Why do we miss someone? Why do we feel the emptiness when we are not with that particular person?
Maybe because we are not destined to be alone. We are created to be with a companion.
“No man is an island.” – John Donne
When it comes to romantic love, missing each other is one key to a long lasting relationship. The longing and passion that you feel inside make you want for more.
Naturally, we like to spend our time with people who we love and make us happy. The more we do these things, the more we are addicted to them being at our side. So, when we are apart our body craves for that feeling.
Even science can back this up. When we are in love or happy, our body produces a surge of serotonin and dopamine. It is no wonder that when we are apart with them, our body craves those chemicals.
Nothing feels better than knowing that someone misses us when we are apart. As they say, “absence makes the heart grow fonder“.
So let’s get into it. Here’s 19 simple ways to make him miss you like crazy.
1. Stop all communication
I know it’s hard not to reach out to that person if you miss him. Of course, you want to be in constant communication with him.
But if you really want him to miss you, then give him time to miss you.
He can’t miss you if you keep communicating with him, right? Give him a reason to miss you. Stop calling and texting him. If you continue reaching out, he will never have the reason to miss you.
2. The waiting game
If a woman is interested in a guy, she responds immediately to a call or text coming from him. But, responding to him right away will give him hints that you are always available for him at his convenience.
Men love the chase so do not get caught easily. Make him wait as long as needed but not long enough that will make him lose interest.
This may be silly but it always works. It makes him craves for you more.
3. Make him feel like a hero
If you make your man feel like a hero, he’ll miss you like crazy whenever you’re apart.
What do I mean by ‘hero’?
There’s a new concept in relationship psychology generating a lot of buzz at the moment. It’s called the hero instinct.
And it explains why men fall in love with a women and who they fall in love with.
I first learned about it from my friend Pearl Nash, who also writes for Hack Spirit. The hero instinct completely transformed her own love life.
Simply put, men want to be your hero. This drive is deeply rooted in their biology. Since humans first evolved, men have wanted to provide for and protect the woman they love.
If you can trigger the hero instinct in your man, it will make him miss you like crazy when you’re not around. Because you’re providing him something he craves.
You can learn more about the hero instinct in this unique video by James Bauer. He’s the relationship psychologist who first coined this term.
I don’t often get caught up in new fads or pop psychology. But after reading all about the hero instinct myself, I think learning about this new concept can help a lot of women.
Making your man feel more like a hero is an art but can be a lot of fun when you know exactly what to do.
Because there are phrases you can say, texts you can send, and little requests you can use to trigger his hero instinct.
To learn more about these emotional trigger points, check out James’ free video. Some ideas are life changing. And when it comes to relationships, I think this is one of them.
4. Be the first to end the conversation
After making him wait, he will eventually contact you if he really likes you. Always be the one to hang up the phone and let him be the one to send that last text.
The key is to keep him wanting more of you. Because you ended the conversation, it will make him contact you first because he feels the need to continue your conversation.
5. Go easy on social media
Nowadays, almost all of us have a Facebook account. Pause your Facebook activities for a while. Because how can he miss you if he always sees you in his feeds?
Be a little mysterious so that will miss you. Pause on updating your status, uploading your photos, and sharing things on Facebook.
Additionally, stop liking and commenting on his posts because it will make him think that you are needy for his attention.
6. Find a scent that will remind him of you
Have you experienced smelling a certain smell and a person or place pops on your mind? This is because our sense of smell is attached to our memory.
So, if you want him to miss you, wear that same perfume everytime you see him. Each time that certain smell hits his nose you are the one he will be thinking of.
You can also try to spray your perfume on his things so even if you are not together, he will still smell you.
7. Add a little bit of mystery and surprise
Your guy loves a little bit of mystery. You do not need to tell everything about you in just one sitting.
Men tend to lose interest if they already know everything about you. They think they already conquered you and you do not excite them anymore. Remember, men love the chase and challenge.
Also, it won’t hurt if you surprise your man sometimes. Instead of a traditional dinner or movie date, why not go hiking and go for an adventure?
If he’s happy with your company, he will miss that and will always find ways to be with you again.
8. Get inside his head
If you really want your guy to miss you when you’re apart, then you have to get inside his head and understand what makes him tick.
The truth is most women don’t know what men are thinking, what they want in life, and what they really crave from a relationship.
And the reason is simple.
Male and female brains are biologically different. For instance, the limbic system is the emotional processing center of the brain and it’s much larger in the female brain than in a man’s.
That’s why women are more in touch with their emotions. And why guys can struggle to process and understand their feelings.
Have you ever been let down by an emotionally unavailable man before? Blame his biology rather than him.
To stimulate the emotional part of a man’s brain, you have to communicate with him in a way that he’ll actually understand.
Because there are certain things you can say to him that will make him really miss you.
I learnt about this from relationship expert Amy North. You can watch her excellent free video here.
In her video, Amy North reveals exactly what to say to a man to make him want to commit to a deep and passionate relationship with you. These words work surprisingly well on even the coldest and most commitment-phobic men.
If you want to learn science-based techniques to attract men and get them to commit to you, check out her free video here.
9. Leave things behind
Have you ever found a thing that belongs to your special someone and memories rush back?
Make a point of leaving small things like your hairclip or earings at your guy’s house or car. So every time your guy see it, he will remember you.
10. Leave him craving for more
It’s like our favorite food. When we get a taste of something delicious, we want to taste it again.
But here is the catch, if you always get that taste even how delicious it is, you will lose interest.
Men want what they can’t have. So give him a taste but do not give it all.
Make it challenging for him. In this way, he will appreciate you more.
11. Ask for his help
Men thrive on solving women’s problems.
If you need something fixed, or your computer is acting up, or if you have a problem in life and you simply need some advice, then seek your man out.
A man wants to feel essential. And he wants to be the first person you turn to when you genuinely need help.
Although asking for your man’s help may seem fairly innocuous, it actually helps to trigger something deep within him. Something that is crucial to a loving, long term relationship.
For a man, feeling essential to a woman is often what separates “like” from “love”.
Don’t get me wrong, no doubt your guy loves your strength and abilities to be independent. But he still wants to feel wanted and useful — not dispensable
Simply put, men have a biological drive to feel needed, to feel important, and to provide for the woman he cares about.
Relationship psychologist James Bauer calls it the hero instinct. I talked about this concept above.
As James argues, male desires are not complicated, just misunderstood. Instincts are powerful drivers of human behavior and this is especially true for how men approach their relationships.
So, when the hero instinct isn’t triggered, men are unlikely to commit to a relationship with any woman.
He holds back because being in a relationship is a serious investment for him. And he won’t fully “invest” in you unless you give him a sense of meaning and purpose and make him feel essential.
How do you trigger this instinct in him, and give him this sense of meaning and purpose?
You don’t need to pretend to be anyone you’re not or play the “damsel in distress”. You don’t have to dilute your strength or independence in any way, shape or form.
In an authentic way, you simply have to show your man what you need and allow him to step up to fulfill it.
In his new video, James Bauer outlines several things you can do. He reveals phrases, texts and little requests that you can use right now to make him feel more essential to you.
By triggering this very natural male instinct, you’ll not only give him greater satisfaction but it will also help to rocket your relationship to the next level.
12. Spend time with your friends
Spend time with your friends and share your story and adventure with your man. It’s important that he knows that you are able to have fun without him.
Who knows? He might want to tag along on your next adventure. Or perhaps it will make him jealous sparking him to realize how much he misses you.
13. The Overall Look
Men are visual creatures, so make it sure that he will like what he is seeing. Go to the salon and treat your self a full makeover.
Maybe you can get a haircut, try a new make-up and buy yourself a sporty or sexy outfit.
Your man already likes you for what you are, you just need to boost that feeling to make sure he is always into you.
14. Just Be You
And lastly, just be yourself. Do not pretend you’re someone else especially when you are together.
Create your own unique self that he will love and can’t resist and that is the personality of a strong, kind and independent woman.
Go crazy with him, be spontaneous, and have fun together. What guy in his right mind can resist these personalities?
And when you are apart from each other, he can compare you with other girls and he will realize how unique and beautiful you are.
And being apart, he will miss you because he knows you are definitely one of a kind.
15. But be memorable
The first step is to be a girl who is worth missing.
Do you know how great you are? If you don’t, no man is going to know that either.
You need to show up and be your best self. Love everything about yourself and your life and he’ll love you too.
Laugh hard, love hard, and give yourself what you need to be happy. When you are out there doing your own thing and being fabulous, it’s hard for a man to ignore that.
He’ll want to be around you more when you want to be around yourself.
Don’t fool yourself into thinking you need someone to make you happy. Be happy and someone will miss you when you aren’t around.
16. Let him do his own thing
One surefire way to get him to miss you is to give him the space he needs – and you need.
While you may want to spend every waking hour with the man of your dreams, the truth is that you need time to do your own thing too.
The more time you spend apart, the more you’ll both want to be together. If you give him the space to miss you, he surely will.
Check in and stay in touch, but don’t crowd him. Leave a little to the imagination and make sure there is still a reason for him to check in with you.
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17. Don’t try so hard
If we’ve learned anything about having successful relationships, it’s that you can’t try so hard.
When you try hard, you repel things, especially people. Your relationship shouldn’t be about trying hard. It should be about loving hard.
When you have to try to get him to miss you, the opposite will happen. Things go wrong, it comes out all wrong: it turns him off.
Just be yourself, do your own thing, give him the space he needs, and be amazing when he’s around. He’ll miss you when you are just being you.
18. Take your time
Want your guy to miss you? Then leave him wanting.
Don’t rush into things you can’t take back. If you are getting physical, don’t rush into things. Take your time and let him get to know you over time.
You don’t need to spend the night all the time. You can slip out, be mysterious, and take something with you.
Being in a relationship is about being transparent, but that doesn’t have to happen all at once.
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19. Don’t leave it all on the table
If you want your guy to miss you, you need to keep a little for yourself.
You don’t need to tell him every deep, dark secret you have.
He has questions, but you don’t have to spill your guts on the first date or the tenth.
You can take your time and reveal all of your awesomeness one nugget at a time.
Let him ask his questions, entertain them, and maybe even tease a little out of him yourself, but don’t go all in.
Keeping a little mystery alive in your relationship takes a lot of work.
Making him miss you is one strategy that you can use to help do that.
It’s not manipulation, it’s not being a tease – it’s just something you can do to help keep your man wanting more.
He misses you, now what?
I hope these 19 tips will help you make him miss you like crazy.
While this is a useful start to a loving and long lasting relationship, there’s one crucial ingredient to relationship happiness I think many women overlook:
Understanding how men think.
Getting your guy to open up and tell you what he’s really feeling can feel like an impossible task. And this can make building a loving relationship extremely difficult.
Let’s face it: Men see the world differently to you.
And this can make a deep passionate romantic relationship—something that men actually want deep down as well—difficult to achieve.
In my experience, the missing link in any relationship is never sex, communication or missing each other when you’re apart. All these things are important, but they are rarely deal breakers when it comes to the success of a relationship.
The missing link is that you actually have to understand what drives men romantically.
Relationship psychologist James Bauer’s new video will help you to really understand what makes men tick—and who they fall in love with. You can watch the video here.
James reveals a relationship “secret ingredient” few women know about which holds the key to a man’s love and devotion.
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