7 Profound Life Lessons From Thich Nhat Hanh That Will Soothe Your Soul

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It can be difficult to find peace and happiness sometimes. We spend so much time distracting ourselves from the present moment that we forget to enjoy life for what it really is.

Fortunately, sages and mystics over the years have recognized this inherent problem with the human mind and have come up with some amazing wisdom and techniques to counter it.

Vietnamese Buddhist Master Thich Nhat Hanh is one of those people. Born in 1926, he has a spent a lifetime working for world peace and helping those in need. He started a global movement for Engaged Buddhism, connecting traditional meditative practice to active social-engagement.

Below we go over some of his most potent lessons on living a fulfilling, happy and successful life.

1) Blaming serves no purpose. Understanding is the way to go

“When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you  don’t blame the lettuce. You look for reasons it is not  doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or  less sun. You never blame the lettuce. Yet if we have  problems with our friends or family, we blame the other person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like the lettuce. Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and argument. That is my experience. No blame, no reasoning, no argument, just understanding. If you understand, and you show that you understand, you can love, and the situation will change”

2) All emotions and experiences should be welcomed

“Feelings, whether of compassion or irritation, should be welcomed, recognized, and treated on an absolutely equal basis; because both are ourselves. The tangerine I am eating is me. The mustard greens I am planting are me. I plant with all my heart and mind. I clean this teapot with the kind of attention I would have were I giving the baby Buddha or Jesus a bath. Nothing should be treated more carefully than anything else. In mindfulness, compassion, irritation, mustard green plant, and teapot are all sacred.”

3) You can gain many lessons from the past, but still be grounded in the present moment

“To dwell in the here and now does not mean you never think about the past or responsibly plan for the future. The idea is simply not to allow yourself to get lost in regrets about the past or worries about the future. If you are firmly grounded in the present moment, the past can be an object of inquiry, the object of your mindfulness and concentration. You can attain many insights by looking into the past. But you are still grounded in the present moment.”

4) Real love is understanding the other

“We really have to understand the person we want to love. If our love is only a will to possess, it is not love. If we only think of ourselves, if we know only our own needs and ignore the needs of the other person, we cannot love. We must look deeply in order to see and understand the needs, aspirations, and suffering of the person we love. This is the ground of real love. You cannot resist loving another person when you really understand him or her.@

5) To be beautiful means to be yourself

“To be beautiful means to be yourself.You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself. When you are born a lotus flower, be a beautiful lotus flower, don’t try to be a magnolia flower. If you crave acceptance and recognition and try to change yourself to fit what other people want you to be, you will suffer all your life. True happiness and true power lie in understanding yourself, accepting yourself, having confidence in yourself.”

6) Don’t be scared of suffering in the world

“Do not avoid contact with suffering or close your eyes before suffering. Do not lose awareness of the existence of suffering in the life of the world. Find ways to be with those who are suffering by all means, including personal contact and visits, images, sounds. By such means, …awaken yourself and others to the reality of suffering in the world. If we get in touch with the suffering of the world, and are moved by that suffering, we may come forward to help the people who are suffering.”

7) The most significant mental habits we need to be aware of

“We have negative mental habits that come up over and over again. One of the most significant negative habits we should be aware of is that of constantly allowing our mind to run off into the future. Perhaps we got this from our parents. Carried away by our worries, we’re unable to live fully and happily in the present. Deep down, we believe we can’t really be happy just yet—that we still have a few more boxes to be checked off before we can really enjoy life. We speculate, dream, strategize, and plan for these “conditions of happiness” we want to have in the future; and we continually chase after that future, even while we sleep. We may have fears about the future because we don’t know how it’s going to turn out, and these worries and anxieties keep us from enjoying being here now.”

 

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