12 characteristics of the “perfect girl” (according to men)

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If you’ve ever asked the question “am I attractive?“, then look no further.

You might be surprised to find that some of these qualities don’t include blonde hair and blue eyes – a classic misnomer associated with the perfect girl.

1) She’s Got a Great Sense of Humor

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Of course, everyone loves a funny girl. Whether she is cracking jokes or laughing at yours, men love a girl who can laugh at herself, laugh with others, and just have a good time.

A sense of humor is important in a good relationship because it means that she can roll with the punches. There’s no need to be uptight in life anyway, right?

2) She’s Slightly Younger Than You

When asked about their best relationships and sexual experiences, men report that women who are 2-4 years younger than they are the best girlfriends.

They are happy with their relationships and the flow of their relationship when the woman is slightly younger.

3) She knows what men want

A perfect girl knows exactly what men want from a relationship.

Let’s face it: men see the world differently to women and we want different things from a relationship.

This can make a passionate and loving relationship — something that men actually want deep down as well — really difficult to achieve.

The thing is that not many women know what men want. And this is understandable. Because getting men to open up to you and tell you what their thinking can seem like an impossible task.

A new theory in psychology is generating a lot of buzz at the moment. It claims to reveal exactly what men secretly want from a girl.

Simply put, a man wants to see himself as a hero. As someone his partner genuinely wants and needs to have around. Not as a mere accessory, ‘best friend’, or ‘partner in crime’.

It’s called the hero instinct. And I think it provides a compelling explanation as to what really drives men in relationships.

To learn more, watch this free video by James Bauer. He’s the relationship psychologist who first discovered the hero instinct.

If you want to be the perfect girl, I encourage you to watch the video. Because I think the hero instinct is one of the best-kept secrets in relationship psychology.

Here’s a link to the video again.

4) She’s Got Great Teeth

Who doesn’t love a great smile? Men do, that’s for sure. Women who take care of their teeth often show them off and love to smile.

Men find a big, bright smile incredibly sexy and studies have shown time and time again that women – and men – who smile more, are perceived as happier and more approachable than those who don’t smile on a regular basis.

5) She’s Got a Firm Chest

Of course, what man wouldn’t want a girl with a big chest? Women who have large chests are perceived as younger, healthier, and sexier than women with smaller chests.

Obviously, everyone likes something different, but in general, and according to studies on boobs, men prefer perky and firm boobs.

6) She’s Got Long Legs

Tall woman and women who have longer legs have always been idolized and worshiped by both men and women.

After all, long, lean legs look great in a pair of worn out jeans and a sexy black dress.

During a unique study of 77 men shown morphed pictures of women, they men still picked out the attractive women because of their long legs.

7) The Perfect Girl is Independent

These days, independent women are all over the place, and that can make finding your perfect girl a bit tricky: as a man, you need to step up and offer her more than love and support.

Because girls have so much more power and control in the world, as well as an incredible amount of self-confidence, it is harder for a man to catch a girl’s attention with the old go-to tricks of having a good job, driving a nice car, and living in a fancy neighborhood.

Chances are, the girl you are after also has those things. And men love it.

8) She’s Got Small Feet

It seems strange, but men prefer women with smaller feet. Perhaps they are afraid that she’ll wear his shoes if they have the same sized feet.

In a study conducted with edited photos, men said women with smaller feet were more attractive overall, even when they couldn’t see the woman’s face.

9) She’s Well Educated

Smart women are super sexy.

There may have been a time when men prefer their perfect girl to be quiet and stand off to the side, but now men love strong, smart women who can contribute to the conversation, challenge them, and keep things interesting.

10) She Wears Red

Everyone knows that men love red – and it’s backed by biology. If a girl walks in wearing red, she’s sure to catch the attention of a few guys.

And there’s nothing wrong with that. Men prefer red, not because it’s a great color and women of all shapes and sizes look good in it, but because it reminds them of sex. Plain and simple.

11) She’s Got Narrow Hips

There was a time that scientists said that men preferred women with larger hips because that meant they were capable of bearing children for the man.

Welcome to 2018. That’s not a thing anymore. Men prefer small, dainty women who have narrow hips because it speaks to youth and vibrancy, rather than mom jeans.

12) She’s a Brunette

Betcha thought we were going to say blonde? Unfortunately, the blonde stereotypes come into play here: men perceived women with brown hair as being more independent, smart, and capable.

In a study where the color of women’s hair was changed, men overwhelmingly chose the brunettes over the blondes. From a long-term relationship perspective, men considered the perfect girl with brown hair to be more reliable and stable. Who knew?

In conclusion: How does a perfect girl approach a relationship?

These 12 characteristics pretty much sum up what is a “perfect girl”, according to men.

The thing is that even perfect girls can struggle to have loving, long term relationships.

And the reason is that they struggle to understand what men really want.

Let’s face it: Men see the world differently to you and we want different things from a relationship.

This can make a passionate and loving relationship — something that men actually want deep down as well — really difficult to achieve.

I know that getting a guy to open up and tell you what he’s thinking can feel like an impossible task. But I’ve recently come across a new way to help you understand what’s driving him in your relationship…

James Bauer is one of the world’s leading relationship experts.

And in his new video, he reveals a new concept which brilliantly explains what really drives men romantically. He calls it the hero instinct. I talked about this concept above.

Simply put, men want to be your hero. Not necessarily an action hero like Thor, but he does want to step up to the plate for the woman in his life and be appreciated for his efforts.

The hero instinct is probably the best-kept secret in relationship psychology. And I think it holds the key to a man’s love and devotion for life.

You can watch the video here.

I don’t usually pay much attention to popular new concepts in psychology or recommend videos. But some ideas are game-changers. And when it comes to relationships, I think this is one of them.

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Written by Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the founder, and editor of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 15 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. If you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Facebook or Twitter.

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