10 things you don’t realize you’re doing because you have low self-confidence

Ever found yourself wondering why you act a certain way or make specific choices?

Sometimes, it’s not just random; it could be tied to how you feel about yourself. Low self-confidence is a sneaky thing.

It’s not always about feeling down or thinking you’re not good enough.

It can show up in the little things you do every day, things you might not even realize are linked to how you see yourself.

We’re going to explore 10 of these subtle signs that might indicate your self-confidence isn’t as high as it could be.

Don’t worry, it’s all about understanding yourself better, and hey, we’ve all been there at some point. 

1. Saying “Sorry” All the Time

Have you ever noticed yourself apologizing for just about everything, even when it’s not your fault?

It’s like you’re on auto-pilot with “sorry” being your go-to word.

This might be a sneaky sign that you’re not feeling super confident.

When we’re not feeling great about ourselves, we tend to think we’re always in the wrong or that we’re bothering others.

So, we say “sorry” a lot to kind of smooth things over.

But here’s the thing – you don’t have to be sorry for existing or for tiny things that aren’t really mistakes.

Remember, it’s totally okay to take up space and have your own thoughts and feelings!

2. Avoiding Eye Contact

Here’s a little something I’ve noticed – avoiding eye contact can be a subtle hint of low self-confidence.

Think about those times when you’re chatting with someone and you find it hard to look them in the eyes.

Instead, you might look at the ground, or anywhere else really. This can be a sign that you’re not feeling super sure about yourself.

It’s like, deep down, you might be worried about what they think of you, or maybe you feel a bit intimidated.

I get it; it can be tough to hold someone’s gaze when you’re not feeling your best.

But hey, eye contact can be a powerful way of showing you’re engaged and present. It’s okay to take small steps towards it – no pressure!

3. Overthinking Simple Decisions

Now, let’s get real here. Have you ever found yourself stuck in a loop, overthinking even the simplest of decisions?

It’s like, “Should I send this text?”, “What should I wear?”, or “Is it okay to ask this question?”.

This constant second-guessing can actually be a telltale sign of low self-confidence.

It’s as if there’s a little voice in your head, doubting every choice you make, making you question your own judgment.

It’s tough, I know. You might feel like you’re in a never-ending battle with your own thoughts.

The truth is, this kind of overthinking can drain you. It’s important to recognize that not every decision is make-or-break.

Trusting yourself more can be a game changer. You’ve got this, even if it doesn’t always feel that way.

4. Not Speaking Up in Groups

Have you ever been in a group, maybe in a meeting or with friends, and you had something to say but just… didn’t?

It’s like your voice just gets stuck in your throat. You might worry that your ideas aren’t good enough, or that people will laugh or disagree.

This is a classic sign of not feeling super confident in yourself. It’s totally normal to feel a bit nervous about sharing your thoughts, especially when everyone’s attention turns to you.

But remember, your ideas and opinions are just as important as anyone else’s.

It’s okay to take small steps – maybe start by sharing a little something in a smaller group, and work your way up. Your voice matters!

5. Preferring to Stay in the Background

You know, I’ve seen this in many people, and maybe you’ve felt it too. It’s about preferring to stay in the background, almost like blending into the wallpaper.

At work, in social settings, or even in family gatherings, you might find yourself hanging back, letting others take the spotlight.

This isn’t about being shy or introverted; it’s more about feeling like you shouldn’t or don’t want to draw attention to yourself.

It’s like there’s a comfort in not being noticed, because being noticed feels risky, like you’re opening yourself up to judgment.

I totally understand that; it can feel safer to stay hidden. But you have unique qualities and contributions that are worth sharing.

It’s okay to step into the light sometimes, even if it feels a bit scary at first.

6. Constantly Comparing Yourself to Others

Here’s a hard truth: constantly comparing yourself to others is a big red flag for low self-confidence.

We’ve all been there, scrolling through social media, looking at others’ lives and feeling like we just don’t measure up.

It’s like you’re in this endless race where everyone else seems to be ahead, and you’re just trying to keep up.

This comparison game can be exhausting and honestly, it’s pretty unfair to yourself.

Everyone’s on their own path, with their own set of challenges.

What you see online is often just a highlight reel, not the full story. Your worth isn’t defined by how you stack up against others. It’s about your own journey, your growth, and the unique person you are.

7. Avoiding New Challenges

Ever find yourself steering clear of new challenges or opportunities? It’s like when something new comes up, your first thought is, “Oh no, I can’t do that,” or “What if I mess it up?”

This kind of thinking is a pretty clear sign of low self-confidence. It’s like you’re in a comfy zone and stepping out of it feels way too scary.

You might worry about failing or not being good enough, so you play it safe instead.

But here’s the thing: trying new stuff is how we grow. It’s totally okay to be a beginner and to not get everything right the first time.

Every time you try something new, you learn a bit more about yourself and what you can do. It’s all about taking that first step, even if it feels a bit wobbly.

8. Struggling to Accept Compliments

Struggling to accept compliments is a big, flashing sign of low self-confidence.

It’s like when someone says something nice about you or your work, and instead of just saying “thank you,” you brush it off or argue against it.

You might think things like, “They’re just being nice,” or “They don’t really mean it.”

This isn’t just modesty; it’s a sign you might not truly believe you deserve praise or positive feedback.

It can feel really uncomfortable to acknowledge that you’ve done well or that someone genuinely appreciates you.

But you know what? You are worthy of those compliments. Learning to accept them graciously is a step towards believing in your own value and worth.

9. Downplaying Your Achievements

I’ve noticed this in myself and in others too. When you accomplish something, big or small, do you tend to downplay it?

It’s like, you finish a project, someone congratulates you, and your immediate response is, “Oh, it was nothing,” or “Anyone could have done it.”

This habit of brushing off your achievements, as if they’re not a big deal, is actually a subtle indicator of low self-confidence.

It’s like you’re not fully comfortable owning your success. Maybe you’re worried about coming off as boastful, or you think you don’t really deserve the recognition.

But here’s the thing: your achievements are worth celebrating, no matter how small they might seem.

They’re a testament to your effort and skill. Embracing and acknowledging your successes is a way of honoring your hard work and talent.

10. Hesitant to Share Your Opinions

The last sign that often goes unnoticed in the realm of low self-confidence is a hesitation to share your opinions.

Have you ever been in a situation where you had a thought or an opinion but chose to keep it to yourself?

Maybe because you were worried about how it would be received or feared it might start a conflict.

This isn’t just about being polite or considerate; it’s more about a lack of confidence in the value of your own views.

You might think, “What if I’m wrong?” or “Do my thoughts even matter?”

But remember, your perspectives and ideas are important and deserve to be heard. Having a different opinion isn’t a bad thing – it’s what makes conversations rich and diverse.

Embracing and expressing your viewpoints is a key step in building self-confidence.

Did you like my article? Like me on Facebook to see more articles like this in your feed.

Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the founder, and editor of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 15 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. Check out my latest book on the Hidden Secrets of Buddhism and How it Saved My Life. If you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Facebook or Twitter.

13 manipulative behaviors you should never tolerate in a relationship

If you recognize these 10 persistent thoughts, you’re on the verge of a major life transformation