These 20 inconvenient truths about life are hard to admit but they’ll change your life when you do

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Every single one of us have our own struggles to deal with. We worry, we procrastinate, we don’t feel good enough, we wish we had more money.

But when you think about it, every single of these problems is self-created. They’re real, but they are only real because we’ve created them in our minds. We’ve attached ourselves to the way things should be, rather than accepting what is. The Buddha was right when he said desiring and attachment are the primary cause of unhappiness.

It’s all in our heads, but it doesn’t have to be this way. The key is to see life as it is, without all the ideals and fantasies you’ve created in your mind. Let go of all those stressful distractions and just accept and experience the moment.

Considering this, now would be an opportune time to remind of yourself of some hard truths about life that will benefit you in the long run.

1) We haven’t got that much control in life.

There are many factors outside yourself that you cannot control. There’s only one thing you can control, and that is how you respond. That’s where your power is.

2) Our expectations are what causes are suffering

Expectations usually lead to disappointment because nothing ever turns out the way you think it should. Try to let go of expectations and simply enjoy life for what it is.

3) Everything, even you, is imperfect.

If you wait until you’re ‘perfect’, you’ll never live the life you want to live. Imperfection is impossible and doesn’t exist.

4) Worrying is a complete waste of time.

No matter how much worrying you do, it will never change what’s going to happen. Focusing on doing more and worrying less.

5) The best lessons often come from hardships.

Unfortunately, sometimes you have to hit rock bottom to truly learn a valuable lesson. The good news is, it will be worth it in the long run.

6) We often confuse being busy with being productive.

It can be so easy to get bogged down in tasks that we forget what’s actually important. Focus on actions that are lead to positive change in the grand scheme of things.

7) Most of us don’t need more to be happy, we need less.

So many of us think that if we get more material objects that we will be happy in life. But this simply isn’t the case. The joy of obtaining material possessions doesn’t last long and before you know it, you’ll be desiring other material objects.

8) As a society, we’re way too focused on outer beauty.

Ask yourself this, if the whole world went blind, how many people would see your inner beauty? Focus within. Be beautiful on the inside too.

9) Most arguments we have are pointless.

When has a heated argument ever lead to something beneficial? It’s much better to have a discussion where you focus on learning from each other.

10) It’s easier to hold onto the way things are than to learn and grow.

Letting go and moving forward means coming to the realization that some things are a part of your history, but not a part of your destiny.

11) Everyone will die.

This may sound callous and harsh but it is true. Life can only be life if there is something to compare it to. We are living organisms that have a certain time to live. Many people pretend it is not true and are not appreciative of the time they have with others. By acknowledging that we will all die, we can take a big picture perspective and avoid small fights and pride and in turn have better relationships.

12) You give your own life meaning.

It is a traditional Buddhist perspective that our own thoughts and actions create the world that we live in. In this thinking, it is clear that the things you do and think create your reality. You give meaning to the things you do. Because of this, you don’t need to compare yourself to others or focus on what it means for others to be successful. You give your own actions meaning.

13) There is no such thing as a perfect partner.

Hollywood fantasies and fairy tales have got it all wrong. There is no such thing as a perfect person who will appear in our lives and do everything right. By having these expectations of others we are only hurting ourselves and preventing real meaningful connections and growth from happening. A good partner who is willing to work on the relationship is the real catch.

14) Life isn’t that serious.

Life is like a game, you do things for experience, you can level up after you play certain levels or achieve certain things, and it always ends. By worrying and trying to stay within limitations that were given to you, not made by you, you’re not really living. Make your own rules, don’t be afraid to try something new, and enjoy yourself!

15) Everything will come to an end.

Nothing lasts forever. Not relationships, not skin plumpness, not relationships, and not careers. It’s the fact that things are temporary that gives life meaning and real appreciation.

Since we know that all things will end, we know that it’s important to enjoy the little things before they end. When things become boring or commonplace it’s the best time to look with a new perspective or take a different route. The world is full of magic if you can just open your mind to it.

17) Be realistic.

It’s great to have big goals but settling for nothing less than perfect will only cause you heartburn and anxiety. Accept that you have limitations and celebrate the small victories and achievements.

18) Make a change or don’t complain.

We all have complaints about things, from the way our coffee was prepared to the way the president runs the country. However, if you can’t find a way to make something better, don’t complain about it. Upon further reflection you may find that your way isn’t really that much better.

19) The best lessons often come from hardships.

Unfortunately, sometimes you have to hit rock bottom to truly learn a valuable lesson. The good news is, it will be worth it in the long run.

20) Most of us don’t need more to be happy, we need less.

So many of us think that if we get more material objects that we will be happy in life. But this simply isn’t the case. The joy of obtaining material possessions doesn’t last long and before you know it, you’ll be desiring other material objects.

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