If you think that a man will take any sex that he can get, you might be surprised to find that many men have a list of things they don’t like during sex.
So what are the turn-offs for guys?
Here are 20 things men consider a turn-off when they are in the sack. Don’t worry if you do some of these. After all, not everyone can be a perfect girl.
1) She’s Not Sure What to Do
Our bodies were meant to go together so it’s hard to believe that a woman wouldn’t instinctively know what to do; but at the very least, a woman would pick up a few things from television, the movies, or the internet right? Wrong.
Some women just have no idea how to please a man and make the mistake of thinking it’s all about satisfaction, not the journey to satisfaction.
2) She’s There But Not Present
If she just spreads her legs and checks out, guys don’t like that. Would anyone like that? It’s pretty gross.
If she is just letting you go to town, it’s likely that this relationship is going nowhere.
3) She Morphs Into a Porn Star
Perhaps she goes in the opposite direction: she knows wayyyyy too much about sex and positions and fantasies.
If that makes you uncomfortable, you are not alone.
Most men like to talk the talk when it comes to having crazy, over-the-top sex, but the truth is that there is a limit for everyone.
4) She Isn’t Open to Experimenting
While sex is amazing, it can get boring if you don’t take the time to jazz things up once in a while.
Guys understand that some girls might need a little time to get used to the idea of experimenting or fantasies, but he doesn’t love waiting for her to get on board with it.
5) She Barks Commands at You
Guys might not always be able to find the G-spot or give a girl an orgasm, but they are trying their best down there.
Guys hate it when girls direct them like they have no idea what is going on or what they are doing.
6) She Doesn’t Get Into It
Sex is about so much more than intercourse. It’s about touch, sensation, anticipation, energy, sounds and more.
When girls aren’t feeling like it, or they have sex just to “get it over with”, guys hate that.
7) She Doesn’t Have Confidence in Herself
Girls who hide under the covers or insist on having sex with the lights off are no fun. Guys like to roll around and have fun, and when a girl is self-conscious, it can really ruin the mood.
And who doesn’t love a confident woman? There’s just something super special about a girl who is comfortable in her own skin and doesn’t want to hide her body from her lover.
8) She Doesn’t Do Much More Than the Basics
There are about as many sexual positions as you can imagine, so it’s no wonder guys get bored with girls who always want to be on top, or who always want to be on the bottom. You gotta live a little after all.
Guys hate it when the sex becomes predictable, and it really turns them off.
9) She Pretends to be Enjoying Herself
Probably one of the worst things a girl can do is pretend to have an orgasm. There’s just no need of it.
Guys want to please women, but there’s a consensus that it doesn’t happen every time.
The more people have sex together, the more likely they are to experience orgasm together. But she’s got to be into it and relaxed enough to make that happen.
10) She’s Too Afraid to Get Rough
There’s a time for love-making, and there’s a time for hard core sex. When guys want the latter and girls don’t oblige, it can deflate the mood pretty quickly.
Girls shouldn’t be afraid to take the lead and get a little rough with a guy once in a while. In fact, when he has to do all the work, it’s a major turn-off and can ruin the mood for everyone.
There’s no shortage of ways to please a man or women, but when women aren’t having fun and enjoying themselves as much as men are, it leads to problems in the bedroom and beyond.
11) She’s playing Dead
Sure, guys like to be in control, but don’t make the mistake of thinking they want all the control.
And don’t allow yourself to be treated like a waste receptacle. Get in there and take some control over what is going on in bed and your guy will be glad you did.
Sometimes, women just plant themselves on the bed and let the guys do all the work. It’s a two-way street, ladies.
12) She Doesn’t Check Her Attitude
Guys love a strong woman, but if she comes to bed with a million little expectations and quirks, she is going to send the guy running for the hills.
There is enough pressure about having sex, especially the first few times, so leave the rulebook at the door and just try to have fun.
13) She Treats it Like a Toy
If she has penis envy, leave it at the door. Don’t try the guy’s piece like it’s part of the entertainment.
It’s not a toy so don’t treat it like one. When she takes her time and enjoy pleasuring the man, he’ll be more than happy to return the favor.
14) It’s All About Her
If there’s one sure fire way to ruin sex with your guy, it’s when the female makes the sex all about her.
Guys love to treat their ladies right, but they want to have some fun, too. If she takes it all for yourself, he’ll get tired of the “she show” real fast.
15) Don’t Have Fun
If she doesn’t care about having an orgasm, he won’t care about giving her one, and then what’s the point of all this? Who’s having fun?
If she’s just going through the motions, it won’t be long before the guy gets tired of utilitarian sex.
16) Don’t Keep it Clean
Okay, we’re all adults here, so let’s just take a minute to remind you of the importance of keeping yourself clean.
You can snicker and laugh all you want, but guys aren’t turned on by odor. Do what you gotta do to keep yourself from smelling like a truck stop.
17) Say Things About his Penis
If you want to turn a guy off, definitely bring up the size, shape, color, hair distribution, smell, taste, or any other aspect of his penis that you can think of.
That is sure to shut down the party before it gets started.
Guys are incredibly sensitive about their members, so don’t make any comments that could leave him feeling like less than a man.
18) Look at Your Phone
Don’t be a distracted headcase during sex. Who even does this?
Apparently women must do it if guys need to complain about it. It’s the equivalent of your guy bringing a submarine sandwich to bed with the two of you.
This isn’t Springfield and your man is not Homer Simpson. If he can’t have a sandwich in bed, she can’t have her phone.
19) Don’t Please Him
So many women think that sex is all about them. Guys should be bending over backward, so to speak, to please their ladies. T
hat’s simply not true and women who still hold on to the “guys do everything” mentality is often going to bed alone.
Share the wealth and the pleasure and show the guy a good time or he’ll be looking for that submarine sandwich before you know it.
20) Cling to Him As If Her Life Depends on it
For every alpha female out there, there are two more women who are dying for a guy’s attention and are clinging to whatever kind of attention or love they can get.
Guys don’t like clingy girls. Don’t be a clingy girl or you’ll turn your guy off faster than a car that’s run out of gas.
Do guys think about the girl they like sexually?
You’ve probably asked yourself: Do men think of sex all the time? And in particular, do they think about sex with the woman they’re currently sexually attracted to?
Or do they think about it with many women?
Well, consider this:
Do people feel hungry all the time? You love coffee, but do you want to have coffee 24/7?
The answer is no. In the same vein, men don’t think of sex all the time. It’s impossible. They have other things on their mind.
However, men may be more easily aroused, according to Dr. Diana Fleischman, an evolutionary psychologist.
Because of evolution:
“If a man has sex with 100 women in a year, he might have 100 babies. If a woman has sex with 100 men in a year, she might have one baby and a very sore bottom.”
This is because of what is called the “obligate parental investment”: a man’s lowest investment for a child might be a few minutes’ work and sperm and a woman’s investment is nine months of pregnancy and a dangerous labour – and then after that, the child has to be raised somehow.
This is what causes men to be more motivated to have sex and women to be choosy about which partner to pick, according to Dr. Fleischman.
So, yes men think about sex more than women, but not all the time.
When will men think of sex?
When they’re triggered. If they see a woman they like sexually in a sexy dress, they’ll probably get aroused. And yes, it could be likely that men think of sex with many different women. However, the one they currently like sexually will be most often in their mind.
But when there are no environmental stimuli, and there’s no reason to think of sex, they won’t have sex on their mind.
What do guys think after they sleep with a woman?
After you’ve had sex, the blood starts flowing back up to the guy’s brain, and it’s possible for him to have a coherent thought.
So, here are some things a guy might be thinking:
1) I just had sex. That’s great!
He might be thinking how awesome that was and how he wants to have it again. Over and over again!
2) Did she have an orgasm or was she faking it?
This is what some men may ask themselves.
Men feel proud when they make a woman cum. If they know they did;t make the woman have an orgasm, they may feel a lack of self-worth.
He might be thinking that you won’t be interested in him if he wasn’t able to make you have an orgasm.
3) Is this a one-time thing?
Or are we going to keep doing this?
If he doesn’t seem like much of an emotional person, he might be thinking when you are going to leave or how is he going to leave.
If he seems like he genuinely likes you, then he’ll be thinking about how he can make this happen again.
4) Am I the best she has ever had?
Or did she not enjoy it? He’s probably hoping that he is the best you’ve ever had. If he isn’t good at what he does, he might be thinking: Was I horrible?
5) Should I get a pizza right now?
This one may be a weird thought to consider, but all that exercise can stir up quite the appetite. So, go ahead and get some food together!
6) I hope she’s on the pill.
If you didn’t use a condom, this is a natural thought that a guy might have. He might ask you, or he’ll just sit there silently hoping.
He has been hammered, and he’s thinking, what the hell did I just do? Or perhaps he has a girlfriend/wife and feels genuinely remorseful once the deed has been done.
8) I hope she doesn’t have a boyfriend.
Similarly, if he likes you, he might be hoping that you haven’t pulled one over him. This is only likely to happen if it was a quick meeting between the two of you.
9) I can’t wait to tell my friends.
Guys like to boast to their friends. It’s natural. He wants to share this incredible experience with his friends!
10) Did she like those moves I was pulling?
Maybe he was kissing your neck. Maybe he tried to rub your body in different ways. Whatever he did, he’s probably wondering whether you liked it or not.
11) Absolutely nothing.
Some guys can be a blank slate. Perhaps he enjoyed it and he’s just moved onto what is capturing his attention at the moment.
Why do some guys get weird after you sleep with them?
There are many reasons a guy might get weird after you sleep with them. Here are some:
1) He has a girlfriend/wife that he didn’t tell you about
Obviously, you don’t want this to be the case, but it could be possible, especially if you haven’t spent much time with him.
He probably won’t admit it, so you might want to ask him directly. You’ll be able to tell from his reaction, even if he says he doesn’t.
2) He was disappointed in his performance
Guys hold a lot of weight on their performance in bed. It’s a masculine issue. So if he thought that you didn’t really enjoy it, then he’ll be questioning himself.
All you have to do is let him that it was okay and that you’re looking forward to doing it again. That will cheer him right up.
3) They’ve already achieved their goal
Guys think about sex a lot. It’s one of their main motivations. So, once the dirty deed is done, they’ve achieved their prize and they want to move on with their next prize. This is why you need to avoid the players!
4) He doesn’t feel sexual chemistry
An unfortunate one, but if he felt like there wasn’t much sexual connection between the two of you, he might be turned off.
5) He forgot to use a condom
It’s dangerous to not use a condom, but in the heat of the moment, it can happen. Perhaps he’s worried about getting you pregnant or contracting sexual diseases.
6) He has feelings for you
After sex, perhaps it’s dawned on him how much he likes you. It scares him a little bit because he’s afraid of commitment. This can be very common.
7) He thinks you want a relationship
He might be trying to avoid you now because he doesn’t want to let you down. He’s not ready for a relationship, and he knows you want one, so he’ll try to avoid you to not upset you.
Can a guy feel when a woman cums?
It’s a fairly common myth that a guy can always tell whether a woman’s had an orgasm or not.
But in actuality, there’s no way to tell if a woman’s had an orgasm or not.
Women experience orgasms in different ways. It can feel like a whole body experience that’s hard to describe.
A man may guess when you’ve had an orgasm. For example, if you’re screaming, “Yes! Yes! Keeping going!” They know they’re close to giving you an orgasm.
But really, the only way for a man to know is if they ask you.
It’s different for a man as it’s very obvious when he cums. A man also stops after he has cum, whereas a woman can keep going.
In general, communicating about sex is the only way he’ll know when you’ve had an orgasm.
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