In fact, this is probably why he understands you so well and has the ability to pick you up when you’re feeling down.

Jonathan Bennett, a Dating/Relationship Coach, told Bustle, “If your partner possesses the ability to brighten your mood with a few words of praise when you need it most, it’s a great sign that he or she understands what makes you tick and appreciates your authentic self. This person is a definite keeper!”

3. His body language is all off.

Even though Mr. Right seems to be saying and doing all the right things, you notice that he’s body language isn’t quite lining up.

While most articles would tell you to watch for telling signs in his body language, it might be that he is so nervous that he’s messing it up completely.

You might think he’s a total loser and can’t put one foot in front of the other, but look closer at how hard he is trying to impress you.

If it’s coming out all wrong, it’s not for lack of trying to show you how he feels while maintaining (poorly) some kind of composure.

4. He gives you all of his attention.

There might be millions of women out there but to him you really are one in a million. He only cares about what you are doing and how you are doing.

He doesn’t pay attention to others around him, especially women. He locks eyes on you and can’t look away.

He will spend hours talking to you, even if you think there are much prettier women in the room that he could be talking to.

Research from Loyola University suggests that people who are in love have lower levels of serotonin, which could be a sign of obsession.

“This may explain why we concentrate on little other than our partner during the early stages of a relationship,” said obstetrician-gynecologist Mary Lynn, DO.

Don’t let a little self-doubt fool you: this guy has fallen hard. With so many distractions in the world today, if someone pays you that much attention, it’s with good reason.

5. His smile says it all.

That smile could stop a train and if he’s flashing it you from across the room or next to you in the bed, he’s yours.

You can’t fake happiness. Lots of people try and it just doesn’t work. If he’s smiling his head off when you are around it’s because he means to smile like that.

He loves spending time with you and loves what he sees.

6. He can’t sit still.

Guys get nervous around women that they adore. If he’s in love, you are going to be able to tell because he will fidget and shift positions in the chair all night long.

He’ll laugh nervously and feel insecure around you. He’ll want everything to be perfect. He’ll get up and sit down and not really have a good reason for doing either.

He’s going to move around a lot and you’ll wonder if he has ants in his pants; what he has is unexplained and often unrecognized love in his heart.

7. Your sex life is off the hook.

The general consensus is that sex with someone you love is a million times better than sex with someone you don’t love.

And while there are plenty of options for both, most people would prefer to have sex with someone they feel connected to and in love with.

If you find that your sex life has changed – for the better – with nothing else really being said about your relationship, it could be a sign that he has shifted into love mode.

It’s not just about the physical benefits of sex, but he’s in it for the connection now.

8. He wants to protect you.

A final way you can tell that he loves you, before he even knows himself, is if he makes efforts to protect you.

Subtle gestures like placing his hand on your back as you walk in front of you, or touching your shoulder when you are in a strange place together.

Or he might lean in when he senses you are uncomfortable around a new person or experience.

Tiffany Toombs, Relationship Expert, and Director at Blue Lotus Mind, told Bustle that “we learn most about a person when they are placed in stressful situations.”

So if in a stressful situation, such as cross the road on a busy street, and he looks to protect you, that’s a great sign.

All of this is his way of saying he loves you and wants you to be safe. He might not realize it, but you can lean into him knowing that he’ll come around to the secret soon enough.

9. He’s not afraid to be himself.

Guys talk a good game but if he can relax and be himself around you – his words – then you know he’s into you as much as you are into him.

He can his true authentic self because he trusts you and feels comfortable.

According to Rob Pascale and Lou Primavera Ph.D. in Psychology Today, “Trust is one of the keystones of any relationship—without it two people cannot be comfortable with each other and the relationship lacks stability.”

If you find he is different around his friends and family than how he acts around you, this could be a red flag that he is trying to hide something from you.

More often than not, however, it’s actually that he feels the most comfortable with you and so you get to see the real him.

How can you tell?

Pay attention to what he tells you about himself. If he seems to be leaving out details or is glazing over important parts of the conversation, it’s not really love.

10. He takes you home.

Besides wanting to take you home to fool around, he also wants you to be in his space to just hang out and get to know him better.

Regardless of how long you have been dating, if he cleans up and invites you into his home, it’s a good thing.

But if he wants you around when he wakes up, or while he’s lazing around watching television on a Friday night, it’s because he cares more than he is letting on.

He wants to share spontaneous moments with you and those can’t happen unless you are around more often.

11. He only has eyes for you.

You’ll know he loves you by watching how he interacts with other women.

Whether at a party or restaurant, if he isn’t paying attention to anyone but you it’s because he can’t get enough of you.

Lots of guys won’t say how they are feeling, but you can get a lot from him without him realizing it by watching how he behaves.

If he’s attentive and listening to you, especially if the cell phone is away and/or turned off – he’s in love.

12. He introduces you to the special people in his life.

If he wants you to meet his family and friends, it’s serious.

He might not have told you how he feels, but a nonchalant invitation to the family home over the weekend is a big deal.

He wants to know what they think of you, and while it would be better if he could just make up his mind about this on his own, this is his way of telling the people in his life that he loves you.

13. He doesn’t stop talking about you to other people.

Whether you’ve had one date or one hundred dates, if he is gushing about you to his friends and family or, better yet, to your friends about you, it’s love.

He might not have worked up the nerve to say those words just yet but if he is going on and on about how amazing you are, even when you aren’t around and you catch wind of that, it’s real.

14. He can forgive and forget.

Every relationship has its problems, even new ones.

If he is able to get over whatever has tripped the two of you up or if he has displayed an ability to get over his past issues with previous girlfriends, this is a good thing.

If he says he is sorry first and wants to make amends before things get out of control, he’s in love.

It could be that a crisis could bring him out of his shell and cause him to finally confess his love for you, but even still, if he wants to figure things out before you walk out the door, he’s yours.

15. He talks about the future with you in it

If whenever he talks about the future he assumes that you’re in it, that’s a great sign that he truly loves you.

Not only that, but if he asks you about your future, he is most likely trying to figure out if it fits into his plans.

Marisa T. Cohen, PhD, associate professor of psychology at St. Francis College says that when partners ask each other questions about the future, it shows “a certain level of intimacy”.


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Lachlan Brown

Written by Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the founder, and editor of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 6 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. If you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter or Facebook.

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