Ladies, there’s been a lot of chatter about a seemingly magical 12 word text that will make your man commit to a deep and passionate relationship with you.
As someone who’s found this text incredibly useful, I thought it’d be a good idea to share my experience with you.
Relationship expert James Bauer has created a unique concept called the hero instinct that’ll take your relationship to new heights – including a 12-word text to send to your man.
And in this article, I’m going to reveal exactly how I put the 12 word text to good use, so you can do the same!
First up though, for anyone unfamiliar with the concept, let’s briefly look at what the hero instinct is.
What is the hero instinct?
By now, most of you might have heard of the hero instinct. And for those who haven’t, don’t be put off by the wording.
It’s nothing to do with giving up your personal power or dressing up in superhero capes (although you can if you want to).
It’s all about making your man feel good and taking your relationship to the next level.
I came across it when I read His Secret Obsession — written by psychologist and relationship expert James Bauer.
In it, Bauer explains the concept of the hero instinct, and how treating your man like an everyday hero will trigger a deep primal drive that’ll pretty much make him obsessed with you.
You can see why I was intrigued, right?
James Bauer explains how men essentially need three things to be happy and committed in a relationship:
- They want to feel valued and appreciated
- They want to feel respected
- They want to feel needed.
When you put it like that…it’s not a lot to ask for.
But these are innate drivers that most of us overlook, distracted by playing hard to get or by being too keen to please.
The truth is:
If you can trigger these biological drivers in your man, your relationship will change in ways you can only imagine.
So how can you trigger it?
There are a few ways according to Bauer, and the easiest is using the 12-word text that he created, designed to hook any guy in.
Where does the 12-word text come from?
There’s been a lot of excitement online recently over the magical 12-word text that’ll work wonders for your relationship, so you’re probably wondering what all the fuss is about.
Well, I’m here to tell you that the fuss is all for good reason.
Can you imagine cracking the code of understanding men?
You know, the whole “men are from mars, women from venus” malarky. It’s an age-old debate, that women and men are simply different in love.
But the 12-word text revolutionizes that. It hits the core of how men work in relationships, making everything else fall into place.
So where does the mysterious 12-word text come from?
In his book, Bauer introduces us to his friend “Rachel”.
Rachel is every woman out there – longing for love, meeting great guys but never getting further than a few months in before they turn cold on her.
In fact, she had met a great guy. They hit it off. A few months went by of pure bliss until he started to pull away. She was left wondering what on earth she’d done wrong.
I’m sure most of us have been in this situation. After all, it’s not uncommon for guys to suddenly back off and appear uninterested.
But here’s where things take an interesting turn.
When Rachel explains her situation, instead of telling her she can do better, plenty more fish in the sea, etc etc, Bauer takes a completely different approach.
One that works.
He told her to send a text message, containing only 12 words.
But these 12 words had a powerful impact. They triggered something in her man that made him instantly sit up and take note.
The free video below reveals what the 12 word text exactly is.
The 12-word text that could change your relationship forever…
Now, I know what you’re probably thinking — this is too good to be true, right?
And, how can only 12 words have so much impact?
Well, I thought the same.
But I wanted to find out more, because the more I read the book, the more things started to make sense.
Let me explain:
James Bauer’s 12-word text encompasses the same strategy that the hero instinct does — it appeals directly to men’s biological drive.
It targets an innate part of him, a need just like hunger, thirst, and even sex.
Now, before we go any further, I want to explain why it could change your relationship forever.
I know it can because it was a game-changer for me.
A bit of background information; my partner and I have a wonderful relationship – now! But before, things were rocky.
He’s super independent. He wasn’t looking for a relationship when we first met. He does things on his own terms and getting through to him romantically wasn’t working out.
Put simply, in the beginning, he was hot and cold. We’d have a great date together, then he’d go quiet and distant for a while, before repeating the cycle.
It drove me mad.
And nothing I did helped. I tried to play it cool (come on ladies, we’ve all done it), I tried the whole “treat em’ mean, keep em’ keen” thing (didn’t work) and I even got the golden seal of approval from his friends, but it was never enough.
But it wasn’t until I tried Bauer’s advice and appealed directly to his hero instinct that things finally fell into place.
Now I can’t get rid of him.
Just kidding, I love it, but, indeed, things changed pretty quickly after that.
And it’s all thanks to Bauer’s understanding of how men work.
Now, I’m not one to stumble across something revolutionary and not share it, so below I’ve explained how I used the hero instinct triggers to get my guy to come around and commit.
Triggering the hero instinct in your man
All of James Bauer’s secrets are revealed in his book, His Secret Obsession, but luckily there are a few ways you can start triggering the hero instinct straight away.
1. Ask him for help
Okay, I’m going to be straight up here, I know you don’t need his help, but letting him do things for you is one of the most effective ways to trigger his hero instinct.
And trust me, I know it won’t come easy for some of you to step down and let him take control, but if you want to make him utterly committed to you, he needs to feel needed.
So how can you introduce this in your relationship?
I started by simply asking for a hand with small things. Or, by asking for his advice, just to keep him in the loop.
“Hey babe, my meeting at work didn’t go well today, are you free to chat? I need your advice.”
“The weird noise in my car is starting to freak me out, would you mind taking a look?”
“I’ve tried everything to fix the leaky tap, maybe you could give it a go?”
Now, I don’t rely on him to do everything, nor do I ask for his help all day every day.
But, now and then I let him fix my problems, and honestly?
It’s brought us much closer together.
You see, he feels useful, needed, and wanted, and it’s obvious that lending me a hand gives him a sense of pride and purpose in our relationship.
2. Give him his freedom and support him in his dreams
Another tactic that made so much sense and proved highly effective was learning how to support and encourage him to do the things he likes.
Here’s a very recent example of how this has helped my relationship:
My boyfriend is a poker player, and lately, he’s been exploring playing live games every Friday night.
I’m not going to lie, I wasn’t the most excited about it.
Especially since it means him staying out late (not usually a problem) but it does mean he spends most of Saturday sleeping (instead of spending time together).
But, following the guidance of James Bauer, I decided to put my reservations to one side and encourage him to continue going if he truly enjoys it.
He’s so appreciative it’s unreal.
Every Saturday he wakes up with a smile on his face, and he never fails to thank me for being so chilled out about the whole thing.
I can see that it means a lot to him that I encourage his dreams and goals, especially since I hear him telling all his other poker friends how lucky he is to have a supportive partner.
And much to my surprise, he now goes out his way to make time for us later in the day or on Sundays — with a lot more enthusiasm than he used to.
So what does your partner love?
What could you do to encourage his passions?
Be his number one supporter, and he’ll appreciate it more than you can imagine.
3. Show him how happy he makes you
This should be a given in all relationships, right?
But unfortunately, expressing how happy you are and how your boyfriend makes you feel is easier said than done.
So how can you let him know how you feel?
It’s as simple as that.
Tell your partner how you feel when he does something sweet for you, even if it’s just a quick, “Do you realize how happy you make me?”.
Trust me, once your man knows how happy he makes you, he’ll strive even harder to continue it.
And the truth is:
Don’t we all want that?
To know that our hard work and efforts in a relationship are paying off?
That we can make our partner happy in ways that no one else can?
The moment you make him feel this way, he’ll feel secure and content in the relationship too, but you need to make the first move and start opening up about how wonderful he makes you feel.
4. Appreciate the small stuff
Another key way to trigger the hero instinct in your man is to appreciate him.
Make him feel valued, important, an integral part of your life, and he’ll do the same in return.
Even if it’s everyday things. Yesterday after dinner, I told my boyfriend how much I appreciate him making dinner in the evenings so I could get in a little extra work.
It didn’t take much, and I didn’t go into a long passionate speech about everything he does for me, but it was enough to affect him.
And this works both ways, right?
I know I feel more motivated to do things for others when there’s appreciation and gratitude shown, rather than when my efforts aren’t acknowledged.
So if you aren’t already showing him your appreciation, start now. Don’t wait for the big things, even bringing you a cup of tea is enough to be thankful for.
5. Boost his confidence in front of his friends
The key to boosting his confidence when out socializing is to do it subtly.
If you start reeling off a list of all the reasons why he’s great in front of his friends, it’ll probably get awkward quite quickly.
So how can you boost his confidence whilst making it look natural?
I tend to look for opportunities that arise casually in conversation.
Here’s an example:
Recently, a group of friends was telling us how much they loved the new Thai takeout near their house.
A little bell inside me went, ding ding ding! Jackpot.
My boyfriend cooks an amazing pad thai, so I decided to throw it into the mix.
All I said was, “If you loved that takeout, wait until you try his pad thai – it’ll blow your mind”. (To which my boyfriend blushed proudly).
Note how I didn’t bring up his talents out of the blue, I waited until it seemed natural so that he wouldn’t find it over the top or embarrassing.
This can be especially useful if you’re got a partner with low self-esteem, knowing you’re proud of him will make the world of difference.
Who can benefit from the hero instinct?
The truth is — every woman can! Whether you’re at the beginning of a fling or a few years into a relationship, it’s never too late to trigger your man’s hero instinct.
And for me, it all started with sending that 12-word text and implementing some of the hero instinct guidelines that I’ve mentioned above.
Because the moment you start doing it, you realize that treating your man like a hero is more or less just treating them how they want to be treated.
And if we all did that in relationships, wouldn’t we have more success?
More foundations of love built on understanding, compromise, and appreciation?
It worked for me in my relationship, and there’s no doubt it could help you too.
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