12 simple psychological tricks to make someone feel instantly connected to you

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Ever wonder how you can make someone feel instantly connected to you? Yeah, we’ve all been there. It’s not always easy, right?

Now, what if I told you there are simple tricks to make this happen?

That’s right! We’re about to dive into 12 psychological techniques that can turn those awkward moments into instant connections.

Let’s explore these tricks together.

You might just become the most likable person in the room. 

1. Show genuine interest in them

Everyone likes to feel important. When you show genuine interest in another person, they’ll naturally feel more connected to you.

So, how do you do that? Simple – ask questions. Not just any questions, though. They should be open-ended and about the other person’s interests, opinions, and experiences.

This demonstrates that you value their input and are truly interested in getting to know them.

But remember, always be respectful and don’t pry too much into personal matters unless they’re comfortable sharing.

This simple trick can make someone feel instantly connected to you. Give it a try!

2. Use their name

Ever noticed how good it feels when someone remembers and uses your name?

That’s because our names are a big part of our identity.

When you use someone’s name in conversation, it shows that you’re paying attention to them.

This, in turn, can make them feel more connected to you.

So, next time you’re having a chat with someone, try dropping their name into the conversation here and there.

But be careful not to overdo it – you don’t want it to sound forced or creepy!

3. Mirror their body language

This might sound a bit odd, but it’s actually a proven psychological trick!

Mirroring someone’s body language can help create a sense of connection. It’s all about subtly imitating their gestures, facial expressions, or posture.

This suggests that you’re on the same wavelength, making them feel more at ease and connected with you.

Let me share a personal experience. I once attended a networking event where I didn’t know anyone. I met this person who seemed quite interesting. To establish a connection, I began subtly mimicking his body language – when he crossed his arms, I did the same; when he tilted his head while listening, I mirrored that too.

Before long, our conversation was flowing more smoothly.

At the end of the talk, he even complimented me on how easy it was to chat with me. It was then I realized just how powerful this simple trick could be!

4. Make them feel good about themselves

Who doesn’t love a good compliment? Making someone feel good about themselves can instantly create a bond.

It makes them feel valued and appreciated, which naturally leads to a connection.

When giving compliments, try to be specific and genuine – insincerity can usually be spotted a mile away.

According to a study published in the journal PLOS ONE, receiving a compliment has the same positive effect on the brain as receiving cash!

So, by complimenting someone genuinely, you’re essentially giving them a mini-brain boost. Now who wouldn’t want that?

5. Be empathetic

Empathy is powerful. It’s about understanding and sharing the feelings of others. When you genuinely empathize with someone, they’ll feel seen, heard, and understood – and that can create an instant connection.

Imagine a friend sharing with you a struggle they’re going through. Instead of simply offering advice or trying to fix things, you say, “That sounds really tough. I’m here for you.”

That moment of understanding can make a world of difference. In that instance, you’re not just another person in their life; you become a confidant, a safe harbor amidst their storm.

Creating connections isn’t just about being likable; it’s about showing that you genuinely care for others’ feelings. It’s about making them feel less alone in their journey.

And trust me, there’s no feeling quite like knowing someone truly understands and cares for you.

6. Share a personal story

People connect over shared experiences and stories. By revealing a bit about yourself, you not only show that you trust them, but it also gives them a chance to relate to you on a deeper level.

Let me tell you about something that happened to me.

A few years ago, I moved to a new city. I was excited but also incredibly nervous about making new friends.

One day, I met someone who seemed really nice, and we got to talking. Instead of sticking to small talk, I decided to share a story about the time I got lost in the city trying to find my favorite ice cream shop.

As I told my story, she started laughing and admitted that she had a similar experience when she first moved here.

That shared experience sparked a connection between us, and we’ve been good friends ever since.

So don’t be afraid to open up a bit – your stories might just be the bridge that connects you to someone else.

7. Be real, be you

Let’s be honest, people can usually tell when you’re faking it. And nothing kills a potential connection faster than insincerity.

So, forget trying to be what you think others want you to be. Instead, just be you – raw and unfiltered.

You have quirks? Good. Own them! Got an unusual sense of humor? Let it shine! Love to geek out over obscure topics? Don’t hide it. The right people will appreciate you for who you are, not who you pretend to be.

Being open and genuine might feel scary. You might worry about being judged or rejected. But trust me, it’s worth the risk.

Because when someone connects with the real you, that’s a bond that’s built to last.

Drop the act, embrace your authentic self, and watch as real connections start to form.

8. Keep a positive attitude

Maintaining a positive attitude can have a big impact on how people perceive and connect with you.

It’s simple really – positivity tends to attract positivity. When you exude positive energy, others are more likely to feel comfortable and drawn towards you.

We tend to like people who display positive emotions more than those who display negative ones. So by keeping a positive attitude, you’re increasing your likability which in turn can help create that instant connection.

Of course, it’s important to be authentic with your feelings and not fake positivity. Remember, it’s okay not to be okay all the time.

But generally maintaining a positive outlook can work wonders for your connections with others.

9. Listen intently

In a world full of distractions, giving someone your undivided attention is a gift.

When you truly listen to someone, not just hearing their words but understanding their feelings and perspectives, you make them feel valued and important.

I learned this lesson the hard way. A few years back, I was having a conversation with a friend. She was sharing something important, but I was distracted with my phone.

She noticed and felt ignored. That day, I realized how essential it is to be fully present in our interactions.

So now, when someone talks to me, I make a conscious effort to put away distractions and listen intently.

And you know what? It’s made my relationships stronger and more meaningful.

So next time you’re in a conversation, try this: Put your phone away, look them in the eye, and really listen.

You’d be surprised at how much this simple act can strengthen your connection with others.

10. Show appreciation

We all crave recognition and appreciation.

When you express gratitude or acknowledge someone else’s efforts, it makes them feel seen and valued.

And let me tell you, it’s often the smallest acts of kindness that make the biggest impact.

I remember a time when I was having a rough day at work. A colleague noticed and simply said, “You’re doing a great job, don’t be too hard on yourself.”

That small expression of appreciation lifted my spirits more than I can express.

Don’t hold back on showing appreciation, whether it’s for a big favor or a small act of kindness.

11. Be patient

Here’s the truth – real connections take time to build. You can’t rush authenticity. Yes, these tricks can help create an instant bond, but for a truly meaningful connection, you need to be patient.

I’ve had times when I tried to force a connection out of desperation, and it never ended well. So take your time, let the relationship develop naturally, and remember – good things take time.

12. Be vulnerable

Vulnerability is scary. We often fear that showing our weaknesses will drive people away. But in reality, it’s often our flaws and vulnerabilities that others connect with the most.

I used to put up walls, afraid that my insecurities would make me less likable. But when I started opening up about my fears and insecurities, I realized that it made people feel closer to me instead of pushing them away.

So show your fears, express your doubts, and share your failures. It might feel terrifying, but trust me – vulnerability is a powerful connector.

Making someone feel instantly connected to you isn’t about performing tricks; it’s about being human – raw, authentic, and beautifully flawed.

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Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the founder, and editor of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 15 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. Check out my latest book on the Hidden Secrets of Buddhism and How it Saved My Life. If you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Facebook or Twitter.

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