“There’s no time like the present!”
We’ve all heard that phrase at least once in our lifetime. But do any of us really know what that means?
The basic idea is that you can’t live in the past and enjoy the present. If you’re caught up in how you think things should be or how things were in the past, you’ll never be able to enjoy the things you have no in the present.
But that’s easier said than done, especially when things are going well for you and nothing is wrong. What about the times when everything isn’t fine and dandy? That’s a whole different problem to tackle.
When things aren’t going well, it’s normal to want to run away from it. If you’re stuck in a job you don’t want to be in or you’re on bad terms with a loved one or you’re not feeling well, it can be incredibly difficult to focus on the present moment. After all, you don’t even want to be in the present, so why would you want to stay there?
So here are five ways to help you deal with it.
1) In order to be comfortable, we need to accept the uncomfortable
No one likes being in uncomfortable situations. We’d all rather run in the opposite direction and never think of it again. But take a minute and ask yourself, “What would happen if I ran towards the discomfort instead of away from it?”
By allowing yourself to embrace that unpleasant feeling and accept it, you’ll find yourself feeling relieved. You are no longer fighting against yourself and your feelings, you’re embracing them. Once you do this you’ll feel a weight lifted off your shoulders.
2) The first step to change is awareness
It’s easy to get caught up in all the bad feelings you may be feeling at the time. Your mind is working overtime and you have a million thoughts running through your head. Don’t let yourself get too overwhelmed.
Take a moment once in awhile, especially when you’re in a difficult situation, to check in with yourself and recognize how you’re feeling. Then tell yourself that everything is okay and just like all moments, this one will also pass.
3) Anything we repress comes back to bite us 10 times harder
Showing your emotions can be difficult to do, especially in front of people we want to impress or love. We would all love to appear strong and put together at all moments in time, but that isn’t how human nature works.
We are vulnerable creatures with very real and intense emotions. When you’re feeling down or in a tough spot, don’t try to hide it and handle it yourself. Allow yourself to share those feelings with someone and remember that it’s okay to ask for help.
4) Overthinking is a huge cause of unhappiness
Overthinking a situation does nothing but make it worse. It can be exhausting staying up and thinking over every little detail of a hard situation. It’s okay to give yourself a break! Distract yourself once in awhile and let your mind relax. Go ahead and hit the reset button on your mind.
5) A battle we’ll never win is when we fight with ourselves
Your mind and your thoughts will always be with you. They are always there and present no matter what you do or say. When you push yourself beyond your limits, you’re putting pressure on your mind to work in overdrive. But eventually you’ll run out of steam and then what?
You’ll be faced with the fact that once in awhile it’s okay to rest. Don’t think about the things you should be doing or all that needs to get done. Put yourself first and just let yourself live in the present.