11 things confident introverts never waste their time on

Being an introvert in a world that loves to talk and share can be a challenge.

But guess what? Being quiet, enjoying alone time, and thinking deeply aren’t weaknesses—they’re strengths.

Introverts have a unique power, and it’s rooted in being true to themselves.

However, the key to unlocking this power isn’t just about what introverts do; it’s about what they don’t do.

It’s about avoiding the noise and distractions that drain energy and blur focus.

It’s about saying no to the things that don’t add value to our lives, and yes to the things that let our authentic selves shine bright.

For extroverts out there looking to embrace their quiet strength, here are 11 things that they steer clear of.

Because being a confident introvert isn’t about being louder or more outgoing—it’s about being real, being you, and valuing the quiet moments where true growth happens. 

1. Fruitless Arguments and Drama

Confident introverts steer clear of needless drama like a sailor avoids a storm.


Because it’s exhausting, draining, and simply not worth their precious energy. They understand that getting sucked into pointless arguments or gossip won’t lead to any productive outcomes.

Instead, they choose to invest that energy in activities that foster personal growth and inner peace.

So, if you’re an introvert, the next time you find yourself on the brink of a fruitless argument or being pulled into drama, remember – your energy is better spent elsewhere!

Practical Tip: Create a mental checklist of questions like “Is this worth my energy?” or “Will this matter in a week?” before deciding to engage in any potential arguments or drama. If it doesn’t pass the checklist, walk away.

2. Trying to Please Everyone

Confident introverts know it’s impossible to make everyone happy – and they don’t waste their time trying.

They understand that it’s okay to say no, setting boundaries where necessary.

Rather than bending over backwards to meet others’ expectations, they prioritize their own needs and mental health.

Remember, it’s not your job to be liked by everyone. It’s your job to be true to yourself.

When you’re stressing about pleasing everyone else, take a step back and ask yourself what YOU truly want.

Practical Tip: Practice setting boundaries. Write down your limits and rehearse communicating them effectively. It’s not about being harsh but being clear on what you can and cannot do.

3. Excessive Social Media Scrolling

As a confident introvert myself, I’ve realized how easy it is to get caught up in the endless scrolling cycle on social media.

It’s like falling down a rabbit hole, one minute you’re checking a notification and the next thing you know, an hour has passed!

But I’ve learned that this habit doesn’t contribute anything valuable to my life. It doesn’t make me feel better or more connected.

In fact, it often does the opposite, leaving me feeling drained and disconnected from my own reality.

So I’ve made a conscious decision to limit my time on social media.

Instead of mindless scrolling, I now use that time to read a book, meditate, or simply enjoy some quiet reflection. Trust me, it’s a switch worth making.

Practical Tip: Set specific times of the day for social media and stick to it. Use apps or tools to block social media sites during work or reflection times to avoid distractions.

4. Worrying About Things Out of Their Control

Confident introverts know that worrying about things they can’t control is like trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubblegum – completely futile.

Around 85% of what we worry about never actually happens. And for the 15% that does happen, most people find that either they were able to handle the difficulty better than expected or the difficulty taught them a lesson worth learning.

Instead of wasting time worrying about what might happen, confident introverts focus on what they can control – their actions and reactions.

Worrying won’t stop the bad stuff from happening; it just stops you from enjoying the good.

Practical Tip: Whenever you catch yourself worrying, write it down and identify what you can and cannot control about the situation. Focus your energy on action steps for the things you can control.

5. Holding Onto Past Mistakes

Confident introverts understand the power of forgiveness – especially self-forgiveness.

We all have chapters in our lives we wish we could rewrite, but dwelling on past mistakes doesn’t change them, it only steals the joy from the present moment.

Every stumble and fall is a chance to learn and grow. Each mistake is a stepping stone leading us towards the person we’re meant to be.

So, instead of holding onto past mistakes, confident introverts embrace them as valuable lessons and use them to build a stronger, more resilient self.

We’re all wonderfully flawed humans on our own unique journey. There’s no growth without a few bumps along the way. So don’t be too hard on yourself; you’re doing better than you think.

Practical Tip: Write your past mistakes on a piece of paper, acknowledge them, and then literally toss it in the trash. It’s a symbolic way to let go and remind yourself that everyone makes mistakes and grows from them.

6. Comparing Themselves to Others

I’ll be honest, there was a time when I used to constantly compare myself to others – my accomplishments, my appearance, even my pace in life.

But then I realized, it’s like comparing apples and oranges. We’re all unique in our own ways, with different strengths, skills, and life paths.

As a confident introvert, I’ve learned to appreciate my journey and stopped wasting time comparing it to others’.

Everyone has their own pace in life and that’s okay. Instead of worrying about what others are doing, I now focus on my personal growth and happiness.

When you find yourself stuck in the comparison trap, remind yourself that you’re on your own unique journey. Embrace it, cherish it and most importantly – live it at your own pace.

Practical Tip: Identify your strengths and achievements and focus on them. Create a ‘brag file’ – a collection of positive feedback, your achievements, and reminders of your worth to refocus your thoughts.

7. Pretending to be Someone They’re Not

Life’s too short to wear a mask. Confident introverts don’t waste time pretending to be something they’re not just to fit into societal norms or to please others.

It’s exhausting, it’s inauthentic, and frankly, it’s a disservice to the unique individual that they are.

They embrace their introverted nature – their love for solitude, their deep-thinking mind, their creative spirit – and they don’t apologize for it.

They understand that authenticity is liberating. It’s freedom from the shackles of societal expectations.

So, be you. Unapologetically you. Because at the end of the day, those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter won’t mind.

Practical Tip: Make a list of your values and principles and reflect on them regularly. It serves as a reminder to stay true to yourself amid external pressures.

8. Multitasking

Despite popular belief, multitasking is not a magical productivity booster. In fact, research shows that only 2% of people can effectively multitask.

For the rest of us, it leads to decreased productivity and increased mistakes.

Confident introverts understand this. They prefer to focus on one task at a time, giving it their full attention.

They know that by trying to juggle multiple tasks at once, they’re not giving any single task the attention and quality it deserves.

When you’re tempted to multitask, remember that sometimes less is more.

Focusing on one task at a time can actually make you more productive and your work, more effective.

Practical Tip: Prioritize your tasks and focus on completing them one at a time. Use the Pomodoro Technique – work for 25 minutes, then take a 5-minute break to increase focus and productivity.

9. Overcommitting

As someone who values my time and energy, I’ve learned to be selective about what I commit to.

I used to say yes to everything, often at the expense of my own well-being and peace of mind.

But over time, I realized that overcommitting was leaving me drained and stressed.

So now, before taking on a new commitment, I ask myself: “Is this worth my time? Does it bring me joy or help me grow?”

If the answer is no, I politely decline. It’s okay to say no to others in order to say yes to yourself. Your time and energy are precious, use them wisely.

Practical Tip: Before saying yes to anything, pause and evaluate if it aligns with your priorities. Create a decision-making criteria list that helps you decide if a commitment is worth your time and energy.

10. Neglecting Self-Care

Confident introverts never make the mistake of putting self-care on the back burner.

They know that neglecting their physical, emotional, and mental well-being is like ignoring a leaky faucet – it might seem small at first, but if left unchecked, it can lead to a flood of problems down the line.

They understand that self-care isn’t selfish or indulgent; it’s necessary. It’s about giving the world the best of you instead of what’s left of you.

They make time for themselves – to rest, recharge, and rejuvenate. Because at the end of the day, you can’t pour from an empty cup.

Practical Tip: Schedule self-care activities into your calendar like any other appointment. Treat them with importance. It can be reading, a walk, a hobby, or simply rest, as per your preference.

11. Living Life on Autopilot

Lastly, confident introverts don’t just exist; they live. They don’t go through life on autopilot, feeling disconnected from their actions and experiences.

They understand that life isn’t a rehearsal; this is it, their one shot.

So they take charge. They make conscious decisions. They savor every moment. They strive to make their journey meaningful and enriching.

After all, we’re not here to just go through the motions; we’re here to truly live.

So if you find yourself stuck in the daily grind, remember – each day is a new opportunity to engage, to experience, and to embrace life in all its glory. Don’t just exist, live!

Practical Tip: Allocate a specific time each day for self-reflection. Consider what went well, what didn’t, and how you can make tomorrow better. Be present and make conscious decisions to lead a purposeful life.

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Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the founder, and editor of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 15 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. Check out my latest book on the Hidden Secrets of Buddhism and How it Saved My Life. If you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Facebook or Twitter.

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