We all need to engage in self-reflection every now and then. It helps us maintain a conscious awareness of where we are, where we have been and where you intend to go.
Through self-reflection, we are able to see, organize and plan our steps to reach our desires and dreams.
While it can be difficult to ask yourself the tough questions, once you do, you’ll have a clearer idea of who you are and what you really want in life.
So, if you would like to maximize the benefits of self reflection, ask yourself these 10 questions to provoke your mind and force you to reconsider the way you live and see the world.
1) What is worth suffering for?
If you want the benefits of something in life, you have to also want the costs. If you really want the 6 pack abs, then you have to be prepared to the go through the blood, sweet and tears at the gym.
2) Based on my daily routines, where can I expect to be in 5 years?
Our habits define us and ultimately determine what we’ll eventually achieve in our lifetime. If you really want to achieve your big goals in 5 years,then you need to make incremental improvements every single day. And it all starts with your daily routines.
3) What do I need to spend more or less time doing going forward?
What’s really important in your life? So many of us get distracted with day to day tasks that we forget where our main priorities are. An important mantra to keep in mind is: Productivity is not just about getting things done, it’s about getting the right things done.
4) What’s my real purpose?
As Viktor Frankl so eloquently put it: “Don’t aim at success. The more you aim at it and make it a target, the more you are going to miss it.
For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued, it must ensue, and it only does so as the unintended side effect of one’s personal dedication to a cause greater than one’s self.” So think bigger. Be a part of something greater than yourself.
5) What I am pretending not to know?
A lot of people think that happiness comes from thinking positive all the time. But it doesn’t. Happiness comes from embracing reality and accepting life as it is. When we stop deceiving ourselves, more possibilities open up to experience the beauty of the present moment.
6) What old rejections are still holding me back today?
We’ve all had scars and rejections in our life. And too often, they affect our future decisions. But we don’t need to be scared anymore. Don’t let old rejections take up permanent residence in your head.
7) What do I not want others to know about me?
We all have problems and flaws. If you try to hide them, you don’t give anyone a chance to understand you for who you are. Be open about your problems and move on. The people in your life will see your flaws as signs that you are just as human as they are.
8) Are the people around me helping me or hurting me?
The people around us hold a huge influence on our life. You simply cannot expect to live a positive and fulfilling life if the people around you are negative. As hard as it may be, it’s something you need to address.
9) How are my “shoulds” getting in the way of my “haves”?
The desire of our ego are often in conflict with the emotions of our heart. You must be prepared to let go of what you have planned to appreciate the moment and what you have right now.
10) What is worth smiling about?
We all have something to smile about. Take a second to think about what you can be grateful for right now. You might realize that you can be happy in the present moment, right now.
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