If you’re like me, you get annoyed that society focuses so much on physical appearance.
It’s as if “looks” are the most important factor in someone being seen as “attractive”.
Give me a break.
We all know that there’s much more to attractiveness than physical appearance.
And today, we’re going to prove it.
Below we’ve gone through scientific research to bring to you 10 factors to attractiveness that you might not know about.
The best bit?
All of them have nothing to do with physical appearance.
1) Be funny
We can all agree that laughing is one of life’s greatest pleasure. When you’re with a guy or girl with a witty sense of humor, everyday life becomes a little more lighthearted and fun.
It’s no surprise then that science says that funny people are more attractive and charming.
Jeffrey Hall, associate professor of communication studies, found that when two strangers meet, the more times a man tries to be funny and the more a woman laughs at those attempts, the more likely it is for the woman to be interested in dating.
However, an even better indicator of romantic connection is if the two are spotted laughing together.
2) Get and Keep Good Friends
Research has shown that people appear more attractive when they have a large social circle.
Why? Because people who have lots of friends are perceived as being well liked and kind.
Plus, having a good group of friends makes you feel good about yourself, which can translate into more self-confidence overall.
3) Be a leader
People tend to be attracted to power. A 2014 study found that people involved in a group thought their leader was attractive. But people not involved in that group didn’t think agree.
So, if you want people to be attracted to you, grow a pair and start taking action. Teach people how to do things you know how to do and become a motivator for other people’s success.
4) Skip the Small Talk
Who would have thought that more deep and meaningful talks makes a person more attractive?
In 1997, a New York psychology named Arthur Aron conducted an experiment with two groups. One group asked each other probing questions. The other group focused on small talk. The people who asked deeper questions found a better emotional connection – and one couple even fell in love.
Harvard research suggests that when you talk about yourself meaningfully, it activates the same regions of the brain as sex or a good meal.
Not only does smiling make you physically feel better, it makes you more attractive as well.
A study in Switzerland found that the more you smile, the more attractive a person is.
Have you ever heard of phrase “a resting bitch face”? It’s a thing that is robbing people of opportunity for love and work because they walk around with scowls on their faces all day. Smile more.
6) Get a Pet
To be more specific, get a dog. In a University of Michigan experiment, participants were read a story about a man with a dog and man without.
Each women rated the person with a dog as a more suitable partner in the long-term.
Why? Because owning a pet signals that you’re nurturing and capable of long-term commitments.
Besides, people are drawn to animals, and it’s a great way to break the ice when you are trying to meet people.
7) Just Be a Nice Person
Sometimes all people want is to be treated with respect and want people to be nice to them. If you want to bring more love and opportunity your way, be a good person. People remember nice people.
8) Get Yourself a Nice Pad
If you are trying to raise your attractiveness in the world, fewer things will work better than getting a place that will literally elevate your status in life.
In a Cardiff Metropolitan University Study, a man was photographed in a “high status” place and a “neutral status” place. The man with a higher status place received a much higher attractiveness rating.
So, go and get the best place you can afford – it will make people sit up and pay attention.
9) Play an Instrument
In a study in 2014, people who played an instrument, on average, were seen as more attractive.
“The ability to create complex music could be indicative of advanced cognitive abilities,” said said the lead researcher at the University College, Dublin. “Consequently, women may acquire genetic benefits for offspring by selecting musicians able to create more complex music as sexual partners.”
So go on, learn to play the guitar. Girls go nuts for guitar players. Plus you can lug it around to parties and campfires… drums, not so much.
10) Be Confident
As you probably guessed, self-confidence is probably one of the most attractive things about a person. Study after study has shown that confidence is a major attractiveness factor.
If you work on being okay with yourself, the rest will follow. Plus, you can be happy flying solo and stop worrying about how to impress other people.
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