10 brutal truths about success mainstream media won’t tell you

If you’re like me, you get annoyed at the “fairy tale” successful life stories.

They usually go something like this:

– I had a dream.

– So then I achieved it!

– Voila! And here I am now giving you advice.

And the author ALWAYS skips over the hard parts to make themselves look smarter than they really are.

Give me a break.

I’m 29 now. And while I still have a lot to learn, I know that true success is a lot harder than these success stories make it seem.

So today, I’m going to go over 10 brutal truths about success that mainstream media simply won’t tell us.

1) You’ll never be a perfectionist

Perfectionists have such high standards that they fail to get anything done. If you’re going to rise to the top, you simply have to accept that nothing you ever do will be perfect.

Being a perfectionist can stop you from acting because you become scared of failure.

You need to learn to move on once any step is complete. It’s the only way you’ll climb to the top of the mountain.

2) At some point, you have to put yourself first

Somewhere along the way, you have to make a decision to put your needs and wants and desires before anyone else’s.

You can’t please everyone, and to achieve something beyond yourself, you need to make sure you’re functioning at your highest capacity.

Lots of us do it, but it’s a hard pill to swallow when you realize what you have to give up in order to find success.

3)  Sometimes you need to finish last

Sometimes, you have to fall on your face so you could see what you were doing wrong in order to come up with a game plan to do things right.

Maybe sometimes you’ll need to fail on purpose because you’re not ready to take the next steps forward on the success meter. It happens to the best of us.

4) You need to be willing to do what no one else will

You might have to go through your fair share of sleepless nights, risking money and time for the glory you seek.

It’s not the end of the world when you stick your neck on the line for something you want, and in hindsight, you’ll realize it’s all worth it when you get there.

5) You will need someone’s help

You’ll need to talk to others and learn from others to achieve success. This can look different for everyone, but somewhere along the way, you’ll need someone’s help for something and you have to make connections that will carry you through.

Perhaps Simon Sinek says it best: “Only you can take responsibility for your happiness…but you can’t do it alone. It’s a great paradox of being human.”

6) You need to act more than you plan

Successful people all have one thing in common: they just started.

Rather than sit around and wait for more time to pass, you have to get on the gravy train early and start working toward your goals.

It might mean that you spend a good deal of your life pursuing your goals, but the success you’ll find is probably worth it.

7) Being a leader is not a goal, it’s an evolution

Successful people become leaders because they are looking at the bigger pictures all the time.

They don’t focus on the things they can’t control and they don’t worry about the details. They move quick and fail fast.

This makes them excellent leaders, and they know that you can’t just take respect from someone, you have to earn it.

8) You need to be your own best cheerleader

People are going to doubt you and not everyone will support you. People have their own lives to worry about and may even resent your goals because it doesn’t fit in the stereotypical box they’ve created for you.

But remember this: You don’t need them, especially if they’re bringing toxic energy. You need to pave your own path forward and back yourself 100 percent.

9)  Success is an outcome, not a motivator

Wanting to be “seen as successful” should never be the reason for anything you do.

You need to work for something larger than yourself. Whether it’s helping others or creating change, working for a goal that doesn’t revolve around your ego will allow you to achieve truly great things.

10) There’s no shortcut

While others grease the wheels and try to cut corners, you’re going to need to burn the candle at both ends to keep your business going or keep your goals in check.

People will only ever see the outcome of your efforts, not the sum of your efforts.

You’ll wish more people knew what it took to get to where you are today. And you wouldn’t be alone in wishing that.

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