10 rare signs you’re genuinely respected by people (even if they don’t say anything)

Respect is a tricky thing. It’s easy to mistake fear or admiration for respect, but true respect is about acknowledging someone’s worth and value.

Often, it’s not expressed with grand gestures or eloquent speeches. In fact, many times it’s the subtle things that show you’re genuinely respected by others, even if they never say a word to you about it.

In this piece, I’m going to share with you 10 rare signs that people truly respect you, signs you might have overlooked. 

Let’s get started. 

1) They listen to you

Listening is a fundamental sign of respect. It’s a simple act, but it speaks volumes about how much someone values your thoughts and opinions.

We’ve all been in conversations where it feels like the other person is just waiting for their turn to speak. They’re not really interested in what you have to say, they just want to share their own thoughts.

But when someone truly respects you, they’ll make an effort to really listen to what you’re saying. They won’t interrupt or try to steer the conversation back to themselves.

Instead, they’ll immerse themselves in your words, showing genuine interest and engagement. This is because they see worth in your perspectives and believe that they can learn from you.

2) They value your time

Time is one of the most precious commodities we have. So when people value your time, it’s a clear sign they respect you.

I remember a time when I was working on a project that required a lot of coordination with others. One person in particular, let’s call him John, always made sure to schedule meetings at a time that worked for me. He’d always ask me first, “When are you free?” before setting up any appointments.

John also respected my time during our meetings. He’d always arrive on time, get straight to the point, and never let our meetings run over the agreed end-time.

This consistent behavior showed me that John didn’t just value my input in the project, but he respected me as a person.

His actions spoke louder than any words could – he genuinely respected my time and by extension, me.

3) They trust your judgment

When people respect you, they trust your decisions and your ability to make sound judgments. This doesn’t mean they’ll always agree with you, but they’ll value your opinions and be open to your perspective.

In a study conducted by the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, it was found that individuals who trust others’ judgment tend to have higher levels of respect for those individuals. This study indicates that trust in someone’s judgment is a key component of respect, demonstrating how these two aspects are interconnected.

If you find that people are often seeking your advice or deferring to your decisions, it’s a strong indication that you’re genuinely respected.

4) They include you in important decisions

Being included in important decisions is a clear sign of respect. It shows that your opinions and ideas are valued, and that people trust your judgment.

Think about it. When you’re making a big decision, you’re likely to consult the people you respect the most. You want their insight and perspective because you value their opinion.

If you find yourself being included in decision-making processes, especially those of significance, it’s a good sign that people don’t just value your input, but they respect you as a person.

They believe that your thoughts and ideas could lead to better decisions, which is a clear demonstration of genuine respect.

5) They speak highly of you

People don’t usually sing the praises of individuals they don’t respect. When someone speaks highly of you, especially when you’re not around, it’s a sure sign they hold you in high regard.

They might tell others about your accomplishments, your good character, or how reliable you are. These positive affirmations, particularly when shared unsolicited, reveal a deep-rooted respect for you.

If you hear through the grapevine that someone has been speaking positively about you, take it as a compliment of the highest order – it’s a genuine sign of respect.

6) They stand up for you

One of the most touching signs of respect is when someone stands up for you, especially when you’re not there to defend yourself. It’s a powerful act that shows they hold you in high regard and are willing to back you up.

It’s easy to agree with the crowd, especially if it avoids conflict. But it takes courage and genuine respect to go against the grain and defend someone else’s character or actions.

If someone has your back, even when it’s easier or more convenient not to, it’s a heartwarming indication of their respect for you. It shows they value your reputation and see your worth, even if others don’t.

7) They’re honest with you

Honesty is a direct reflection of respect. When someone respects you, they won’t shy away from being honest with you, even when the truth might be hard to hear.

I’ve been in situations where I’ve made mistakes, and it was difficult to accept them. But I had a friend who was brave enough to point them out to me. It was tough to hear at first, but I realized that her honesty was rooted in respect.

She respected me enough to believe that I could handle the truth and learn from it. Her honesty helped me grow and improve, which I am eternally grateful for. So if someone is consistently honest with you, it’s a strong sign of their respect.

8) They disagree with you

It may seem odd, but when people respect you, they feel comfortable enough to disagree with you. If someone always agrees with everything you say, it could mean they’re just trying to please you rather than respecting your ability to engage in a healthy debate.

True respect allows for differing opinions. It means valuing each other’s viewpoints enough to consider them, even if they don’t align with our own.

So the next time someone disagrees with you, don’t take it as a sign of disrespect. Instead, see it as an indication of their respect for your intellect and their confidence in your ability to handle a difference of opinion.

9) They remember the small details

When someone remembers the small details about you, it’s a subtle but powerful sign of respect. It shows that they value your interactions and pay attention to what you say.

Whether it’s remembering your favorite book, the story about your childhood pet, or the name of your first teacher, these seemingly insignificant details are actually quite meaningful.

By recalling these small bits of information, they’re demonstrating that they not only listen to you but also care about you and respect what you have to say. It’s a clear sign that you’re important to them and genuinely respected.

10) They treat you with kindness

At the heart of respect is kindness. It’s about treating others with consideration, empathy, and appreciation. When someone treats you with consistent kindness, it’s a powerful sign of their respect for you.

Kindness is not about grand gestures or formalities. It’s seen in everyday interactions – a kind word, a thoughtful act, or even just a smile. It shows that they value your feelings and well-being.

So if someone consistently treats you with kindness, it’s not just a sign of their good manners. It’s a reflection of their genuine respect for you as an individual.

A final reflection

It’s fascinating to reflect on how respect manifests itself in subtle, often overlooked ways. It’s not always about grand gestures or eloquent speeches. Sometimes, it’s found in the quiet moments – a thoughtful act, a listening ear, or a kind word.

According to social psychologist and author Heidi Grant Halvorson, people judge us based on two metrics: respect and likability. While they are interconnected, respect is arguably the more significant of the two. It’s about acknowledging someone’s worth and value.

So as you navigate your interactions with others, remember to look for these 10 signs. They’re indicators that you’re not only liked but genuinely respected.

And if you see these signs in your relationships, cherish them. It’s a testament to your character and the positive influence you have on those around you. It’s an acknowledgment of your worth and value – a silent nod of respect.

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Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the founder, and editor of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 15 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. Check out my latest book on the Hidden Secrets of Buddhism and How it Saved My Life. If you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Facebook or Twitter.

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