Is it just me, or are people too coddled in this country?
I heard this 10-year-old kid order a “truffle burger” the other day. I didn’t even know that word until 3 years ago.
I saw another kid YELLING at his mom in the grocery store. I just thought about what my parents would have done if I’d ever done something like that.
I see kids being told “Good job!” for getting an 67% on a test.
So I started thinking, why are kids so soft these days?
Could we perhaps look at…ourselves?
After all, we’re the adults these kids are learning from.
So in the spirit of building mental strength and toughness, here are 15 inconvenient truths we’d all benefit from accepting.
1) You’re going to die and you have no idea when.
Nope, you’re not invincible. Acknowledge your time will come and start planning your life so that you can get the most out of it.
2) Everyone you love is going to die, and you don’t know when.
This truth is saddening, but it also gives you motivation to make the most of the time you have with your loved ones while they’re here. Your relationships are precious, so get the most meaning you can out of them.
3) Money won’t make you a happier or better person.
While you need enough money to live, research has shown that anything beyond that won’t make you happier. Real peace comes from inside yourself.
4) Your obsession with finding happiness prevents you from finding it.
Attaching yourself to an idea of happiness and what it should be is the exact anti-thesis of what happiness is. To be happy, you need to let go and accept life as it is.
5) You can’t make everyone happy
Being a people pleaser won’t give you happiness. It’s much better for everyone involved to respect your own values, principles and autonomy.
6) You’ll never be perfect.
Many of us have unrelenting inner critics that constantly self-hate. Stop holding yourself to unrealistic standards. Fight back against that negative voice.
7) Your thoughts are less important than your feelings.
Your emotions need acknowledgement. Intellectually thinking through problems isn’t as helpful as expressing your true feelings.
8) Your actions speak louder than your words.
Words are meaningless without action. Make sure your hold yourself to account.
9) Your achievements and successes won’t matter in your death bed.
When your time has come, you won’t be thinking up that time you got that raise. You’ll be thinking about your relationships you’ve made, so prioritize accordingly.
1o) Talent means nothing without practice and effort.
If you’re not prepared to put the effort in, it doesn’t matter how talented you are. Grit and dedication is far more important.
11) Now in the only time that matters.
The future and past are illusions, now is the only thing that exists. The quickest way to happiness to fully accept and embrace the present moment.
12) Your words are more important than your thoughts so start inspiring people.
Words have the power to oppress, hurt and shame, but they also have the power to liberate and inspire – use them wisely.
13) Investing in yourself is the most worthwhile thing you can do.
It isn’t selfish to invest yourself. Before you can help others, you have to help yourself.
14) It’s not what happens, it’s how you react that matters.
Train yourself to respond in a way that benefits you.
15) You need healthy relationships to be happy.
Relationships are the greatest factor in happiness, so make sure you give them the attention they deserve.
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