There are a lot of stages involved when it comes to being in a relationship. You start as acquaintances, become friends, date, move in together, and get married.
But according to Barton Goldsmith:
“You are better off dating longer and seeing how someone chooses to grow rather than wishing and hoping, or trying to force someone to make the changes that you desire.”
Still, we can’t change the fact that some people are disappointed in those they forge a relationship with. The reason?
They didn’t ask enough relationship questions.
So if you’re in a relationship now, I suggest you ask your partner because it can make a huge difference in the way you relate to each other.
Here are 121 relationship questions you can use to get to know your loved one better:
Fun relationship questions for couples:
If you had one day left to live, what would you do?
Where would you most like to go on vacation?
What would you do if you won $10,000?
What do you like best about me?
What one thing would you like to change about me?
Who was the first person you kissed?
How would you feel if I made more money than you?
Would you be willing to stay home with the kids while I work?
What is the craziest dream you’ve ever had?
If you could trade lives with someone, who would it be?
Deep relationship questions to ask your lover:
Given the choice of anyone in the world, who would you want as a dinner guest?
Would you like to be famous? In what way?
Before making a phone call, do you ever rehearse what you’re going to say? Why?
What would constitute a perfect day for you?
When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you choose?
Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
Here’s another set of deep relationship questions:
If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
If you could wake up tomorrow having gained one quality or ability, what would it be?
If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
What do you value most in a friendship?
What is your most treasured memory?
What is your most terrible memory?
If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are living now? Why?
What does friendship mean to you?
Relationship questions about favorites:
Who is your favorite movie star?
What’s your favorite kind of food?
What’s your favorite outdoor activity?
What’s your favorite book?
What’s your favorite time of day and why?
Who is your favorite superhero?
What is your favorite color?
What is your favorite season?
What is your favorite restaurant?
What is your favorite sport to watch? To play?
What is your favorite thing to write or draw with?
Relationship questions to test your compatibility:
What is the ideal number of calls a couple should exchange in a day?
Would you compromise your happiness for the success of the relationship?
What’s your idea of a romantic vacation?
What’s the single most important thing for a relationship to be successful?
What would you define as cheating?
If I cheated on you, would you ever forgive me?
Would you ever say sorry to me even if it’s not your fault?
Are you friends with any of your exes?
How should finances be planned between a couple?
Do you think celebrating Valentine’s Day is corny?
Questions about your relationship:
What did you think when you first met me?
What do you remember most about the night/day we first met?
What about our relationship makes you really happy?
How long did you think our relationship would last when we first started dating?
If you had one word to describe our relationship what would it be?
If you had one word to describe our love what would it be?
What’s your biggest fear for this relationship?
Do you believe there’s one person you’re ‘meant’ to be with?
Do you believe in fate? destiny?
What’s one difference between us that you absolutely love?
What’s one similarity between us that you absolutely love?
What about me made you fall in love?
Is love something that scares you?
What about love scares you?
What’s your favorite memory of us?
What’s one thing you want to do together that we’ve never done before?
If something happened where I had to move very far away, would you attempt long-distance? Or go our separate ways?
Where is your favorite place to be with me?
What’s one thing you’re scared to ask me, but really want to know the answer to?
What’s one thing you feel our relationship is lacking?
Relationship questions to make your connection with each other stronger:
How do you know when you love someone?
How did you know you loved me?
Is romantic love the most important love of all?
Do you think once you love someone, you will ALWAYS love them? Or do you think love can fade away with time?
What’s the first thing you notice about someone when you fall for them?
What’s one thing about love that scares you?
Do you believe in love at first sight?
Was it love at first sight with me?
Which do you agree with? Love should always feel comfortable, or love should always feel new and exciting?
What do you think makes people fall out of love?
What makes you fall out of love?
Do you believe people can change if they love someone?
Do you think knowing whether or not it’s love depends on how long you’ve known the person?
How long do you think it takes before you know you love someone?
Would you still be able to love someone after they’ve been unfaithful?
What constitutes cheating/unfaithfulness for you?
What’s worse an emotional affair or a physical one?
If you love someone, is unfaithfulness/cheating something that can be forgiven?
When it comes to cheating, forgive and forget, forgive but don’t forget, or don’t forgive at all?
Do you believe love changes you?
“How well do you know me” relationship questions:
Family matters: what are the names of my parents, grandparents and brothers or sisters?
Am I a dog person or a cat person?
What is my favorite color?
Who is my best friend?
Do I have any allergies?
Which is my favorite food?
Do I have any superstition or belief?
Which is my favorite movie?
What do I normally do in my free time?
Which is my zodiac sign?
Which is my favorite sport?
What is my shoe size?
What is my favorite food?
Which day did we meet for the first time?
Embarrassing relationship questions:
Have you ever farted in an elevator?
What are some things you think about when sitting on the toilet?
Have you ever practiced kissing in a mirror?
Did your parents ever give you the “birds and the bees” talk?
What is your worst habit?
Have you ever had a wardrobe malfunction?
Do you pick your nose?
Have you ever peed yourself?
What was your most embarrassing moment in public?
Have you ever farted loudly in class?
Do you ever talk to yourself in the mirror?
Have you ever tried to take a sexy picture of yourself?
Do you drool in your sleep?
Have you ever tasted ear wax?
Have you ever farted and then blamed someone else?
Would you trade your sibling in for a million dollars?
Mark Twain once said:
“Love seems the swiftest, but it is the slowest of all growths. No man or woman really knows what perfect love is until they have been married a quarter of a century.”
Maybe you and your partner know a lot about each other.
But do you really know each other?
So make sure you ask the right questions and listen to the answers.
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