Life is hectic and hard, and it can be a real struggle to feel happy most of the time, let alone all of the time.
The truth is that no one should strive to feel happy all of the time; there are many wonderful emotions within us that make us feel alive, although some of them are more pleasant than others.
When you catch yourself needing a little pick me up, try one of these ten ways to make yourself happier.
We’ve summarized her 10 suggestions below:
1) Take a Long, Deep Breath
When life is about to swallow you up and feel like you need a break, take one and inhale and exhale a few times and then take one long, slow, deep breath to remind yourself that you are alive and everything happens for a reason.
This will help calm you down and allow you to focus on the task at hand.
2) Look for Things to be Grateful For
Start your day by telling yourself one thing you are grateful for each day. Some days, simply getting out of bed is a chore, so be grateful that you have legs to carry you to the kitchen to make breakfast.
When you start to look for the little things in your life that are going well, you’ll find more of them coming your way.
3) Acknowledge that Things Didn’t Happen
If you are at your wits’ end and you can’t muster the strength to find one good thing in your life, consider all the bad things that didn’t go wrong today.
You didn’t get sick; you didn’t lose your job, you didn’t eat that entire cake even though you wanted to. There are good things all around, but sometimes they come to us in unanswered prayers.
4) Just Smile
Whether you feel like it or not, smiling can improve your mood and your health. It can make you relax and help you feel calmer.
Plus, everyone looks better when they smile. No one likes the look of a scowl on anyone’s face, certainly not our own, so unfurl that brow and smile. You’ll be glad you did.
5) Name Your Feelings
Rather than feeling anxious about how you are feeling, try naming those feelings in an effort to own them and gain power over them.
If you are angry, say you are angry. If you are sad, say you are sad. Don’t be ashamed of the way you feel. Give them names, and then let them go.
(To learn more techniques to accept your feelings and focus on the present moment, check out Hack Spirit’s eBook: The Art of Mindfulness: A Practical Guide to Living in the Moment)
6) Improve Your Posture
Sit up straight next time you find yourself feeling sorry for yourself, or feeling bad about your situation. Sitting up in your chair improves your ability to breath, and it makes you feel more powerful.
7) Think of Something Positive
If you need a change of scenery but can’t slip out of that important meeting, imagine something you love or really like for a moment.
Ice cream, vacation, your kids. Anything to spark a release of hormones to make yourself feel better. It works, and it can really carry you through your day when things aren’t going so well.
8) Be Thankful to Yourself
Above all else, you should practice gratitude to yourself. After all, you’ve gotten yourself this far in life, haven’t you?
There’s something to be said about how well you take care of yourself, and even when things feel like they are falling apart, you can pick yourself up by reminding yourself that you’ve gotten through other hard times and you’ll get through this.
(To learn more about self-love, check out our ultimate guide to loving yourself here)
9) Look for Silver Linings
Some days you can’t win, no matter how hard you try, but rather than sulk around and feel sorry for yourself, remind yourself that everything happens for a reason and look for that reason.
That isn’t just a saying you know, finding the positives in the negative situations can help you appreciate even the worst days of your life.
10) Keep Pictures of Those You Love Around
When the going gets tough, take a break and remind yourself of the reasons you do this work, live this life, get up everyday and do it all over again tomorrow: if it’s so you can support your family, put pictures of your family around your office to remind yourself of the “why” in your life.
If you want to bust your ass so you can travel, hang up pictures of your favorite places to keep you motivated when the 3 o’clock wall hits you. 30 seconds out of each day can help you live a happier life, and remind you of all the things you have and will accomplish in this life as well.
Mentally tough people aren’t just able to cope with problems as they arise—they’re better equipped than others for life in general. If you want to boost your mental toughness, check out Hack Spirit’s eBook: The Art of Resilience: A Practical Guide to Developing Mental Toughness.